Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 36

Today we continue the subject of lost motivation 🔽. If the reason of your motivation dropping is a change of circumstances, some difficult situation, be flexible with it! 😉
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Life often surprises us and it is possible that the reality is different than when you’ve set your goal and formed a plan of action 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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That’s why when reality brings you new challenges grab a pen and update your plan! ✒
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Turn your favourite music on 🎶, make yourself a nice cup of tea ☕ and do today’s task: prepare a new plan (remember our SMART method? 🤔 Go back to step 6), new implementation intentions (step 10) and process visualisation (step 11).
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Instead of dropping  everything and quiting be flexible and adjust your plan to new reality 😉
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Your new plan:
S – Specific – what exactly do you want to accomplish? 🤩
M – Measurable – how will you know you’ve achieved your goal? 🤔
A – Achievable/Atractive – why is this goal important to you? 🧐
R – Realistic – are you able to reach it? 😅
T – Time Bound – by when will you reach it? 🕰
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Write down your implementation intentions.
And remember, something done is better than something perfect (but in your head) 😉!
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Next week: Lost motivation – an excercise
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

I’ll be happy when…

„I’ll be happy when…”
Is that thought stuck with you? 😏 Do you keep thinking that you’ll be happy when something happens? 😬 Or when you’ll accomplish something? 🤔
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I used to think that way. I kept saying to myself „I’ll be happy when I lose weight” 💪, „I’ll be happy when I publish my book” 📕, „I’ll be happy when I get married 👰”.
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And you know what? It doesn’t work that way 🤷🏼‍♀️
Happiness isn’t some kind of a prize 🏆 that comes when you do what you have to do 🙄. You can lose weight, get married and reach all your dreams and still won’t be happy 😞. It’s about your mindset ⚠️
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If you keep thinking „I’ll be happy when…” this happiness will always be somewhere in the future ➡️, it will be always ahead of you and you’ll never catch up 😧.
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You need to find a way to be happy NOW ⚠️. Even when you haven’t achieved your goal, even if you’re e.g. losing weight and got still some kgs to lose 😅, be happy on your way to success 🔜.
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What if you’ll never get what you want (sorry to break it to you but it might happen)? 🤔 What if you keep saying to yourself „I’ll be happy when…” and the ‘when’ never comes and you’ll just lose weeks, months or years waiting for that happiness 😱?
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It’s not something that will come to you. It’s not like you’ll wake up one day after reaching your goal and think „wow, I’m happy now” 😉. You need to change your mindset ⚠️
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Start thinking and focusing on HERE & NOW ⬇️. Start seeing, like actually seeing 👀, what you have, what you’ve done ☺.
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Start being happy about the little things 😉. Instead of thinking „I’ll be happy when I reach my goal” be happy that you’ve started working on that goal 🤗, be happy with every step you take to reach it, be happy about every little obstacle you’ve defeated 💪.
Be happy NOW ⚠️
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Tell me, are you happy? 🤗

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: 10 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

1. Invest in yourself 🤗
Spend 15-30min in the morning or evening reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself
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2. Find the truth and exception when an inner or outer critic attacks 😏
Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you 🤷🏼‍♀️ People around you may attack you to serve one of their own needs 🙄
If this happens, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this? 🤔
E.g. if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can find answers that tell you that it isn’t really true 😊
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3. Unstress tonight 🧖‍♀️
Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out 💪
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4. Take just 2min in the morning or evening to appreciate yourself 🤗
Sit down & ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself? 🤔
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5. Mediocre day? Take 1 small step forward towards something positive 🤗
If your day feels mediocre take 1 small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day & week
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6. Be kinder towards others ❤
The way you think about & treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself 😉
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7. If you stumble, be your own best friend 😊
Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? 🤔
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8. Take a laugh-break 😂
Take 5-10 min.
Watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom you know makes you laugh
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9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change 😉
Think about what you really want in the rest of your life.
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10. Simply remind yourself of why it is smart to be kind to yourself 🤗
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs 😉

Source: https://www.positivityblog.com/

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 35

Next few steps we’re gonna work on what to do when your motivation drops 🤷🏼‍♀️
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There can be plenty various reasons of losing motivation: difficult time, stressful time, lack of support,  health problems, being tired…😔
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To find motivation again think what could be the reason of its weakening 🤔
Try answering those questions:
➡️ What might be the reason of losing your motivation? 🧐
➡️ What usually helped you in similar situations in the past? 🤔
➡️ In what kind of situations you tend to think „I don’t feel like it” and you feel you’re losing motivation? 😞
➡️ Does losing motivation appear in certain time of a day, e.g. in the evening or is it present all the time? 🤔
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If it’s only in some parts of the day maybe you’re experiencing weakened strongwill which is natural 🙂. However if you’re lacking motivation all the time the reason of it might be deeper and more serious ⚠️.
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Don’t worry, we’ll try to find it in next few steps 🤗. And remember: the fact that you see your lack of motivation and that you want to better understand it is a great success already and not a reason to be sad or angry with yourself! 👍 Be good to yourself 🙏

Next week: Manage your plan
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: 12 Self-Care Tips for Busy People

1. Establish a morning self-care routine ☺
“I’ve started a regimen of meditation every morning. By making time for myself each morning, I get ahead of the stress and am ready to get to work”
—Stanley Meytin
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2. Reward yourself 🎖
“Afford yourself a personal reward from time to time, especially after you’ve done a great job on a tough project”
—Andrew Schrage
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3. Speak with a therapist 💬
“I’ve learned to forgive myself for days where I don’t have the drive to do anything. Productivity comes and goes, and it’s all right.”
—Diego Orjuela
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4. Schedule days off 🤗
“Adding a day off to my calendar—where I don’t let myself schedule any work—has made a major difference for me”
—Thursday Bram
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5. Automate what you can 💻
“Look for ways you can automate more tasks to make more time for the things that matter”
—Syed Balkhi 
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6. Get plenty of sleep 😴
“I like to sleep at least 8h every night. I don’t set an alarm unless I absolutely have to.”
—Jennifer A Barnes
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7. Reflect on 3 best things that happened today 🤗
“In the evenings I write down 3 best things that happened that day. This puts me in a state of appreciation and gratitude”
—Krish Chopra 
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8. Use positive language and self-talk 💬
“One of the most important lessons I have learned is how to speak to myself and others in the positive. Avoid any negative language”
—Brian Greenberg
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9. Make time for family and friends 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧
“Go out to dinner and a movie or invite some guests over for game night. You’ll get that unconditional support that you need for a good boost in your mood”
—Blair Williams 
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10. Do something creative 🎨
“When you’re starting to feel burned out at work, take the time to do something creative.”
—Chris Christoff
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11. Crush simple tasks first 😉
“One of the biggest problems is simply getting started. Make sure to complete a few simple tasks at the beginning of each day to jumpstart productivity”
—Ryan Bradley
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12. Pace yourself and set realistic goals 👍
“Remember, you can’t do everything at once. Set realistic goals. Otherwise, you will end up burning out”
—Peter Boyd
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Source: www.success.com

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 34

Let’s continue our talk about procrastination so constant postponing for later 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Last week I’ve mentioned that fear of failure might be one of the reasons of procrastination. Today couple words on another possible reason of constant postponing things for later.
You might be surprised but it is…fear of success! 😳
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Yes, sometimes subconsiously you’re afraid of success 😞. Why? You can be scared of the reaction of people around you (e.g. because of jealousy 🙄) or you can be afraid of even bigger pressure that you will not fulfill 🤯 (I’m sure you’ve heard of writers who after a big success of their first book had an enormous difficulty to write another)
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How to remedy it? The awarness and naming the fear of success itself might be very helpful 👍.
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Try answering those questions:
➡️ What are you afraid of in possible success?
➡️ Imagine that you’ve reached your goal. What will happen then?
➡️ Can you, apart from obvious benefits, suffer losses too? If yes, what would that be?
➡️ Is your fear justified?
➡️ Who could you talk to about your fears?
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If you can, ask somebody close to you for support, talk to somebody 💬 who is more objective and can look at your fears and doubts from another perspective 😉
I’m all ears if you want to talk! 😊
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Next week: Use some motivation techniques that you know
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive! · Self-evolving

Live a colorful life! ❤💜💙💚💛🧡

Paint it the way you want! 🎨🤗
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In order to make your life colorful you need to break your routine 😉 Being organized and having everything planned is cool and you know I am all for it but you need to get crazy sometimes too! 😜
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Be spontaneous! Drop that mop on a Saturday and instead of spending whole day cleaning your house call your friends and go bowling 🎳, to an aquapark 🏄‍♂️ or even for a roadtrip if possible! 🚙
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Go to your favourite restaurant but skip you favourite meals and order something new 🤩! You won’t get to know new tastes and maybe even find you new favourite dish if you won’t be trying new things! 😉
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And it works same way in life! Do something new! Take up a new hobby! 🤹‍♂️ Start some new course! 📚 Join some association and meet new people! 👥
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Best memories are made when you leave your comfort zone and do something new, even if it’s scary, believe me! ☺

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Homemade Deodorant with Shea Butter

Deodorant can contain a lot of harmful chemicals 😏. Save time and money by making this natural homemade deodorant with coconut oil, baking soda & oils 🤗
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Prep Time 20 minutes
Author Katie Wells

Ingredients
2 TBSP shea butter
3 TBSP coconut oil
3 TBSP baking soda
2 TBSP arrowroot powder (or organic cornstarch, optional)
essential oils (optional)
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Instructions

🔸️ Place the shea butter and coconut oil in a quart size mason jar 🍯
🔸️ Place the mason jar in a small saucepan of water and heat over low heat until the shea butter and coconut oil have just melted.
🔸️Remove from heat and add the baking soda and arrowroot if using.
🔸️Mix well.
🔸️Add the essential oils if using, and pour into a glass container for storage. It does not need to be stored in the fridge.
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If you prefer, you can let it cool and pour it into an old deodorant stick for easier use, though it may melt in the summer 😉

Will you try it out? ☺

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 33

This and next week you’ll look at postponing things for later closer. Why does it happen to you? How can you prevent that? 🤔
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One of the reasons of procrastinating is FEAR OF FAILURE 😳. It often comes with excessive perfectionism but it might have other sources too.
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This fear can paralyze you to this extend that when you are facing some task you keep postponing it for later and later 🙄 Do you know the feeling? I sure do. And in the end there’s so little time that you explain failure by lack of time 🙄
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How to prevent it? 🤔
1. If it’s perfectionism  that stands in the way and is a reason of fear and procrastination keep repeating this: „Something that is done is better than something perfect”! 🤗 If you have another favourite way of reminding yourself that it is better to do something  not perfect rather than not do it at all – use it! 😊
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2. Divide the task into smaller steps. This might reduce the fear of ton of work that is awaiting you. Reward yourself for each step that  you’ve accomplished 🎖

Now write down the steps of your task or goal.

Does it help?
 
Next week: Fear of success
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Olive oil make-up remover

Oil cleansing can be a total game changer for just about any skin type and condition 😉. Although it may seem counterintuitive to wash your face with oil, it’s actually brilliant. An oil cleanser dissolves excess oils on your skin, as well as makeup and sunblock—without any of the surfactants, harsh ingredients, or necessary preservatives in foaming cleansers. This means that your face gets a super-deep clean, without any “stripping,” or disruption of the skin’s natural microbiome 🤗
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After switching to oil cleansing you’ll notice clearer, softer & brighter skin 🤩
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If you’re wearing heavier makeup, start by removing that. This regular oil-cleansing routine is enough to remove light makeup, though 😊
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Step 1
Rinse face with warm water, then pat dry.
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Step 2
Dispense a nickel- to quarter-size amount of oil into palm, spread over both hands, and apply to full face and neck ☺
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Step 3
Massage! Take a full minute to work the oil into your skin. This is an opportunity to give your face some love, dissolve some of the tension of the day, and tend to the deeper layers of your skin by increasing circulation of blood and lymph, as you deep clean your pores 😍
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Step 4
Warm washcloth removal. This step is key to oil cleansing working for you. Wring out your washcloth, drape it over your full face, and press the warmth into the skin. Next, remove all of the oil with the washcloth. This may require multiple passes. Be thorough but not rough.
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What kind of oil best to use?
The most common kitchen-cabinet recipe usually includes a mixture of castor oil and extra-virgin olive oil. A standard one-to-one ratio is a good starting point, but you can adjust as needed depending on your skin type 😊
🔸️Normal Skin: 1:1 ratio of castor oil to extra-virgin olive oil
🔸️Oily Skin: 3:1 ratio of castor oil to extra-virgin olive oil
🔸️Dry Skin: 1:3 ratio of castor oil to extra-virgin olive oil

Source: www.mindbodygreen.com