We’ve learned about gratitude (see my previous post) now it’s time to learn to notice those little things/aspects we need to be grateful for. 👀
In my yesterday’s post I wrote about being grateful and noticing big aspects like being healthy, having family or not being blind but today I want you to learn how to be happy about the little things. This is another KEY TO HAPPINESS. ⚠️⚠️⚠️ Good stuff won’t happen to you everyday, let’s face it. But in order to be happy everyday you need to smile at the little things. 😊 Like the color of the sky, good weather or delicious food 😋. If you think about it, good things DO happen to you everyday, you just need to look for them sometimes. 😁
Look around you, stop for a moment and look at other people. Have a look at colors of your surrounding. Appreciate small gestures from other people like a waiter taking care of you and being friendly in a restaurant or a doctor that wants to help you and take care of your comfort ❤. Look at the street you pass everyday, notice its buildings and their details. We tend to be in rush all the time and doing many things automatically. Stop.⚠️ You need to be present in a moment to appreciate here and now.⚠️
Focus on the things you’re doing. Stop doing everything automatically. Your mind is off then and it doesn’t appreciate the things that are happening. Before you start eating your meal stop and appreciate its colors, its smell. 👃
Just slow down and try to be present.❤
This is called MINDFULLNESS. There are many excercises to develop it so you appreciate some situations or moments more and do less things automatically.
One of the excercises is eating a raisin – perfect for beginners. Act like you’ve never eaten or seen a raisin before. Notice the way the raisin looks, how it feels, its smell or taste. Then slowly eat it but focus on it.👅
If you want to excercise it and learn to be present here and now hence appreciate your life more see this article – https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/mindfulness-exercises-techniques-activities/
One of the main and easiest ways to happiness is being GRATEFUL.
Are you grateful for what you have? If you’re thinking „what do I have to be grateful for?!” you’re probably one of those people who have lots but don’t appreciate it. You don’t have to be a millionaire or have a perfect life to be grateful. People tend to think that they don’t have anything to be grateful because they’re not rich or because they have some problems. ALL people have problems. Poor ones and rich ones. ⚠️
But the key is to appreciate what you have.
Are you healthy?
Do you have a place to live?
Do you have food in your fridge? Do you have family?
Do you have friends?
Do you have both legs?
Are you able to see, hear, talk? There are so many things /aspects that we need to be grateful for yet most of us take those things for granted.
People keep thinking that it is an absurd to be grateful that we see or have both legs. That it is a given. Well sadly not for everyone. Imagine not having that. I am grateful I am healthy, able to see, hear and walk everyday! ❤❤❤ The truth is, there are many people who lost their legs, are blind, deaf or very sick but still can appreciate life and be happy and those are the people we should follow and learn from them! 💪
Do you have both parents? I know this may not be as simple as the 1st question in the age of divorces but even if you have only one parent you are still more lucky than all those poor children living in shelter houses.
Did you have dinner today? So simple right? Yet still, if you have, you are still more lucky than millions of people in the world who starve to death.
You have PLENTY OF THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR! You just need to learn to see them. 👀
You can do an easy exercise – write down what are you grateful for on a piece of paper and put it in a jar. Keep doing it for next 30 days. You’ll see how many things you have to be grateful for! + when you’ll have a bad day you can read them all and it will make you feel better. 😊
What are you grateful for?
⚠️ DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS ⚠️
We tend to compare ourselves to people around us. We want to be richer than a guy next to us, prettier than every girl in the room, smarter than your boss and better than all the people in the world. As much as I encourage to get motivated by others, work on your dreams and get on your way to success, you can’t get crazy over that, you need to find that limit. While you work your ass off to beat everybody else just stop and appreciate YOU. 😊Think what you’ve done, what you’ve accomplished. It is good to be INSPIRED by somebody else and to have that as motivation for you to work but you CAN’T get sad or lose confidence over somebody’s success. ⚠️ Unless you can get motivation from it, don’t compare yourself to others. You know why? Cause there’s always going to be somebody smarter, somebody prettier, somebody better than you. That’s just how it is and you CAN’T keep comparing yourself to others or you’ll get stuck in „never enough” zone and you’ll keep wanting more, keep pushing yourself further instead of realising how amazing and good you already are!!! 😘
Instead of competing with everybody around you just be BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF. If you hear somebody smarter, learn from him, listen to his/her story. Maybe you’ll decide to e.g. read more or to learn another language if that’s what impresses you in that person. If you see somebody looking good in a swimsuit don’t get envy but work on your body to be confident with yourself. If you see somebody richer don’t be jealous, think how YOU can get there, what YOU can do to achieve that 👏
BUT at the same time, remember that in some other category you are better than that person. You may get impressed by somebody’s body but I am sure that you have some talent that he/she doesn’t. You may see somebody rich but I’m sure he/she is missing something that you have (e.g. a relationship, a family, health). You may think a smart man knows so many things that you don’t but i am SURE that you know something that he/she doesn’t. 😊
We all have our values and in some way we are both worse AND better than everybody else.⚠️
⚠️ Purchase memories, not things. ⚠️
Happiness is usually abstract things – health, family, love. Focus on that. 🤗
Don’t pay attention to material goods, those are just things 👑💄💎. New phone or new pair of expensive shoes might make you happy for a moment but it won’t give you happiness and memories in long term. Instead of that try to go on an adventure, „buy” memories – book yourself a short trip on the weekend (it doesn’t have to be far) 🏕, go to a concert 🎙, go to a festival 🎭, jump out of the plane ✈…you may think that those are experiences couple minutes/days long, nothing permament, but the memories are for life! ⭐ They may not last long physically but you can talk about it with your family or friends for ages!
Remember – in the end people usually regret not having done something, no not having bought something. We regret experiences and chances we didn’t take, not missing a sale in a boutique.
This is a photo taken on our journey to Dominican Republic last year. It cost us quite a lot of money and we could’ve bought a sofa to our guest room that we are still missing (we moved into a new apartment last year) but I wouldn’t have had it the other way. We saw beautiful places, learned some new things and gained plenty amazing memories!
This month try to do something you haven’t done before. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive, it doesn’t even have to be anything you pay for – if you live by the sea or lake try winter swimming 🏊♀️ (go into the water only for couple minutes though), go to a dog shelter and take dogs for a walk and spend whole day with them 🐶 (or maybe even take one home? 😊), volunteer at some city event 🎪 or just try eating something you haven’t eaten before 🍲🍤 (ok, this one you’ll have to buy but it’s a small thing to do). Literally anything! Just try to get out of the rut and get yourself some new memories! 😊😊😊
You are an amazing human being! ❤
You are beautiful. 😍
You are strong. 💪
You are capable of anything. 💯
Believe in yourself. 🙏
You are great! 😘
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Did you know that to form a habit you need only 21 days? After repeating something every day for 3 weeks it grows into you and you do it automatically. For example if you need to remember to take vitamins after breakfast 💊 (do it!) you need to remember about it and focus on the moment of you taking the vitamins out of the drawer for 21 days and after that you just do it every day without even thinking about it (like me for last 3 years 😊).
It is said to be working same way when starting a diet – you need 21 days of you saying „NO! ⛔” to sugars and unhealthy food and after those 3weeks of a hard struggle you’ll do it easily, automatically or won’t even be craving sweets. 🥦🥒🍅🥗
But did you know that you can also reprogram/rewire your brain to be happy in 21 days? 🤗
I mean, WOAH! Right?🤩
And here’s my TASK FOR YOU.⚠️ For the next 3 weeks when you wake up think of 3 things you are grateful for and keep repeating it for…now guess…21 days, yes 😊
It can be same 3 things every day or it can be various things. Your choice. Just stick to it.
What is more, you can practice being more confident too 💪. Think of 3 values/qualities you like about yourself, some advantages you have, and say it to yourself out loud in front of a mirror every day for 21 days. I guarantee you’ll be more confident and more proud of those qualities. Just try it.
So what are you grateful for?
I am grateful for a healthy family 👨👩👧👧, loving husband ❤ and our financial situation (being able to pay rent 🏡, buy food 🍕 and having a nice life 🎉🏖).