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Judging

Why do we keep judging people without even knowing them?

People tend to make an opinion about others based on their looks, their behaviour or anything else.

Isn’t there a posibility that they may be original and not fit some stupid stereotype? Are really all people the same? No, they’re not and we all need to remember about that. We are all unique and that’s what makes us, as society, interesting.

Some people tend to be prejudiced to others because of their looks, their social status or anything else. They see a person for a second and they already have an opinion about him/her. They already label them and put them in a sack with other people in the group. I already talked about stereotypes here some time ago but today I want to talk to you about something similar, yet different.

Have you ever heard „Look at her, she’s so young yet she wears Gucci, has Michael Kors bag and Chanel sungless. She must be with an old rich man or has a rich dad” or „Have you seen what he’s driving? He can’t be THAT rich! He’s probably stealing or does scams”.

Have you? Cause I’ve heard it many times and that’s enough. Why can’t a young girl be successful and earn good money to be able to buy expensive clothes and  accessories? There are plenty young successful woman who are rich and don’t need a man to support them financially.

Why can’t a guy have a good car and not be a scammer? Is it impossible to get rich on hard honest work? Of course it’s not!

Does a girl who is successful here on ig have be a cheater? Maybe she just works hard on it, takes great photo, is very charismatic and had a bit of luck too? Do people who have wealthy parents and have been travelling since being a kid have to have an easy life? Money doesn’t give you everything so perhaps they can have a difficult life on another lever.

Some of us are less successful and some are more, even being in the same age. We all have different stories and we shouldn’t make bad assumptions about people who have more or who go a different path.

Unless you know somebody’s whole story please don’t judge people and spread bad things about them. If that was you, if you were successful and got rich would you like people to say that you probably stole money from someone?

Please treat people you’d like to be treated.

Talk about them the way you’d like to be talked about.

Lets all have respect towards one another and just STOP JUDGING.

Self-evolving

Don’t Judge

How many times have you walked into a room when something odd was happening and you made your assumptions, judged someone and then turned out to be wrong? How many times have you seen someone doing something for a second and thought the worst of him/her without knowing the whole story? How many times have you heard a half of a sentence that somebody said to someone and you made up a whole story on those couple words taken out of the context?
You can see perfect examples of what I’m trying to say here in Ameriquest commercials. Do you know them? The „Don’t judge too quickly. We won’t” slogan? If you don’t, look it up: „Funniest Ameriquest Commercials – Don’t Judge Too Quickly!”, you’ll find it on youtube.
If you’ve seen it you know what I mean. Don’t judge too quickly, always try to understand. Try to see the bigger picture, what could’ve happened there. If your boyfriend doesn’t like the dinner you made for him, don’t be mad at him instantly, try to think deeper. Maybe he’s had a bad day? Maybe what you made reminds him of a grandma that he misses? There can be plenty explanations and the one you come up with will be so wrong that you’ll laugh when you know the truth. You need to control your assumptions though. ALWAYS think of at least of 2-3 things that could be true in a situation. DON’T JUMP INTO CONCLUSIONS. Those are the worst. How many couples broke up because of that? That there was a situation that looked wrong, may have looked like cheating and somebody jumped into conclusion that they other one is cheating? It may turn out to be something totally else later on but it may be too late for you to go back to how it was before you made the assumption. Couples fight, the person accused of cheating explains what happened, the other person feels sorry for jumping into conclusion but they break up anyway because thanks to this situation they got to see there’s no trust in their relationship.
Do you know what I mean?
Don’t judge. Don’t jump into conclusions. Always try to see the bigger picture, try to understand the other person why he/she is doing something.