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SELF LOVE: Stay home

Turn tv off, turn social media off (apart from @smileysociety of course 😉😂), stop listening to news and just relax.
What’s happening out there, is happening out there 🤷🏼‍♀️ and as it doesn’t concern you as long as you are at home 🏡.
Look at it as extra time at home to read a book you’ve always wanted to read, to watch a movie or tv shows everybody is telling you about 🎬, to take up some new hobby like decoupage or playing guitar 🎸, do yoga 🧘🏼‍♀️, do home fitness 💪 or do coloring like me 😁
I find it sooo relaxing 😍
What do you do these days?

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 10

— Step 10
Implementation intention meaning how to implement your plan into life.
Last week you created a plan of action based on your stenghts 💪 Today we’re gonna add your weakneses and obstacles that you may come upon to it. To make it all work you’re gonna need implementation intention but don’t worry, it’s a simple mechanism that is very effective!
How does it work? Imagine  possible future scenarios that can be obstacles to reaching your goal and then find a solution for it. Later create (and write down!) a sentence: „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” 😊
Example: „If i’ll be eating out I’m gonna choose healthy and fit dish, for example a salad” 🥦. „If I won’t want to workout I’ll ask my close ones for support and cheering” 💪. „When I’ll be doing shopping I’ll go to a store with a prepared ‘to buy’ list” 🗒
Creating  scenarios like this in your head is effective because it creates a connection between a situation/obstacle and your reaction to it. ⚠️ If a situation like this happens you won’t have to wonder what to do! You’ll work automatically because you’ve already excercised that scenario in your head 😉
Making decisions (especially pushing temptations away 😅) requires a lot of energy from you and when you’re in a hurry or hungry you choose what’s easiest but not what’s best 🤔. You know what I’m talking about? Implementation intention is for those kind of situations!
So let’s get to work! Try to think of as many situations in which you let go and lose your motivation. Find best reactions to them and write them down in „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” scheme 😊
Next week: Process visualisation

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

📸 pic taken in Malta in 2016


SELF-LOVE: Read good book

Turn off your tv.
Turn off your radio.
Put your phone down and have a moment to yourself ❤
Calm down.
Forget for a moment about the world out there, just let it be.
Get a blanket, make yourself some nice tea, light some nice candles, put on some calm relaxing music and soak into a good book.
This is your time.
I personally recommend “The Organized Mind” by Daniel Levitin.
It will show you how to organize your thoughts, how to deal with stress and get rid of chaos in your head 🤯

Be positive!

Coronavirus era

Nature has had enough and said STOP. It revolted and made us all STOP too 🚫
You know how we’ve been all running through life? Never having enough time for our inner peace, for our families, for simple things such as reading or doing puzzles?
Now it’s the time 🕛
Nature made us stop. It made us all stay at home and appreciate what we have 🙏. This is the time to rebuild your relationships, to go into your inner self and work on your mindset, to set hectic life aside and focus on what’s most important – health and family. 🙏
It has been around 2 months that we’re fighting with this damn coronavirus but there already has been an effect on the nature! 🌱
China’s air is clean again as plenty people stayed home and stopped driving their cars!
Water in Venice’s canals is getting clearer and clearer and I hear you can actually see fish swimming there now and even swans returned! 🐟
Sardinia coast got so clean and calm that doplhins came back to the area where people scared them away some time ago! 🐬
We need to be patient and it will all come back to normality soon.
But what is also beautiful about those time is solidarity. The amount of help that we all give each other is amazing ❤ We are all in this together afterall.
Italians singing on balonies made my heart mealt. China coming to Europe to help us all and share what they already learned about this virus made my heart grow ❤
Please let this help and being a community of one not end once the virus goes away. Let’s keep helping each other 🙏
So let’s all keep doing what we’re doing. If you want to help and don’t know how find out if you have any hospitals near you and ask what doctors need, they often need food, towels or simple things as paper and pens. Let’s help them! They are our heroes 💪
You could also ask your elder neighbours or people who are simply scared to enter a supermarket if they need anything and do grocery shopping for them.
But if you can – stay home. That’s the best what you can do now 😉
Love! 😘 📸 pic taken in Italy in 2017

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 9

Creating plan based on your strenghts
In those difficult times we all need a bit of a break for your mind 🤯 Just sit down, relax and start creating your plan of action!
You’ve been preparing it for the last 8 steps so I hope this will be easy and pleasant for you 😉
I encourage you to write down how do you want to realize your goal (set in SMART method) with help of your strenghts from step 7 💪
* What are you good at?
Example: I’m reliable. I always keep my promises.
Submission to the action plan: „I’ll make a pact with another person to workout togetherm then it’ll be easier for me to realise my training plan as I will want to be reliable to the other person”
* What are you effective at? What kind of situations you feel biggest impact on?
Example: I’m very organised
Submission to the action plan: „I’ll organize a plan for a day/week this way so I’d have time for activities related to the goal – training, cooking, spending time with family, writing CV etc.”
That’s my way 🙋🏼‍♀️
* If you’ve managed to establish who you can count on in your surroundings when it comes to realising your goal, somebody who has the knowledge and experience, turn to that person for an advice. Use the hints you get from him/her to make or change your plan. Be flexible and open to any hints you get. You know yourself best! How can you use somebody’s knowledge and experience?
*Your life situation e.g. if your financial situation lets you buy training programs or a career consultation. Your family situation is important here too e.g. if you have small children maybe apart from husband your family or friends can help you find time to realise your goal? How will you use your life situation in your plan?
I hope those examples showed you the essence of  today’s task – plan of action based on your strenghts. If you’ll get some comments while preparing this plan like what is difficult for you, what hardly ever works write them down, we’ll get back to them.
Next week: How to use your weaknesses!

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow” 📸 pic taken in China in 2012 (yes, that’s me 😅)