Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 23

I strongly encourage you to constant observing 👀 what strengthens and what weakens your strongwill, training it and doing visualisations.
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In next steps you’re gonna look into a very important issue that I often see around me: excessive rigor and self-criticism 👇
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Do you know what I’m talking about? Does it apply to you? Do you focus on your mistakes, setbacks, defects and failures? Do you miss out on your advantages, achievements and successes? 🤔 When you do a  sum up at the end of a week/month/year what do focus on more? Failures 👎or successes👍?

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We all tend to notice negative and threatening affects of our lifes more. Our brain 🧠 works this way to catch potential danger as soon as possible and to prevent it.
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What’s more, if you’ve experienced rigor and excessive criticism at home or at school you might have a tendency of treating yourself same way 😟
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That’s why noticing positives is harder and requires more conscious effort.
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A task for today is to observe what do you concentrate on 📝
* Do you automatically focus attention on negative aspects? 🤔
* Does it apply to you or reality that surrounds you? 🤔
* What happens when you consciously try to redirect attention to what’s positive about you and what’s positive around you? 🤗
* Does anything change? 🤔
* How do you feel then? 🤔
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”


P.s. Today is Father’s Day in Poland so I’m posting this special photo of my Dad and me! 🤗

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 20

As I have mentioned before, psychogists compare willpower to a muscle 💪 so they imply that we can train it and that it has its limits.
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Just like muscles our self-control can also get…tired 😪. And that’s the moment when we often think that we no longer have the power and give up 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I am sure you know this feeling – you e.g. do a squat or a plank, you are supposed to keep it for 30 seconds, muscles burn like crazy and it’s only 14, 15, 16 seconds… A thought appears in your mind „I won’t make it, I am tired, I am not strong enough!” 😫. You are facing a challenge then – either let it go and stop the excercise earlier or force yourself to check if you’re maybe stronger than you think..💪
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Willpower works exactly the same! Next time when you face such situation try to get through first feeling of tiredness. Don’t give up straight away, you might find out that despite that tiredness you still have plenty energy and more willpower that you’ve assumed. 😉
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Be careful – you can also overtrain your willpower. If you feel overwhelming tiredness that doesn’t go away don’t push yourself to exhaustion ⚠️. Get some rest, regenerate and then try again 😇.
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If you feel tired all the time you should think what’s the cause of that. Maybe stress, lack of sleep, Hypothyroidism? 🤔 Reasons of that can be plenty so if you often feel tired don’t ignore it ⚠️ Next week: Source of your „I desire” power
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 18

Do you know that willpower is a part of our intincts? 🤔 Last week we talked about „fight or flight” response and today we’re gonna talk about „pause-and-plan response” – my favourite 😉
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This mechanism stops an arousal in our body (the one we feel e.g. when seeing a cake 🤤) and increases the amount of the energy that goes into your mind 🧠. Prefrontal cortex, a part of our brain that is responsible for controlling impulses and planning, starts to work harder 💪. It shares an information with other parts of the mind: Launching self-control! Thanks to it we can take deep breath, stop with a hand on a bag of chips, think and…put it down 😉
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Now the good news – not only is self-control a strong instinct like „fight or flight” reaction but you can actually help launching it! 😊 There is an easy, free and accessible for everybody way to do it – the key is to learn to breathe properly. That’s right, breathe. 💨
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In order to improve your willpower slow down the rhythm of your breathing, do 4-6 breaths in a minute 🙏. Try to make each one last 10-15 seconds. But don’t hold your breath (it will only make you feel stressed!) but slowly make each inhale and exhale longer. It is easier to start with prolonging your exhale first. Make sure to exhale all out, this way it is easier to take deep breath in.
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It requires practicing so don’t get mad when you don’t get that rhythm right away. The more you practice the better! 😉
Next week: Empowering your willpower :::
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 11

You often hear that imagining success helps you get motivated. Research shows though that it is not imagining success that helps but visualisation of process so imagining the path that takes you to your goal 🏁
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The visualisation makes you practice in your mind the difficult path that awaits you and helps you get ready for its all steps.
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Depending on what works on you best, punishments or rewards, you can choose proces visualisation with a negative outcome (what happens when you don’t reach the goal) or with positive outcome (what happens when you do).
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* Simulation of process with positive outcome 👍
Imagine going shopping and you choose only healthy products. Imagine passing sweets section and not taking any 🚫. Imagine being at a party full of food and unhealthy snacks where everybody eats but you don’t. Imagine you working out and doing excercises that you like, e.g. swimming, riding a bike etc. You’ve reached your goal 💪 Imagine yourself thin with a beautiful body. Imagine walking into a party looking fabulous and having all people stare at you 🤩
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*Simulation of process with negavite outcome 👎and proces letting you avoid it
Imagine yourself fatter. Your favourite pants don’t fit because you put on weight 😳. Family and friends tell you that your overweight problem becomes more and more serious. You walk into a party and people look at you and gossip. You feel bad about yourself, you’re unhappy and you’re self-esteem drops 😞 Now imagine how you can avoid those situations. You buy only healthy stuff. You don’t overeat at a party. See with your imagination you working out 💪
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Those are examples from the research. Now think of your visualisations.
1. Decide whether you are more sensitive to punishments or to rewards 👍👎
2. Imagine the proces taking you to your goal (process of losing weight, looking for a better job etc.) – make sure to imagine specific situations 🧐
3. Write your visualisation down
Keep reading it and imagining the proccess several times a week 📝
Next week: What do  you need to reach your goal

Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

📸 Greece, 2015

Self-evolving · Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 5

Let’s get back to our circle of life.
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Today time to think about hobbies and to sum up whole circle. After that it will be easier for you to set a challenge and design your tomorrow 💪
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Last section that we need to analize is widely understood personal development. It is our passions, hobbies and interests, basically everything you like doing and that makes you feel creative 🤩
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As usual – mark on your circle of life how happy you are about your personal development/hobbies in a scale from 1 to 10.
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Here are the questions that will help you mark that subject:
* Do you think this part needs change? If yes, what would have to change? Maybe there is something that you want for a long time, something you miss yet you kept putting it off?
* What will you gain by those changes?
* What will happen if you don’t change anything about your personal development?
* In what way does personal development have an impact on other aspects of your life now?
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Bonus: in the cirlce of life I made for you you’ll find an empty spot for a section that is important to you and that we haven’t talked about here. I, personally, put „Confidence” there. :::
Do you have your whole circle of life ready? Remember, the circle is for your eyes only, you don’t have to show it to anybody.
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Now that you have whole circle ready it is time to analyze it as a whole. This circle will help you find segment that needs change most and – what comes after – your goal. Changing one, crucial segment might bring changes into others ones.
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Look at your circle and answer those questions:
* What is  the most important in life to you? How do those values take place next to the circle? Do they combine?
* Which segment has most impact on other segments?
* Which segment do you want to work on 1st?
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Next week : Setting your goal

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”


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Smiley Future – Step 4

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Let’s get back to our circle of life. You will find it in ‘Downloads’ section in m BIO.
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Today time to think about money 💰 Something that we usually find hard to talk about 😳. Why? Because we don’t have financial education at school, because of the beliefs about money and earning that we bring from home and because of emotions that come with our beliefs, experience or current situation.
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It is difficult for us to talk about money because we don’t want to come of as a poor one, braggart, dodger or materialist.
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Survey says that 50% of people is ashamed to talk about money, 30% feel unsheated talking about them and 20% feel fear 😳. What are the consequences? We don’t ask for a rise at work, we rarely negotiate the price of some product or service.
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Finances are an important part of our life and even if money itself won’t make you happy they, without a doubt, contribute to the comfort of life and feeling safe.
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As usual – mark on your circle of life how happy you are about your finances in a scale from 1 to 10.
Here are the questions that will help you mark that subject:
* Do you think this part needs change? If yes, what would have to change? Take couple aspects into consideration: earning, spending and saving.
* What will you gain by those changes?
* What will happen if you don’t change anything about your finances?
* In what way do finances have an impact on other aspects of your life now?
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Next week: Sum up of the circle of life (in the meantime fill up all the missing parts with your hobbies and/or other parts you added for yourself.

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Health · Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 3

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Let’s get back to our circle of life. Remember it, right? You will find it in ‘Smiley future’ section.
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Today time to think about your health 🥦
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As usual – mark on your circle of life how happy you are about your health in a scale from 1 to 10.
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Here are the questions that will help you mark that subject:
* Do you think this part needs change? If yes, what would have to change?
* In what way are you active physically 💪? Is it well suited in its kind and intensivity?
* Lack of sleep is plague of those times 😴 Lots of people think that they can work more or have some fun at the expense of their sleep time, while research shows that lack of sleep has bad impact on your health and especially on your cognitive abilities (so memory, attention and ability to learn). Do you sleep long enough? 🛌 What’s the quality of your sleep? Do you fall asleep and wake up at similar times or is your sleeping rhythm dysregulated?
* It is easy to forget about health prevention when nothing is wrong with you but it is prevention itself and early diagnosis that help catch alarming symptoms before they get annoying or severe. Do you examine yourself regularly? Do you know that types of examinations and how often you should do? 💉💊
* What will you gain by those changes?
* What will happen if you don’t change anything about your health?
* In what way does health have an impact on other aspects of your life now?

Next week: Finances 💰

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 2

🧠SMILEY FUTURE🧠
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Let’s get back to our circle of life (you’ll find it in Downloads section in BIO).
Today time to think about your career 👩‍🎨👨🏻‍🎓👨🏿‍⚖ It can be your work, studies or school. If you’re not working at the moment because you’re on maternity leave or on holidays do not miss out on this part.
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As usual – mark on your circle of life how happy you are about your career in a scale from 1 to 10.
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Here are the questions that will help you mark that subject:
* Do you think this part needs change? If yes, what would have to change?
* What will you gain by those changes?
* What will happen if you don’t change it?
* In what way does career have an impact on other aspects of your life now?

Next week: Health 🥦

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

New segment – SMILEY FUTURE

I’ll be starting a new section for you, lets call it „SMILEY FUTURE” 😎
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For this part i’ll be using @chodakowskaewa new book „90 days – design your tomorrow” but also other psychological books 📚. It will come as excercises for you and I’ll  be posting it once a week, on Tuesdays 😉.
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In order to follow your dreams and to become successful you need to plan your strategy of changes and in order to to that you need to summarize what you have, what you are proud of and what you don’t like in your life first 📝.
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There is this famous excercise among psychologists and/or coaches called „The circle of life”. It is a circle divided into seperate segments of life like „Relations”, „Finances”, „Career” etc. You mark how sattisfied you are with each segment on a scale from 1 to 10. 🤗
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You can see examples of a circle of life and a filled one attached here. We’re gonna work on a smaller circle divided into 6 parts (last photo) but if you feel the need to divide it into more parts then you can do it too. 😉
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We’ll divide each segment into seperate day and we’ll start with ‘Relations’ today. (Come back next Tuesday for another segment – ‘Career’)!
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Before you mark the answer on your circle answer those questions:
* How satisfied are you with relations in your life in a scale from 1 to 10?
*Does this segment need changing? What would you like to change?
*What will you gain by changing it?
*What will happen if you don’t change it?
*In what way do the relations have impact on the rest of the segments of your life? 💥
This is just for you, answer those question honestly.
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Next week: Career and once we have all the segments done you’ll know exactly what you need to work on.

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Be positive! · Self-evolving

Challenge!

I’ve got an excericise/task for you! 👊
As it is holidays season you’ll be probably going on some trip soon.
You can use that trip to learn not to care what other people think. 🤷🏼‍♀️
How?
When you’re in a hotel/foreign city just stand in the middle and do a funny dance 🕺. Go jogging on a beach and do it in a funny/weird way (have you seen Friends episode with Phoebe running?) 🏃‍♀️. Just be weird and be proud about it. Who cares what people will think? Who cares that they will be staring? 🤷🏼‍♀️ You are on holidays and no one knows you there. Use it. ❗
Practice being yourself and not giving a damn what others think. 😎
Once you master it on holidays it’ll be easier for you not to care so much about everybody’s opinion on every-day life.
Try it out! 😊


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