Be positive! · Self-evolving

Controlling

You can’t control everything in your life & you can’t predict everything. And you shouldn’t!

We want to have everything organised, planned, to be prepared for everything but life is full of surprises! The more you’ll want to be prepared for everything the less you will be ready for surprises.🤷🏼‍♀️

It is good to plan things ahead but you need to also be prepared for surprises. You can write down what can go wrong, this way you’ll be a bit prepared and you won’t be that surprised. But what is really important is to look for an alternative solutions once something unexpected comes up. .
Another thing is to get loose a bit from time to time. 🤪 Don’t plan every moment of your life. Let yourself be a bit spontaneous! We tend to be 1 day ahead in our heads. We keep thinking what we have to do tomorrow instead of just being here & now. ☺

It’s good to plan your future but be present in the present moment too. Just as the word ‘present’ tells you to. 🤗
It’s good to be spontaneous and live in the moment but you need to organize your plans and future too.
You need to find that balance in all this. ⚖

I plan my time between Monday and Friday afternoon (with evenings included as I do lots of work after my full-time job) but I never plan some serious „to do” stuff for weekends or days off. This is the time to relax and to be spontaneous. Is it sunny? Lets go on a long walk!
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If some things come up during my planned time I don’t close up on other options. If I have e.g Tuesday evening planned because I need to work on my book, blog, music agency or anything else but I get a call from a friend that he’s in town I change my plans. You need to be FLEXIBLE. Just ask yourself „Will something happen if I don’t do it today?”. After all I see my friend once a year. I can do my work tomorrow.
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Don’t overuse it. Don’t keep postponing your plans. „I’ll do it tomorrow, today I don’t feel like it”. You may never have the energy to do some work. Just push yourself 😊

You need to be flexible. To be both organised but ready for surprises and spontaneity at the same time.

Be positive!

Overthinking

Do you know what’s 1st step to being unhappy? OVERTHINKING. That’s right. Half of the problems (or maybe even more) that you worry about DO NOT EVEN EXIST. Why do you stress out about some possible scenarios that MIGHT happen? They may not happen. People tend to exaggerate so many situations. Waking up at night stressed that you might lose your job. That you might be seriously ill cause you’ve been having this headache for some time now. That your boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore. Do you know that for a FACT or you’re just assuming? DO YOUR RESEARCH. Is your situation at work really endangered? Talk to your boss if he/she is sattisfied with your work. Maybe you can do something better? Do you feel bad, have headaches? Just do some blood tests, you’re probably just missing some vitamins, hormones or just sleep. Is your boyfriend not into you as he used to be? He’s not smiling when he sees you? Talk to him. It may not even be about you. Maybe he’s going through something, maybe there’s something wrong with his family. Or maybe he’s overthinking too, ha! Stop worrying about future. You’ll have enough time to worry and to stress out when something bad does happen (and it will from time to time, life can’t be just about good times). Believe me, it will save you 80% of stress.
So as we have new week, new plans, new opportunities, please promise me that you’ll try to worry less and don’t overthink. 😘