Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 34

Let’s continue our talk about procrastination so constant postponing for later 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Last week I’ve mentioned that fear of failure might be one of the reasons of procrastination. Today couple words on another possible reason of constant postponing things for later.
You might be surprised but it is…fear of success! 😳
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Yes, sometimes subconsiously you’re afraid of success 😞. Why? You can be scared of the reaction of people around you (e.g. because of jealousy 🙄) or you can be afraid of even bigger pressure that you will not fulfill 🤯 (I’m sure you’ve heard of writers who after a big success of their first book had an enormous difficulty to write another)
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How to remedy it? The awarness and naming the fear of success itself might be very helpful 👍.
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Try answering those questions:
➡️ What are you afraid of in possible success?
➡️ Imagine that you’ve reached your goal. What will happen then?
➡️ Can you, apart from obvious benefits, suffer losses too? If yes, what would that be?
➡️ Is your fear justified?
➡️ Who could you talk to about your fears?
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If you can, ask somebody close to you for support, talk to somebody 💬 who is more objective and can look at your fears and doubts from another perspective 😉
I’m all ears if you want to talk! 😊
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Next week: Use some motivation techniques that you know
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 33

This and next week you’ll look at postponing things for later closer. Why does it happen to you? How can you prevent that? 🤔
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One of the reasons of procrastinating is FEAR OF FAILURE 😳. It often comes with excessive perfectionism but it might have other sources too.
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This fear can paralyze you to this extend that when you are facing some task you keep postponing it for later and later 🙄 Do you know the feeling? I sure do. And in the end there’s so little time that you explain failure by lack of time 🙄
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How to prevent it? 🤔
1. If it’s perfectionism  that stands in the way and is a reason of fear and procrastination keep repeating this: „Something that is done is better than something perfect”! 🤗 If you have another favourite way of reminding yourself that it is better to do something  not perfect rather than not do it at all – use it! 😊
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2. Divide the task into smaller steps. This might reduce the fear of ton of work that is awaiting you. Reward yourself for each step that  you’ve accomplished 🎖

Now write down the steps of your task or goal.

Does it help?
 
Next week: Fear of success
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

Terrorism

How do you handle the threat of terrorism? Are you scared of e.g. travelling now? Are you afraid of going to concerts due to past events?
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As cold and insensitive as it may sound I think we should just live.
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Of course we live in scary times and we hear about terrorism more and more but you might just as well get hit by a bus in front of your house, you know?
I know it sounds horrible but we never know our day and hour that we’ll have our last breath. This is why it is so important to LIVE. We can’t get fear control our lives.
Am I supposed to cross off New Zealand or Sri Lanka out of my „places to go” list because of what happened there lately? Those are beautiful countries with lovely people and I still want to see them!
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Do you remember this horrible attack in Paris during a concert in November 2015? I remember I cried whole day cuddled into my Mom’s arms. It was really horrible to me because I used to call myself a ‘concertoholic’ and I used to go to 20-30 concerts a year then. I travelled to different countries to see my favourite bands so it could’ve been me. A concert is a moment of catharsis for me when I forget about all my problems, all my duties or tasks to do and I just get lost in the sound of music. I remember my Mom telling me to stop going to concerts after this attack in Paris but I didn’t. I won’t let some horrible people who do those horrible things make me change my life and the way I live it. I won’t let them make me live in fear.
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As I said, we never know when our time on this precious planet comes to an end and we need to make the fullest out of the time we got. ◾◾◾
What do you think? Do you agree?

 

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