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Smiley Future – Step 26
Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 26

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Do you ever punish yourself? For eating something that you shouldn’t have, skipping training, making mistake…? 🤔
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I know that this topic isn’t pleasant but if it does happen I highly encourage you to work on it 💪.
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Have a look how you find reaching your goal. Do you find it as a war – with yourself, external obstacles? 🤔 If yes then there’s risk that you’ll end up in an eternal fight with yourself and you’ll see every mistake as losing 😫. What comes next you might be even punishing yourself with bad words like „I am horrible”, strict refusing any small awards/pleasures or doing something as a punishment 😖
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So as strongwill wouldn’t break down and your desire/fighting for your goal would become a part of your everyday life, part of your lifestyle you need: patience, indulgence and will to act which doesn’t come with permament tension and fear of losing.
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Task for today: instead of treating realising your goal as a fight or „good” and „bad” actions try to look at it as a process of learning 🤓.
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You know those cute videos on YouTube of little kids learning how to walk? 😍 They fall down, get up and keep trying again and again – often with a smile on their faces! 🤗 Mistakes and slips are inseparable part of learning anything. And making new habits is nothing but learning.
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Try reformulating critical thoughts to a thought beneficial to learning. E.g. instead of telling yourself „I am lazy because I didn’t work out” it could be „I found out about myself that if I don’t work out in the morning I am too tired after work. I’ll rearrange my plan of a day.”
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Now write another examples down so you could use them in the future.
Critical thought:
Thought beneficial to learning:

Next week: Distinguish punishment from self-discipline

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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-criticism
Be positive! · Self-evolving

Self-criticism

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Are you often criticizing yourself? 🤔 Always unhappy with your accomplishments? Furious about failures? 🙄
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First of all you need to lower your expectations ⚠️. We all tend to challenge ourselves more than others, which is good in a way but you need to know the limit.
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When you fail to do something or do something wrong and you start pulling your hair and are furious think if you’d react same way if your friend had done it 😉
Would you shout at him/her, feel being let down etc? Or you’d pat them on a shoulder, smile and say „That’s ok, you’ll do it tomorrow” or „That’s fine, you’ll do it right next time”? 😊
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You should say same thing to yourself. If it wouldn’t be a big deal for another person it shouldn’t be a big deal if you’d done it. Treat yourself right. ⚠️
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Second of all, we tend to focus only/mainly on failures and stop seeing what we’ve accomplished 🤷🏼‍♀️. We get angry with ourselves for not doing something and we forget about all the other things we’ve managed to do. For example, you get mad because you haven’t wokred out and you ate something unhealthy and suddenly forgot that you’ve managed to workout and eat healthy other 6 days of the week.
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It’s ok to have one bad day and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. Focus on other 6 good days 😉
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If you feel like you’re criticizing yourself too much and you’re never happy with your work try writing down every evening 2-3 things you’ve managed to do that day ✒📄.
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But remember! If you’ve tried to do something and failed that should still go on the list! 😉 It means you TRIED and that’s the most important thing. Most people don’t even get to that step 😉

📸 pic taken in Dominican Republic in 2018

Failures
About me · Be positive!

Failures

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Many of you say that nobody is real on Instagram. That people tend to publish only photos from their happy momments and talk only about highlights from their lives.
This might be true but I am different. 😅
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I already showed you a picture of me looking unattractive some time ago (remember that all those instagram models pose in their finest clothes and perfect make up), I already talked to you about my bad days (cause we all have them!) and now I’m gonna talk to you about my last failures.🤪
Because we all fail from time to time and it’s OK!
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Failures are good because we get a great lesson and learn from mistakes but also we appreciate success more after couple obstacles! 🤗
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One of my latest failures was that I was supposed to lose 5kg in July. It was my goal and I started July with a diet and working out routine. But then i got busy and stressed (in the contrary to most people – when I’m stressed i EAT!). And…instead of losing weight I gained 1kg 😅 It might be a small failure but it still is a failure to me.
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Another one – I told you about a new project that I’ve been working on lately. I told you that I’ll tell you by the end of July if it worked or not. Well…it didn’t. I wanted to go back to University and start studying psychology but I didn’t get a scholarship and I can’t afford it. So no new University degree for me. At least not this year…
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And now biggest of my latest failures. As some of you know I published a book in February 📕. I’ve been writing it 1.5 year, looking for a publishing house next 3 years…Whole process lasted over 7 years and you know what…? I sold only about 400 copies… Out of 5500 copies we printed… Hardly no one buys it…It’s been heart-breaking for me as I really wanted this to work and this book to be read by plenty people but this happens I guess. It’s sad but it’s ok. I need to move on. It was still a big adventure and a dream coming true for me. I had plenty interviews and signing meetings so it was fun!
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So next time you fail remember to keep smilling! 😉 We all fail from time to time. The key is to learn your lesson and not to give up! 😊