Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Lavender sugar scrub

Depending on what essential oils you have on hand, it can be any scent. Eucalyptus, orange, rosemary 😍
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Ingredients:
🔸️ grapeseed oil 🍇
🔸️sugar 🍚
🔸️essential oil 👃
🔸️jar/container
🔸️fresh lavender for wrapping
🔸️twine
🔸️label
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Good ratio is 3:1, so depending on the size jar you are using you could use 1 cup sugar to 1/3 cup oil, 3 cups sugar to 1 cup oil.
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➡️ 1. Go ahead and mix your oil and sugar in a bowl together, and stir thoroughly.
➡️ 2.Once it becomes a slushy consistency, add your drops of essential oil. For a small container best to use 1 cup sugar, 1/3 cup oil, and about 8-10 drops of essential oil. You’ll know it’s the right amount when you mix it through and you can smell the fragrance nice and strong 😍
➡️ 3. Next take your fresh lavender and wrap twine around the bottom and then secure with a bow. You can label the top as well if you choose 🤗

Source: http://www.mylifeatplaytime.com

Motivation · Self-evolving

How to be productive

There are plenty different tips on how to be productive, some will work on you and some won’t so you need to test them all and see what’s effective on you! 😊
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This is what works for me
🔸️ Planning
➡️ First of all when I set my goal I visualise me succeeding to be even more pumped/motivated 🤩
➡️ I write down a list of steps I need to take to reach my goal. The more you break your goal into smaller steps the better.
➡️ I open my calendar and assign each step to some date. 1 step a day (or even a week if those are bigger steps) should be enough.
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Once I have my goal divided into smaller steps and each step planned for a specific date/period of time I know what and when I have to do 🤓. Focus on that step only, don’t think what comes next.
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🔸️Taking the steps
I work on my projects/goals after my regular work so those are my advices for people who have goals outside their work life/career (or want to make those goals their new career 😉)
➡️ Don’t take long breaks and don’t get too comfortable, you’ll lose whole will to work 😅
The hardest part is to start so once I finish regular job, I eat dinner and go straight to my projects. („I’ll rest, see 1 episode of my favourite show and I’ll get to work” almost never works 😅). I try to stay „pumped” after work to do more and more.
➡️ If you do need a break between work and projects go for a walk or, even better, workout! Physical activity will boost your mind and release endorphins so you’ll feel better and will be pumped to work! 😁
➡️ Tick off every little thing you’ve done from your ‘TO DO’ list. Even if it’s a really small thing that took you 1 minute – tick it off ✔ the more ticks you’ll get the better you’ll feel
➡️ If you haven’t managed to do everything from your ‘TO DO’ list just open your calendar, assign a new date for the steps that you’ve got left 📅
➡️ Once again go throught the list of things you did manage to do, you’ll see how productive you’ve been! 🤗
➡️ Have a well-deserved rest 😊

Be positive! · Self-evolving · Self-Love

Healthy balance

You know what’s one of my main rules in life? Healthy balance about EVERYTHING 😉
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We live in crazy times where everybody is in a rush, everybody wants to be the best at something 😬. Some people risk it all to get what they want. Is it worth it though? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I’ve heard some people say that in order to be successful you need to totally limit your time off and focus on work 😶. That you need to drop Netflix, drop the time with your loved ones and spend every minute of your day self-evolving 😏 That instead of watching a tv show on Netflix in the evening you should focus on broadening your skills, your knowledge and read a book 📖
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I understand that in order to succeed you need to work hard and I totally agree with that 👍 I highly encourage everybody to self-evolve, to learn new skills… sure, that too ☝️. But to limit your time off? 😕 To never watch Netflix (apart from the fact that you can always learn something from a tv show/movie/documentary 🙄)? To never have propper leisure time? 😒
Na-ah 👎
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There needs to be balance⚖. Not only you NEED TO REST regularly in order to rebuild your energy to work, to get new ideas 🤩, to stay fresh 🙂 but if you work your ass off and never rest you’ll lose your motivation, lose your will to work and it will all become a torture for you and in the end when you succeed it won’t bring you any joy 😏
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Another example are people who want to lose weight or muscle up and they work out every day or even twice a day 🙄. That ain’t the way to do it 🚫. Muscles grow on your rest days! You need at least 1 day break from working out a week for the body to recharge and for your muscles to grow.
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You should make sure that there’s heathy balance ⚖ in every part of your life:
Between work 💻 & rest 🎬
Between working out 💪& regeneration 🧖‍♀️
Between your career 👩‍💻 & private life 💃
Between the time you’ve got for others 👥 and time you’ve got for yourself 🧘🏼‍♀️
Between physical development 💪 and mental development 🧠
Between caring about what’s important ⚠️ and ignoring what’s not 🚫
Healthy balance is the key, believe me 😉

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 38

Apart from a little „reminder” of your dream, that we talked about last week, in a moment of crisis a Benefit Card will help you a lot! 😊
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What is it? Benefit Card is just a list of all your reasons why you want to reach your goal 🤩.
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If you’re wondering why bother writing them down ✒ and you think „I remember them all easily 🙄” I’ll surprise you: in moments of lost motivation it is easy to forget why you want to reach your goal that much 😉. When there is a temptation in eyesight (and within reach of a hand 😅), you’re feeling stressed, tired and/or you’re in a bad mood, believe me, those reasons suddenly fly away and it is so hard to remember those 😅.
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In those kind of situations Benefit Card might come very useful! 👍 Carry it with you everday and read it in any moment of weakness to remind yourself why you want to pursue following your dream 😉.
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It is best to read Benefit Card everyday, even when you don’t feel the drop of motivation 😎
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And here’s task for today: Create your Benefit Card and find a way to have it always with you (maybe it could be a note in your phone 📲, a piece of paper in your wallet etc 📄). Write down ALL the reasons that come to your mind, those small ones and big ones, important ones and less important ones 😁
Good luck!
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Next week: Use your support
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 37

Today we continue the subject of lost motivation 😶. I have a task for you today composed of 2 parts 😁
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Part 1 – Check if you’re not trapped in one of the mind traps 🤯: „everything or nothing” thinking, excessive pessimism or exaggeration (Remember? We talked about it in step 15).
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If you are, create a list of counter-arguments that will help you look at reality without falling into those mind traps 😊
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Part 2 – Come back to the source of your „I want” power 💪, to your motivation. Find a moment to yourself, sit down and answer those questions:
➡️What encouraged you to set this goal?
➡️ What will happen when you reach it?
➡️ What will you gain? What do you want most?
➡️ What will happen when you don’t reach it? What will you lose?
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If you want, find something that reminds you of important reasons why you started 😊. It can be notes, picture of someone who succeeded and inspired you 🤩, some symbol of your motivation. If you don’t have it, create a reminder on your phone that will help you remember those reasons 📱. It can be a picture/note on a screensaver, a symbolic bracelet, a song…The choice is yours! 🤗
 
Next week: Create a benefit card
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Homemade Face Lotion 🧖‍♀️

What you will Need:
🔸️3 1/2 Tablespoon organic Shea butter
🔸️2 Tablespoons Jojoba oil
🔸️3 Tablespoons of Aloe Leaf Juice
🔸️1 Teaspoon vitamin E oil
🔸️4 drops lavender essential oil of choice
🔸️A pint sized mason jar
🔸️A small glass jar to store your lotion
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Instructions:
➡️Add the Shea butter and Jojoba oil to a pint sized mason jar 
➡️Place a saucepan on the stove and add a cup of water to it-turn on the heat to medium high
➡️Place the mason jar in the saucepan and stir-slowly melting the Shea butter with the jojoba oil.
➡️Once the Shea butter and jojoba oil is completely melted add the aloe juice to the mason jar-(the aloe should be luke warm)
➡️With a hand held immersion blender or food processor -whip the product for at least 5 minutes
➡️Add in your essential oil and pour into a small jar
➡️Store you face lotion in a sealed glass far and use within 3 months
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* This WILL NOT work if you swap out the jojoba oil for another type of oil. Jojoba is actually a wax and it is what helps emulsify the aloe water into the rest of the ingredients. Make sure you whip the product well so that the liquid completely blends into jojoba and shea butter.

Will you try it out? 😊

Source: https://www.cocoswell.com/

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 36

Today we continue the subject of lost motivation 🔽. If the reason of your motivation dropping is a change of circumstances, some difficult situation, be flexible with it! 😉
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Life often surprises us and it is possible that the reality is different than when you’ve set your goal and formed a plan of action 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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That’s why when reality brings you new challenges grab a pen and update your plan! ✒
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Turn your favourite music on 🎶, make yourself a nice cup of tea ☕ and do today’s task: prepare a new plan (remember our SMART method? 🤔 Go back to step 6), new implementation intentions (step 10) and process visualisation (step 11).
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Instead of dropping  everything and quiting be flexible and adjust your plan to new reality 😉
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Your new plan:
S – Specific – what exactly do you want to accomplish? 🤩
M – Measurable – how will you know you’ve achieved your goal? 🤔
A – Achievable/Atractive – why is this goal important to you? 🧐
R – Realistic – are you able to reach it? 😅
T – Time Bound – by when will you reach it? 🕰
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Write down your implementation intentions.
And remember, something done is better than something perfect (but in your head) 😉!
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Next week: Lost motivation – an excercise
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

I’ll be happy when…

„I’ll be happy when…”
Is that thought stuck with you? 😏 Do you keep thinking that you’ll be happy when something happens? 😬 Or when you’ll accomplish something? 🤔
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I used to think that way. I kept saying to myself „I’ll be happy when I lose weight” 💪, „I’ll be happy when I publish my book” 📕, „I’ll be happy when I get married 👰”.
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And you know what? It doesn’t work that way 🤷🏼‍♀️
Happiness isn’t some kind of a prize 🏆 that comes when you do what you have to do 🙄. You can lose weight, get married and reach all your dreams and still won’t be happy 😞. It’s about your mindset ⚠️
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If you keep thinking „I’ll be happy when…” this happiness will always be somewhere in the future ➡️, it will be always ahead of you and you’ll never catch up 😧.
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You need to find a way to be happy NOW ⚠️. Even when you haven’t achieved your goal, even if you’re e.g. losing weight and got still some kgs to lose 😅, be happy on your way to success 🔜.
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What if you’ll never get what you want (sorry to break it to you but it might happen)? 🤔 What if you keep saying to yourself „I’ll be happy when…” and the ‘when’ never comes and you’ll just lose weeks, months or years waiting for that happiness 😱?
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It’s not something that will come to you. It’s not like you’ll wake up one day after reaching your goal and think „wow, I’m happy now” 😉. You need to change your mindset ⚠️
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Start thinking and focusing on HERE & NOW ⬇️. Start seeing, like actually seeing 👀, what you have, what you’ve done ☺.
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Start being happy about the little things 😉. Instead of thinking „I’ll be happy when I reach my goal” be happy that you’ve started working on that goal 🤗, be happy with every step you take to reach it, be happy about every little obstacle you’ve defeated 💪.
Be happy NOW ⚠️
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Tell me, are you happy? 🤗

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: 10 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

1. Invest in yourself 🤗
Spend 15-30min in the morning or evening reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself
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2. Find the truth and exception when an inner or outer critic attacks 😏
Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you 🤷🏼‍♀️ People around you may attack you to serve one of their own needs 🙄
If this happens, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this? 🤔
E.g. if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can find answers that tell you that it isn’t really true 😊
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3. Unstress tonight 🧖‍♀️
Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out 💪
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4. Take just 2min in the morning or evening to appreciate yourself 🤗
Sit down & ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself? 🤔
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5. Mediocre day? Take 1 small step forward towards something positive 🤗
If your day feels mediocre take 1 small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day & week
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6. Be kinder towards others ❤
The way you think about & treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself 😉
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7. If you stumble, be your own best friend 😊
Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? 🤔
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8. Take a laugh-break 😂
Take 5-10 min.
Watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom you know makes you laugh
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9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change 😉
Think about what you really want in the rest of your life.
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10. Simply remind yourself of why it is smart to be kind to yourself 🤗
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs 😉

Source: https://www.positivityblog.com/

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 35

Next few steps we’re gonna work on what to do when your motivation drops 🤷🏼‍♀️
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There can be plenty various reasons of losing motivation: difficult time, stressful time, lack of support,  health problems, being tired…😔
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To find motivation again think what could be the reason of its weakening 🤔
Try answering those questions:
➡️ What might be the reason of losing your motivation? 🧐
➡️ What usually helped you in similar situations in the past? 🤔
➡️ In what kind of situations you tend to think „I don’t feel like it” and you feel you’re losing motivation? 😞
➡️ Does losing motivation appear in certain time of a day, e.g. in the evening or is it present all the time? 🤔
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If it’s only in some parts of the day maybe you’re experiencing weakened strongwill which is natural 🙂. However if you’re lacking motivation all the time the reason of it might be deeper and more serious ⚠️.
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Don’t worry, we’ll try to find it in next few steps 🤗. And remember: the fact that you see your lack of motivation and that you want to better understand it is a great success already and not a reason to be sad or angry with yourself! 👍 Be good to yourself 🙏

Next week: Manage your plan
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”