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Let’s support each other

Have you ever told somebody about your goals/dreams/a project you had started working on and heard laughter or some unpleasant response 😞? „You’re not gonna make it!”, „This is just stupid”, „Why would you wanna do that?”.
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Have you ever had a new dream or started working on some new goal and decided to keep it to yourself because you were scared of others’ reaction 🤷🏼‍♀️?
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Have you just stopped telling your close ones about your dreams or your accomplishments because you don’t feel like you have their support and nothing ever impresses them 💔?
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I know I have. I have 1 big project that I’m working on that my family doesn’t know about and 1 secret project that I haven’t told ANYONE about 🤐
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And you know what? This is not how it’s supposed to work 👎.
We should all SUPPORT each other, we should all BELIEVE in others and we should ALWAYS be happy for others’ successes and let them know that they did a good job/congratulate them 👏.
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We REALLY need to learn to be happy for others and to support them. Even if a friend of yours tells you about most obscure, to you 😉, dream, something that he/she wants sooo bad and works hard for it, even if it is totally uninteresting to you and you wouldn’t want a thing like that – support your friend, if it makes her/him happy be happy to her/him 🙏.
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And if you’re not supporting somebody because deep deep down inside you are jealous (come on, admit it 😉) of somebody’s accomplishmets be patient and learn to be happy for others. Your time will come too 🤩. It’s not a race where only 1 gets a reward. If somebody succeeded before you it doesn’t mean that you cannot succeed too! 🎖
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Let’s all help each other, support each other and lets openly talk about our dreams 💬
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So  tell me, what are you dreams? What have you been recently working on?
Whatever it is I BELIEVE IN YOU!! 🤗

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Quarantine sum up

So tell me – how you’ve been lately? 🤗
I gotta say that those last 3 months has been really productive to me and I am satisfied with what I’ve managed to do. Apart from doing 200-300% norm at work I managed to work a lot on my personal projects/dreams too 😊.
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Obviously I’ve spent looooads of time doing stuff for @smileysociety and for you here 😉 – I’ve been posting regularly, working on special stories for you, created Positive Morning Posts 🙂 with good news and Chill Evening Sessions 🌠 to make you feel better during those times, I’ve made #SmileyTravelling Challenge for you on my ig so we wouldn’t miss travelling that much and plenty more.
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Even though working on my blog  here took me 60-70% of my free time I used the rest of it to get into shape 💪and to read 📖! I’ve never been working out so regularly as I have now – been working out 3-4 times a week lately and I loved it 💙! I also challanged myself to read 1 book a month and so I’ve read 3 books since April – it is a lot for me as I usually don’t read that much anymore 😅.
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Apart from it all I started serious work on my 2nd novel, planning & plotting, creating characters and ideas for the plot and I am planning to start writing it in October ✒
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Even though it’s been horrible at times, I’ve been scared, I missed my family, I missed my friends, I pushed myself to the limits as if the world was ending 😅! I just didn’t want this time to go to waste and I am so glad I did!
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And even though I am tired and I am dreaming of holidays at last 😅 I am satisfied with my work in 1st half of 2020 and I still believe this will be my year 😉
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So what I’ve been trying to say is that no matter how bad the situation is (and I don’t mean only Covid-19 and quarantine times but anything else too) always try to do your best 💪. We all react to bad situations  differently obviously and if  somebody was really scared during last months, felt anxious and didn’t do anything productive that’s fine too! But when you look back now to those insecure times forget about all the bad stuff and focus on what you have done and what you’ve managed to accomplish 🤗
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Now it’s all gonna be better! 😊

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Positive apps!

I showed 5 positive apps in June (7 over all) on my Instagram Stories and I’d like to sum it all up 🤗.
Here’s quick description if you haven’t seen my stories with tutorial on each app (you can still see it in Positive Apps! Highlights on my profile).

🔸️Gratitude (@gratefulness.me) is a great app for building gratitude and affirmations. It works like a journal where you add what you’re grateful for daily. After a week or a month you have a whole list of things you can be grateful for – great to have on a bad day! 🤗

🔸️My Affirmations is a beautifuly done app for affirmations only BUT you get to say them out loud 🎙. In the app you’ll find various affirmations divided into categories. After you pick your affirmations you get to record yourself and in the end you can play a nice presentation with amazing pictures, calm music and your own voice saying amazing things about you! 🤗Pretty incredible presentation to have when you’re feeling down!

🔸️CBT Thought Diary is an app that works basically like a diary where you can keep on track with your thoughts, emotions and moods.

🔸️ThinkUp (@thinkupapp) is very similar to My Affirmations but with wider choice of affirmations to choose from.

🔸️21 Days Challenge (@21daysapp) is an app for building new healthy habits! You’ll find 11 challenges there for new habits in sections like: Mental wellness, Sleep schedule, Self care, Gratitude, Productivity, Happiness or No Junk Food. Each challenge has 21 steps with 21 different tasks for each day! 😁

🔸️Focusly (@focuslyapp) is a great app for meditation, fighting stress and calming yourself e.g. before sleep. There’s many meditation sessions divided into couple different types and plenty interesting articles.

🔸️Fabulous (@thefabstory) is another app good for building new habits but also about learning about time management and meditation, a bit of everything actually!

It’s impossible to choose just 1 best because they focus on different things so I’d pick 3 – My Affirmations for building gratitude, Focusly for meditation and keeping yourself calm and 21 Days Challenge for learning new habits.
I love those 3 apps and I am SO HAPPY I found those! You need to check them out! ❤🤗

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Love is love

Love is love. It always was and always will be 👊🏻
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Why do you care who the other person likes? Who does she or he love? Why does it matter if a guy is into women or men? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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It is SO intimate and so individual who we love ❤💜💙💚💛🧡
I never undestood people talking bad about gays or lesbians. What is so different  about the person that he/she is homosexual? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Does that make him a worse friend? 🤔 Does that make her a worse employee? Does that make him a worse enterprenuer? Why something so intimate as who do we love has to have any impact on the rest of the world? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Being heterosexual isn’t anything better and being homosexual isn’t anything worse ⚠️. People who are gay are born this way, this is a part of their character, of their personality 💬.
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Would you shout at a  guy because he’s into redheads while most guys are into blonds 👱‍♀️? Would you point your finger at a guy who likes chubby girls while most men like skinny women 🤨? Would you laugh at a girl who is into shorter guys while most of us like taller men 🙄? That’s just their type. That’s who they pick. That’s who they’re attracted to 🤩. And I cannot say for sure but I guess the same thing is when a guy likes another guy. That’s just his type 🤗.
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People really need to stop judging everybody who isn’t like them. Just because some people don’t share your interests doesn’t mean they’re worse 🙄. We all have different opinions, different taste, we like different types of music 🎶 or movies 🎬, we believe in different gods 🙏, we differ politically and we love different people ❤.
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We SHOULD BE all different. This is what makes us interesting as a society 😊
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It shouldn’t matter who we love. The important thing is to be good and kind 🙏

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2020 isn’t cancelled

2020 isn’t cancelled. 🚫 It is here to make us learn and create new reality ⚠️
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You know how after meeting some obstacle and overcoming it you come out of the situation stronger and wiser? 💪 How sometimes you need to lose something to appreciate what you’ve had in the first place? 🤔 How in difficult situations you learn who your real friends are? 🤝 That is 2020 to all of us.
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This year isn’t cancelled, no no, it might be the most important year yet. Because it will teach us A LOT 😎
It isn’t even half a year yet and we’ve already learned (got to appreciate it even more) what it means to be healthy 🙏 and to have a roof over our heads 🏡. We’ve got to appreciate our families even more ❤. People who have jobs got to see how lucky they are 💰. And, what’s most important, we got to unite as a society of one planet 🤝🌍. Not just about coronavirus and helping each other but also now, during #blacklivesmatter movement 👊🏾
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2020 is time to learn and evolve. It is time to set some new rules about hygiene, travelling and equlity 💪
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2020 is a beginning of a new, better world. If we do it right this might be beginning of greatest decade yet 🤗

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There is only one race

There is only one race – human race 🙏
I honestly don’t understand this whole racism thing. How can having a skin of different color have an impact on how you treat that person? 🤷🏼‍♀️ How does it effect on one’s personality? How can one imply that a person of a different skin color is worse, that he/she doesn’t deserve respect? 🙄
I honestly never undestood that 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Are redheads worse then too? Or people with green eyes? How does your appearance reflect your personality and how you should be treated?! It is what’s inside that matters ⚠️
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If you’re a liar I won’t like you 🤷🏼‍♀️
If you’re a hypocrite I won’t tolerate you 😑
If you’re a thief I won’t respect you 🚫
No matter what color or nation.
It applies to all – whites or blacks or redheads or gays or lawyers or blondes or moms or musicians…anybody. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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If you’re bad as a person, you’re bad.
If you’re good you’re good.
But how you look has NOTHING to do with that ⚠️
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I hope you understand what I mean 🙏

Peace 💕

#alllivesmatter

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Reaction

Do you know Tony Robbins’ famous story about two brothers? 👬 There was two brothers who had an abussive alcoholic father. Their childhood was very dark, they lived in poverty 😞. Years later, when they grew up, one brother was very successful 💰, had a well-known company, wife and kids 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦, was contributing to society, volunteering etc and another one was an alcoholic too 😪🍾. Somebody asked both of them „How is it possible? 🤷🏼‍♀️ How is it possible you didn’t turn out the same? Why do you think you became a volunteer? Why did you think you became an alcoholic?”. Both answered same thing „Who else could I become with a father like this?”
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We can’t control what happens to us but we can control how we react to it ⚠️. You can either feel sorry about yourself, be miserable and live miserable life or you can turn your disappointment/sadness into energy and use it to make your life better 💪
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There are so many people with same stories yet different endings. There are so many people who’s had abussive childhood but wanted to leave it behind them and achieve something big 🤩! There are so many examples of it among famous people like Lady Gaga, Jennifer Lawrence, Dwayne Johnson, Joaquin Phoenix, Oprah, Tony Robbins himself…just look at my Inspirational Stories 😉! All of them had difficult childhood and look at them now! 😎🎬🏆
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Bad things happen to people everyday. It’s sad but it’s true 🤷🏼‍♀️. But it’s our choice what we’re gonna do with it! First of all appreciate what you have 🙏, secondly learn from your mistakes/failures/sad experience and then use it to build a better future 📈!
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I know it’s harder than it sounds but it is all in your hands 🤲. You have all the tools to make your life happy, it’s  your move to use them. Nobody is going to do it for you 😉. It’s all in your hands and in your mind.

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These times will teach us a lot!

Not being able to plan anything now drives me crazy 😫 but those crazy times really can teach us A LOT! 😉
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Planning is my strenght 💪 Whenever I have a new dream to fulfill or new project I want to start working on I divide it into parts and plan it out throughout a week/month/year. Thanks to planning I know what step I need to make to be closer to reaching my goal. When I have everything planned I feel calm because I have it all under control, all „in order”. Now it’s all gone.
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We were supposed to go to Spain in April, obviously that didn’t happen but I’d still like to go ASAP. The question is when? 🤷🏼‍♀️ When will it be ok to travel? Who knows? Time will tell 🕰.
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But it’s not only about the travelling 🌍. Due to economic crisis that we’ll be dealing with right now we don’t know what we stand on financially 📉. Can I still go to Spain? Or should I keep all my savings as bad times might come – lower salary, maybe even losing a job? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I wanted to focus on self-development this year. I wanted to do a photography course in the summer 📸 and go back to University in autumn to start doing another degree 👩‍🎓. It all costs though. Should I still do it?
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But let’s not panic ⚠️. These times are even more challenging than we all thought they’d be but they will teach us SO MUCH! 🤗
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I am sure we are all learning to appreciate what we have now. I might have tough times at work but I am still lucky to still be employed as so many people lost their jobs already 😞
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What’s more, we are learning to be more here & now, to focus on present and live one day at a time 🙏 as it is so hard to plan anything 😅. I am learning to stop planning far ahead and focus on present week and on what’s happening now.
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These times teach us to be always prepared for surprises, that you are never able to plan EVERYTHING out. They teach us to be patient 😇
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I am more than sure that we will come out of the lockdown wiser, stronger and more patient 💪. We just need to hold a bit longer. It will be all better soon! 😊

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Rest

How do you rest? ⚠️
Do you lie down on a couch in front of a TV? And when you do, do you relax, focus on a movie and let your problems aside? ☺ Or do you watch a movie but in reality you keep thinking what you haven’t done, what still needs to be done, you analyze your problems and in fact have no idea what’s going on in the movie? 👀
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You need to LEARN TO REST! That’s right, learn to rest 😉
When it’s relax time you need to focus on here & now and enjoy the silence/movie/chill. 🤗
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Learn to „lock” your problems in a cage and keep them there for later 🗝, now enjoy your time off.
If you’re having a problem dividing relax time and „worrying time” 😅 plan it 😉. Find a spot in your calendar where you can sit for 15-30min and think about your situation, about solutions for possible problems etc. Do it during this time and then have proper time off.
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When it’s relax time it relax time! Remember! Otherwise you’ll never rest and you’ll never feel relaxed ⚠️

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Self-criticism

Are you often criticizing yourself? 🤔 Always unhappy with your accomplishments? Furious about failures? 🙄
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First of all you need to lower your expectations ⚠️. We all tend to challenge ourselves more than others, which is good in a way but you need to know the limit.
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When you fail to do something or do something wrong and you start pulling your hair and are furious think if you’d react same way if your friend had done it 😉
Would you shout at him/her, feel being let down etc? Or you’d pat them on a shoulder, smile and say „That’s ok, you’ll do it tomorrow” or „That’s fine, you’ll do it right next time”? 😊
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You should say same thing to yourself. If it wouldn’t be a big deal for another person it shouldn’t be a big deal if you’d done it. Treat yourself right. ⚠️
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Second of all, we tend to focus only/mainly on failures and stop seeing what we’ve accomplished 🤷🏼‍♀️. We get angry with ourselves for not doing something and we forget about all the other things we’ve managed to do. For example, you get mad because you haven’t wokred out and you ate something unhealthy and suddenly forgot that you’ve managed to workout and eat healthy other 6 days of the week.
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It’s ok to have one bad day and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Focus on other 6 good days 😉
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If you feel like you’re criticizing yourself too much and you’re never happy with your work try writing down every evening 2-3 things you’ve managed to do that day ✒📄.
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But remember! If you’ve tried to do something and failed that should still go on the list! 😉 It means you TRIED and that’s the most important thing. Most people don’t even get to that step 😉

📸 pic taken in Dominican Republic in 2018