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Freedom

What is freedom to you?

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Yesterday was 30th anniversary of 1st free election in Poland after WWII. Anniversary of that historic day that changed everything. Events that actually started whole movement in Europe (Czech Republic and Germany were next).

June 4th 1989 was when Communism ended in Poland. It was the day when we gained freedom again.

I was standing at a concert held due to this anniversary yesterday (check on my stories) and heard elders talking about that day. We were shown news and documentaries of what 80s looked like in Poland. It was times of Martial Law here in 1981-1983. There were plenty strikes then (it all actually started in my city Gdańsk), people were fighting for freedom. My parents told me many times how awful those times were. How they couldn’t go and buy anything they wanted in a store (there was food rationing, every family could buy certain amount of bread, potatoes, toilet paper, soap etc. per month), how they couldn’t leave house and walk on the streets in the evenings, how they couldn’t talk openly about politics or even use word „freedom”!, how media couldn’t write the truth but only what the government told them to print/say on the news…

I was born 2 years after we gained freedom again and those horrible times ended. My brothers were 6-7 years old then though. They had few toys, hardly had any clothes. Can you imagine that?

So I was standing at this concert yesterday and was thinking how lucky I am to live now, in those better times.  Can you imagine not being able to say what you think? To be forced to keep spreading lies? To be punished for saying what you feel? To not be FREE?

What is freedom to you? Because being able to say what we want, to do what we want, to buy what we want is freedom to me. And all those people, including my parents, my aunts, uncles and young brothers didn’t have that then.

I am so grateful that I am able to do all those things nowadays. I am so grateful to be able to travel (Polish people couldn’t go abroad during Martian Law!). I am so grateful for FREEDOM.

Are you?

You should.

Sadly not all people around the world have that.

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Judging

Why do we keep judging people without even knowing them?

People tend to make an opinion about others based on their looks, their behaviour or anything else.

Isn’t there a posibility that they may be original and not fit some stupid stereotype? Are really all people the same? No, they’re not and we all need to remember about that. We are all unique and that’s what makes us, as society, interesting.

Some people tend to be prejudiced to others because of their looks, their social status or anything else. They see a person for a second and they already have an opinion about him/her. They already label them and put them in a sack with other people in the group. I already talked about stereotypes here some time ago but today I want to talk to you about something similar, yet different.

Have you ever heard „Look at her, she’s so young yet she wears Gucci, has Michael Kors bag and Chanel sungless. She must be with an old rich man or has a rich dad” or „Have you seen what he’s driving? He can’t be THAT rich! He’s probably stealing or does scams”.

Have you? Cause I’ve heard it many times and that’s enough. Why can’t a young girl be successful and earn good money to be able to buy expensive clothes and  accessories? There are plenty young successful woman who are rich and don’t need a man to support them financially.

Why can’t a guy have a good car and not be a scammer? Is it impossible to get rich on hard honest work? Of course it’s not!

Does a girl who is successful here on ig have be a cheater? Maybe she just works hard on it, takes great photo, is very charismatic and had a bit of luck too? Do people who have wealthy parents and have been travelling since being a kid have to have an easy life? Money doesn’t give you everything so perhaps they can have a difficult life on another lever.

Some of us are less successful and some are more, even being in the same age. We all have different stories and we shouldn’t make bad assumptions about people who have more or who go a different path.

Unless you know somebody’s whole story please don’t judge people and spread bad things about them. If that was you, if you were successful and got rich would you like people to say that you probably stole money from someone?

Please treat people you’d like to be treated.

Talk about them the way you’d like to be talked about.

Lets all have respect towards one another and just STOP JUDGING.

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Mother’s Day

When do you celebrate Mother’s Day? I know that most  countries had it on May 12th but we, in Poland, celebrate it today!
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And because of that I wanted to say how amazing it is to have a mother. And to be loved by mother. Sadly not everybody in the world is that lucky to have a mom or to have good relations with her. But if you do, please go and hug her, tell her that you love her, thank her for everything that she taught you.
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Being a mom is so difficult that it scares me. It is not only work 24/7 but a HUGE responsibility to create and shape a child into a smart, nice, well-mannered but also a warm-hearted, sensitive and couragous human-being.
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It is so tough and I am so grateful that my mom, my parents, made me who I am today 🙏
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Happy Mother’s Day!

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Being cool

What does being ‘cool’ mean to you?
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It is always a big problem in high schools, while growing up. You HAVE TO be cool or you’ll be pushed away. I had a problem with that when I was a teenager. Always trying to be cool, to hang out with cool kids. To be popular. Does it ring a bell? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I find it disturbing and unhealthy that young people are trying so hard to fit in nowadays. That they have to act cool, wear expensive clothes and attend all parties to be cool or they’ll be bullied if they don’t.
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What’s up with that?! Who defines what it means to be cool? Show me a definition of the word „cool”.
Those are some stupid rules defined by bullies and popular kids that make other, weaker kids copy them, adore them and do anything what they say. This is not right! ⚠️
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But I feel like it’s not only among teenagers. There is still this unhealthy rivalry among adults too. We all need to attend important events and can’t miss big parties, we need to wear PRADA, Gucci or another expensive brand, we all drink expensive wines and talk about our expensive cars.
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Does it have to be this way? Is it being cool to be rich? Seems like it these days. We are all trying to impress others with what we have, what we wear and what we drive. For me those are least important values. I don’t have a car, I don’t have any fancy wardrobe and I would never spend whole salary on an expensive bag or Jimmy Choo shoes. If others do want it all that is perfectly fine but should they judge others through the perspecive of owning those things? Is somebody worse if she doesn’t have Dolce Gabbana bag? Or maybe she simply doesn’t need it, doesn’t want it? Does it make her not cool? 😐
For me cool is being your true self and not pretending to be someone else just to impress others. 😎
This is cool – just being you.
You are cool. 😘

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Good deeds

How to be happy?

Help others.

We need to make this world a better place. We need to do it ASAP.

Instead of complaining on other people, talking behind their backs lets help each other, lets be good one to another.

This doesn’t have to be anything big. I try to do a small good deed every day and I encourage you to do the same. As I said, it doesn’t have to be big. You can simply help a stranger pick something up when he/she drops it on the street, you can open the door for a mother with a stroller when she’s struggling to enter a shop, you can help a young woman carry a heavy suitcase up the stairs, walk an elder man through the street, help someone find the right place when you see he/she is lost or just simply smile at others.

This is really simple and it costs you nothing yet can make a big dfference.

It doesn’t have to be only strangers on the street too. You can (and you should) help your friends or family in need too. You know that your friend  is moving houses? Go and help him/her pack. Your mom is preparing a dinner for a whole family? Ask if you can set the table or make a salad at least. Your friend lost his job? Ask your colleagues around if there is a job for him where you work, try to help him find it. Your friend practices for an exam or a job interview?  Go over to her and simply listen to what she has prepared. Let her practice on you.

There is over 1700 of you here, lets say even just a tiny bit of 10% of you joins me on this mission and we’ll have 170 good deeds every day, 5100 good actions every month and 61200 amazing acts of help every year. That’s a lot!

Will you join me?

Do you help strangers on the streets?


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Stereotypes

What do you think about stereotypes and labeling people?

I think we shouldn’t judge people just by their looks, nationality or anything else. We are all unique and this is what’s beautiful about this world!

Spend at least 10 minutes with a person and then you can make up your mind about him or her. Only then you can say something about this individual, not before.

There are so many stupid stereotypes and even more examples that those labels are wrong. Every nation has some stereotype attached to them, I think. Who hasn’t heard the following, while travelling: „Oh, you’re from X country? Then you must do this (stereotype)!”. Yes, some stereotypes are true but most of them are just hearsay transformed into a rumour with no real merit passed around from one person to another and to another.There is a stereotype about us, Polish people, that we are thieves. Well, I don’t agree with that. I know plenty Polish people (obviously) and none of them is a thief. According to stereotypes all Portuguese or Spanish are lazy, all French people are snobs, all Irish are red hair catholics, Norway – ruddy rustics, Sweden is nothing but tall blonds, Germans are stiff and humourless, Swiss are punctual, Italians are rude, Scottish people are skinflints, Brits care about nothing but tea, all Americans are fat etc etc. I’ve got plenty friends from different countries and I don’t think I agree with any of those stereotypes. All people are different and we can’t put labels on them. Especially such bad ones.

But it’s not only about the nations. There are plenty stereotypes put on different sexes, hair color etc. For example, two stereotypes that annoy me the most and would definitely want to get rid of them are that women are bad drivers (no!) and that all blonds are stupid (hell no!). Hair color has nothing to do with intelligence and I think women are good drivers because they have great attention to details and great reflexes.

 

What stereotypes annoy you most? Which one would you like to emend?

 

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Fate

HAPPY 1ST ANNIVERSARY TO US! ❤💑 (it was 3 days ago)
Do you believe in fate or coincidence?
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I believe that every day we learn something and every little moment creates our personality.
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I keep thinking how pretty random all my relationships are. E.g. I met my best friends via an online forum for fans of a rock band but I found out about this forum through a leaflet that was handed to me on a day when I wasn’t supposed to go out 😅
+ I got to know this band thanks to my good friend and I got to know this man that is a good friend of mine now by walking into a random pub years ago 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I met my husband online and it turned out that he had been living in a flat that my friend used to live in just before him! Later it turned out that we have many mutual friends, even our families knew each other (my dad had known my husband’s uncle for years; my husband’s cousin was my cousin’s classmate etc etc) and it is actually weird that we haven’t met each other sooner.
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I believe in those signs. I believe that we were supposed to meet.
I believe that every small decision we make is important on how our life turns out. Something like in „Butterfly Effect” or „Mr Nobody” – love those movies!
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In 2013 I decided to move out to London. I bought a one-way ticket, packed my whole room and couple weeks later after I graduated University I moved. Just like that.
Then after over a year I decided to come back to Poland. It was quite spontaneous. Later I regretted that I came back but if I haven’t I wouldn’t publish my book, I wouldn’t meet my husband etc. But at the same time if I wouldn’t had moved out to London at all I wouldn’t have become more open, more curagous and wouldn’t have got lots of wisedom I got by living by myself in a foreign country.
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This was supposed to happen and it created the person that I am today.
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I believe that every day and every person that we meet leaves a sign in ourselves.
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Do you agree? Tell me your story of a random choice you made that changed a lot in your life.

 

📸 fot. Paulina Owad