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Healthy egoism vs pure egoism

Nowadays we all talk more and more about self-egoism 🤔. That it’s good to put yourself first sometimes, that we should spend some time with ourselves as a self-care practice 🙏. But, as with everything else, we need to remember about healthy balance and we need to learn to differ healthy egoism from pure egoism 😉.
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➡️ You can say ‘no’ to your friends when they’re inviting you to a party because you want to spend some time with yourself. That’s ok👍. But when your friends need you and you say ‘no’ to them because you’re going to a party – that’s not ok 👎.
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➡️ You can focus on yourself and ask your family to give you some time alone because you want to work on your passions. That’s ok 👍. But when your family needs you, when you have some important family activities and you ignore them/miss the meeting because you want to work on your passions – that’s not ok 👎.
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➡️ You can spend money on yourself, invest in your projects or buy some new clothes when nobody else in your family has bigger needs. That’s ok 👍. But when you spend money on new clothes for yourself and skimp on a gift for your close one and/or give them nothing when they always give you gifts – that’s not ok 👎.
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Remember, we need to make sure there’s healthy balance in everything ⚖️. It’s good to focus on yourself, it’s good to spend time on your own but not when by doing that you neglect your closest family or friends 😉.

positive · Self-evolving

Feeling sorry for yourself

We all have bad days from time to time 🤷‍♀️. We all go through sad difficult times. We all cry 😥, we all feel insecure sometimes. That’s normal. But what is really important is to find that strenght to get up after we fall. To leave the dark, sad times and come back to life 💪.
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Has feeling sorry for yourself helped anyone? Has feeling insecure, sad helped anyone? 🤔 Has it made anything better, easier? 🙄 The answer is ‘no’. You know what is it really? It’s wasted time 🤷‍♀️.
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I don’t want to be harsh but that is the truth 🤷‍♀️. Time is the most precious thing in the world and we can’t waste it on sad, dark moments/days. I know there are situations (after break-up 💔, in grief 🖤 etc) when we need to have this time, when we need to lay in bed, to cry etc. It’s ok to feel sad, to feel angry, it’s ok to feel ashamed, it’s ok to feel guilty. We all need those feelings! But we all need to end with those feelings at some time too.
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So remember, it’s not worth spending time being sad or anxious 😔. Life is short. If you’ve cried your eyes out after some sad/traumatic experience try to get up and forget about it 💪. Or if that’s too hard seek help. Please 🙏.
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Feeling sad and feeling sorry for yourself just to feel sorry or to arouse interest is pointless and doesn’t help anyone 🙄. Believe me. Your clock is ticking⏰️. Please find that strenght and move forward.
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I wish that all of us always find that strenght.

positive · Self-Love

Most beautiful flower

Imagine the most beautiful flower in the world 🌹.

Imagine it blooming 😍.

Imagine that this flower is one of a kind, there’s no one quite like it in the world 💫.

Do you see it in your mind? Is it beautiful? 🤗
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Now imagine that thanks to this flower you can do anything you want. Because you’re the only one in the world that has it. It’s like an investment 📈. You have in your hands the most beautiful flower in the world 🌹!
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And now imagine this beautiful, unique, precious flower losing its petals, losing its charm 🥀. That would be such a shame, right? The flower is not blooming and you’re losing on your investment 📉!
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You NEED TO take care of this flower. You NEED TO water it 💦 to make it grow, you need to make sure it gets the sunlight 🌞. You need to do it all to see it bloom, to benefit from the flower later on as your investment.
It’s quite obvious right? Even a kid knows that you need to water a flower 🌹.
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Everybody knows that you need to take care of something precious 🤩. So why won’t you? 🤷‍♀️ Because you know…the flower is you 😉.

Now read it again.

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I quit

I quit.
That’s it, I quit 🤷‍♀️.
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I quit being dependent on other people, on their decisions, on somebody’s mood, on somebody’s actions 🙄.
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I quit giving my heart and my time to people who won’t give it back 💔.
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I quit spending time with people who pull me down, with people who don’t support me, who are not passionate about life and chasing dreams 🤷‍♀️.
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I quit being scared of being different, of being misunderstood, of being laughed at 🤨.
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I focus on myself. On my inner-strenght 💪, on my passions 📝, on my dreams 🤩. I will walk my path and good, positive, passionate people will follow me.

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It’s all about mindset!

It’s all about mindset! 🤗
It’s not about the situation but how you react 😉.
Your thinking can truly make a difference!
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Let’s try an easy excercise.
Instead of thinking „What if I won’t make it?” 🤔 think „What if it works out?”
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Instead of thinking „What if they judge me?” 😶 think „What if thanks to this situation I’ll finally learn who is a good friend, who supports me now matter what, who’s a true friend?”
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Instead of thinking „What if nobody likes it?” 🤷‍♀️ think „What if people love it?”
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You don’t know what’s gonna happen. You don’t know how will people react 🤷‍♀️. Why would you imagine only negative situations then? We tend to overthink and worry about something not going well, about somebody not liking what we do… If you NEED TO imagine future situation, if you need to kind of predicts what’s gonna happen do it in a positive way! 😃 Not only you’ll worry less, have easier life, less stress etc but if you think of positive outcome, if you stay positive and believe in success you get more confident! 😉 And when you get more confident you are more like to succeed!
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You see? It’s all about positive thinking!

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Effective communication

Key to good, positive relationships is effective communication 🙏.
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Effective communication is always about understanding the other person, not about winning an argument or forcing your opinions on others 😉. To improve your assertiveness: value yourself and your options. They are as important as anyone else’s. Know your needs and wants.
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Don’t say what you don’t want, say what you prefer.
Don’t say what you don’t like, say what you like.
Don’t say what you haven’t managed to do, say what are the options.
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Examples of effective communication:
➡️ Instead of saying „I don’t like it when you…” say: „I feel better when you…

➡️ Instead of saying „it’s not how you do it!” say: „Have you tried this way?”

➡️ Instead of saying „I don’t want to…” say: „I’d like it more if…”


Do you see the difference?

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Why taking small steps is so important? 🤔

I keep telling you – whatever your dream is, keep taking small steps forward! With small steps you won’t get tired and/or burned out which means you won’t give up and you’ll reach that goal! 🤩
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If you’re one of those people who need to do a lot to ‘feel like’ you’ve actually worked (gotta admit that I’m one of those people 😅) and that e.g. reading 15 pages a day is nothing to you, saving 5 USD a day doesn’t feel like saving and/or when you work 30min daily on your project you don’t feel like working at all remember:
🔸️15 pages a day (so about 30min per day spent reading) is 5475 pages per year so about 13-18 books per year – that’s quite a lot! Definitely more than the average 😉
🔸️ 5 USD saved daily will make 1825 USD in a year! 💰💰💰
You can buy quite a lot with those money!
🔸️ 30 min per day spent working on your project/business makes 10950 min in a year = 182.5 h !!! You can do/achieve so much in 182 hours!!! 😉
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Remember – small steps matter and can make a HUUUUGE difference!

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POSITIVE NEWS

MacKenzie Scott Gives $436 Million to Habitat for Humanity
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World Central Kitchen: José Andrés’ organization has served 3.5 million meals to Ukrainians & distributed 2,000 tons of food
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Drought-prone African nations got some good news:

There is enough groundwater under the African continent for most countries there to survive at least five years of drought
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Amazon Joins the U.S. Department of Energy and MIT to Tackle Plastic Waste With New Science
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Denver’s Program to Dispatch Mental Health Teams Instead of Police is So Successful it is Expanding 5-Fold

Come back next Monday for more!

Kopia Marie Curie

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10 easy steps for a happy life

1. Learn to appreciate what you’ve got 🙏
2. Follow your dreams 💫
3. Focus on positives, not negative things 👍
4. Stop overthinking 🤯
5. Learn to accept the things you cannot control 😉
6. Laugh a lot 🤣
7. Always find time for friends & family 👩‍❤️‍👨
8. Practice self-love, take care of yourself 💗
9. Don’t compare yourself to others ⚠️
10. Help others 🤝

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Different worlds

In times like these some of everyday problems seem so unimportant.
I may be worried that my dish didn’t turn out as I’d wish while there are hundreds of thousands of people ‘next door’ who don’t have anything to eat 😔.
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I may be worried that there’s a stain on my favourite jumper and that it’s ruined while there are people freezing to death not that far away from me 💔.
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I may be worried that I didn’t do as much as I wished at work this week while there are people without jobs and/or money who’d love to just get back to work, instead they’re fighting for their lives 😪.
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I guess it’s always been like that, there’s always been a war somewhere in the world while I was watching Netflix, there’s always been people struggling to get any food while I overcooked a dinner, there’s always been people freezing somewhere in the world while I’ve been walking in my penguin onesie in my warm home.
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Sadly there’s always been people with better, beautiful lifes while other fight to survive 💔
The key is to:
a) appreciate what we got, cherish every moment of our peaceful life with simple problems
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b) help those in need as much as we can.
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I LOVE my life. I love that I’m able to eat/cook anything I want 🥑🥓🍕. I love my apartment, the fact that I live in the city center and have everything close 🏡 . I am grateful for my family and friends ❤. I love that I am able to travel ✈️, to learn new things.
I just love it all.
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And you?
What do you like/love about your life?
What are you grateful for?