Are you fair to yourself? 🤔 Do you treat yourself well? 😉 Do you think of yourself in a nice way and understand your needs and problems? 🧐 Do you expect same results as others from yourself or are you over ambitious and tend to be critical of your achievements? 🙄
Imagine a situation: your friend calls and tells you that she failed at work and is afraid she’s gonna get fired 😰. What do you tell her? 🤔 You probably tell her not to worry, you try to assure her/him that she’s/he’s probably over dramatic and that it couldn’t have been that bad. You emphasise that she’s/he’s good at her/his job and that she/he won’t get fired 🤩
Now imagine same situation but you’re the one that failed at work 😉. What do you tell yourself? Do you blame yourself? 😶 Do you keep saying how bad you are? That you deserve getting fired? 😬 Do you tend to be overcritical to yourself? ☹
Is that what you would say to your friend? No! 🚫
Be a friend not only to others but to you as well! 🤗 Be supportive, understanding and loving ❤
How to challenge negative thoughts? 🤔
❌ „No one likes me.”
❌„It’s all my fault that she’s upset”
❌„I shouldn’t have made that mistake”
❌„I can’t do this”
❌„Why does this always happen to me?”
❌„Everyone is out to get me”.
✔„What is another possibility?”
✔„What would the people who care about me say?”
✔„What is the worst that could REALLY happen?”
✔„If my friend had this thought, what would I tell her?
✔„Can I be 100% sure this is true?”
✔„What is the best possible outcome?”
Remember, be a friend to yourself.
Be kind 😘
You’re not a robot. You’re a human, you make mistakes and that’s ok 😉
Love yourself 🙏.
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Nothing will happen, nothing will work, nothing will change for better, you won’t be happier, you won’t like yourself more, you won’t accept yourself if you’re doing it because of hatred to yourself 😞
If you’re doing it out of fake intension, because you need to prove something to somebody, out of punishment or any negative reason, it simply won’t work 🤷🏼♀️. You won’t achieve your inner peace, you won’t be happy and/or anxiety free.
First of all you need to understand that you don’t need to be the best, you don’t need to be the fastest, the smartest, the richest ⚠️. In fact, I’m gonna break it to you 😉 – there’s always going to be someone smarter, someone prettier and someone more successful than you, it’s just how it works 🤷🏼♀️
You need to understand that you don’t HAVE TO do anything. Your attitude will change SO MUCH when you change the thinking and instead of thinking „I HAVE TO”, you’ll start thinking „I CAN” 🤗
I can change 😎
I can follow my dreams 😍
I can work hard and reach my goals 🤩
I can be better 💪
You don’t have to be the best but try to be better each day, to grow, to self-develop ⬆️. But do all of that while being good to yourself. Don’t force yourself to anything, it won’t work. You should want to do it, desire it. Not feel like you NEED TO or HAVE TO do it.
Remember, it’s all about the attitude 😘
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1. Invest in yourself 🤗
Spend 15-30min in the morning or evening reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself
2. Find the truth and exception when an inner or outer critic attacks 😏
Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you 🤷🏼♀️ People around you may attack you to serve one of their own needs 🙄
If this happens, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this? 🤔
E.g. if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can find answers that tell you that it isn’t really true 😊
3. Unstress tonight 🧖♀️
Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out 💪
4. Take just 2min in the morning or evening to appreciate yourself 🤗
Sit down & ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself? 🤔
5. Mediocre day? Take 1 small step forward towards something positive 🤗
If your day feels mediocre take 1 small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day & week
6. Be kinder towards others ❤
The way you think about & treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself 😉
7. If you stumble, be your own best friend 😊
Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? 🤔
8. Take a laugh-break 😂
Take 5-10 min.
Watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom you know makes you laugh
9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change 😉
Think about what you really want in the rest of your life.
10. Simply remind yourself of why it is smart to be kind to yourself 🤗
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs 😉