Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 39

Let’s continue the subject of lost motivation 🤔
I have a question for you today: do you use your support in your moments of weakness? 🧐
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It might seem trivial but many people find asking for help difficult 🤷🏼‍♀️. It requires us presenting our weaknesses, showing our delicate site… 😬And if you’re a resourceful, independent and well-organized person asking for help might be even harder 😶.
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That’s why today I want to remind you of this important aspect: you don’t have to be alone with your crisis, your weaknesess and troubles! 🤗
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How to reach for help?
First of all, accept it that you don’t have to manage everything well all the time 😉. Everybody has their worse moments and it’s not a reason to be ashamed, to punish yourself or self-criticize (I hope that during those worse day you remember to be good to yourself! ⚠️) Give yourself the right to be weak, treat yourself with understanding and tenderness 🙏
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Secondly, find in your surroundings a person who you trust, feel safe with. Tell this person what you are struggling with, that you need support, ask how he/she can help you (maybe he/she can share his/her experience, listen to you, let you spill everything out…) 😊
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Before you say: „There’s no such person in my surroundings” think well first ☝️. Maybe it’s not that obvious to your if you rarely ask for help and support? 🤷🏼‍♀️ But avoid those who are always critical and rigorous 👎. That attitude is the last you need right now!
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Talk to someone who will help you organize your feelings, your thoughts 🤯. Maybe you’ll find a source of your discouragement and find a solution during that talk? 😊
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Task for today – answer couple questions:
➡️ People I can count on:
➡️ If it is difficult for you to ask for help, for support think what can be a reason of that? 🤔 Maybe you have some beliefs or fears in your mind? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Write them down and try finding a counterargument to each thought 📝
 
Next week: Lost motivation vs tiredness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-evolving

Chasing after perfect numbers

Are you chasing after perfect numbers? I know I am and it’s not good 😫👎
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I’ve realised that everything I do lately and everything I have I see in numbers 🔢. How many contracts have I installed at work (I work in an administration office), how many emails I’ve sent 📨, how many times I’ve worked out during a week 💪, how much weight I lost 🤗, how many centimeters I lost in hips, how many likes did I get on my latest post 😅, how many new followers I gained 🤩, how many books I’ve read…
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Dreaming of perfect weight 🤗 (a number), big Smiley Society community 👥 (number of followers), big comission at work 💰 (a number) and so on and so on… 🙄
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I’ve been chasing so hard after that that I got my panic attacks back and feel stressed all the time 😫
And what for?
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It’s not that working hard is bad and that we shouldn’t dream, of course we should but this has got to stop somewhere 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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We need to see above the numbers, see bigger goal in it. For example, let’s not focus on how much weight we’ve lost during a diet but let’s appreciate that we work on our health 🥦, that we try to eat better and take care of our body, that’s what matters 😉.
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Counting followers? Well, to be honest, I thought that at this time (almost 2 years of running Smiley Society) I thought there will be more of you here 😅 but thanks to this blog I got back to taking more pictures 📸, I bought mysefl a camera 📷, been learning how to edit photos and videos, I got back to writing (and in English!), I’ve been learning a lot on psychology in order to give that knowledge to you…there’s more to that than followers and even though I thought Smiley Society would be bigger by now, it made me work on myself, self-evolve and learn new things! ☺
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Counting money, commision? 💰 Sure, it’s important in life but you can’t put a number on most important things in life: love ❤, family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧, friends, health 😇, adventures, memories 😍…THOSE are the things that matter and that we (myself included) should focus on ⚠️
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What do you think? Do you agree? Are you chasing some numbers?

Be positive! · Self-evolving

Let’s support each other

Have you ever told somebody about your goals/dreams/a project you had started working on and heard laughter or some unpleasant response 😞? „You’re not gonna make it!”, „This is just stupid”, „Why would you wanna do that?”.
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Have you ever had a new dream or started working on some new goal and decided to keep it to yourself because you were scared of others’ reaction 🤷🏼‍♀️?
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Have you just stopped telling your close ones about your dreams or your accomplishments because you don’t feel like you have their support and nothing ever impresses them 💔?
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I know I have. I have 1 big project that I’m working on that my family doesn’t know about and 1 secret project that I haven’t told ANYONE about 🤐
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And you know what? This is not how it’s supposed to work 👎.
We should all SUPPORT each other, we should all BELIEVE in others and we should ALWAYS be happy for others’ successes and let them know that they did a good job/congratulate them 👏.
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We REALLY need to learn to be happy for others and to support them. Even if a friend of yours tells you about most obscure, to you 😉, dream, something that he/she wants sooo bad and works hard for it, even if it is totally uninteresting to you and you wouldn’t want a thing like that – support your friend, if it makes her/him happy be happy to her/him 🙏.
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And if you’re not supporting somebody because deep deep down inside you are jealous (come on, admit it 😉) of somebody’s accomplishmets be patient and learn to be happy for others. Your time will come too 🤩. It’s not a race where only 1 gets a reward. If somebody succeeded before you it doesn’t mean that you cannot succeed too! 🎖
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Let’s all help each other, support each other and lets openly talk about our dreams 💬
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So  tell me, what are you dreams? What have you been recently working on?
Whatever it is I BELIEVE IN YOU!! 🤗

Bez kategorii · Self-evolving

Communication

Do you know what’s key to good relationship?
Communication 😉
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And it’s not only about love relationships, it’s important to make any kind of relationship work – a friendship, a relation you have with your daughter, mom, neighbour, coworker. Anybody.
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We are ALL different. And nobody sits in your head, nobody reads your mind, believe me 😉. So when you don’t like something, when you need help with something you need to COMMUNICATE.
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Plenty woman (I used to be one of them) think that if they send „signals” to their partner he’ll know what she needs/means 😅 That if she says something between the lines about a movie she’d like to watch or talk about her friend’s new cosmetics he’ll instantly get the idea to take you to cinema to see that movie and he’ll buy those cosmetics for you 😅 No, this doesn’t work with men.
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Men and women work totally differently and so do our minds! You need to be loud and clear 😉
COMMUNICATE.
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It works like that with everybody. If you’re angry with your boss because he/she gives you so much work tell him/her politely (!) that you’re swamped and ask if he/she can maybe get one of your co-workers to help you, to divide some big task between 2-3 people, not just 1 🤷🏼‍♀️
TALK.
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If you’re frustrated with your friend because he keeps inviting you to places you don’t like or wants to do something you’re not fan of – tell him. He simply might not know that you don’t like it! I’m sure he doesn’t do it to make you angry, he’s just anaware of your negative feelings. Why? Because you’ve never told him that you e.g. don’t like bowling or eating at that Thai restaurant. 😉
LET HIM KNOW.
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We all need to talk more. Say what we think out loud. Don’t keep your thought or feelings to yourself. But remember, if it’s something negative think how to communicate it to your friend to not hurt his feelings 🙏. We should always be sincere and if you don’t like something you should say it but do it gently.

📸 pic taken in Zakhyntos in 2017

Be positive!

Queens

Girls (this posts is strictly for girls), how many girls out of your surrounding do you admire?
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How many girls (in everyday life or e.g. here on ig) inspire you? How many girls would you like to switch places with? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Now, how many girls have you said that, how you feel, that you admire her/them, that she’s doing good? 👍
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How many girls have said anything like that to you? How many girls feel motivated by you? Are they open about that?
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I feel like there’s some unhealthy competition between us, girls 🤷🏼‍♀️ Each one has to (or actually feels like they have to) be better than others. Some girls once they see others succeed get angry and jealous. Some even start to say bad things about the other one out of the jealousy.
Is this healthy?
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If some other girl succeeded you should be happy for her! You should congratulate her! 🤗Don’t be angry with her! Her achieving some goal doesn’t mean you can’t! It’s not like there’s limited place for successful ones!
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We should be all helping each other! Fixing our crowns! 👑 Motivating each other! Congratulating each other! 😚
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We are powerful together! And only when we stick together! 🤝
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Stop saying bad things about a girl who hasn’t done anything wrong but got successful. Take her as an example, be inspired, motivated by her! 😉
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There’s this saying I really like that fits here perfectly: „A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms”.
Don’t look at others (unless it’s for inspiration and motivation). Just bloom. 🌸

Be positive! · Self-evolving

Ignore unimportant people

Ignore comments and critisism from people who haven’t achieved anything ⚠️.
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Why would you listen to a person who knows nothing about the thing you’re doing (they would know something if they actually achieved a thing or two)? 🤷🏼‍♀️ They are simply jealous that you’re doing something and they’re not 🙄
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Haters are people who have big issues with themselves, those are people who are deeply sad and of very little self-esteem.
Don’t listen to them! ⚠️
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Listen to comments from people who actually know what you’re talking about, from people who have achieved their goals, from people who are masters in their field 💪. Those are the people who can help you get your goal ⚠️
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If they criticize your work they’re not jealous but they simply want to help you get on the right path❗Hear them, talk to them, remember what they said and use it.
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This is constructive criticism, not being a hater! Know the difference! 😉
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Haters gonna hate, you just do your thing and focus on the right people 🤗