Being cool

What does being ‘cool’ mean to you?
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It is always a big problem in high schools, while growing up. You HAVE TO be cool or you’ll be pushed away. I had a problem with that when I was a teenager. Always trying to be cool, to hang out with cool kids. To be popular. Does it ring a bell? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I find it disturbing and unhealthy that young people are trying so hard to fit in nowadays. That they have to act cool, wear expensive clothes and attend all parties to be cool or they’ll be bullied if they don’t.
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What’s up with that?! Who defines what it means to be cool? Show me a definition of the word „cool”.
Those are some stupid rules defined by bullies and popular kids that make other, weaker kids copy them, adore them and do anything what they say. This is not right! ⚠️
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But I feel like it’s not only among teenagers. There is still this unhealthy rivalry among adults too. We all need to attend important events and can’t miss big parties, we need to wear PRADA, Gucci or another expensive brand, we all drink expensive wines and talk about our expensive cars.
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Does it have to be this way? Is it being cool to be rich? Seems like it these days. We are all trying to impress others with what we have, what we wear and what we drive. For me those are least important values. I don’t have a car, I don’t have any fancy wardrobe and I would never spend whole salary on an expensive bag or Jimmy Choo shoes. If others do want it all that is perfectly fine but should they judge others through the perspecive of owning those things? Is somebody worse if she doesn’t have Dolce Gabbana bag? Or maybe she simply doesn’t need it, doesn’t want it? Does it make her not cool? 😐
For me cool is being your true self and not pretending to be someone else just to impress others. 😎
This is cool – just being you.
You are cool. 😘