Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 10

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— Step 10
Implementation intention meaning how to implement your plan into life.
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Last week you created a plan of action based on your stenghts 💪 Today we’re gonna add your weakneses and obstacles that you may come upon to it. To make it all work you’re gonna need implementation intention but don’t worry, it’s a simple mechanism that is very effective!
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How does it work? Imagine  possible future scenarios that can be obstacles to reaching your goal and then find a solution for it. Later create (and write down!) a sentence: „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” 😊
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Example: „If i’ll be eating out I’m gonna choose healthy and fit dish, for example a salad” 🥦. „If I won’t want to workout I’ll ask my close ones for support and cheering” 💪. „When I’ll be doing shopping I’ll go to a store with a prepared ‘to buy’ list” 🗒
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Creating  scenarios like this in your head is effective because it creates a connection between a situation/obstacle and your reaction to it. ⚠️ If a situation like this happens you won’t have to wonder what to do! You’ll work automatically because you’ve already excercised that scenario in your head 😉
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Making decisions (especially pushing temptations away 😅) requires a lot of energy from you and when you’re in a hurry or hungry you choose what’s easiest but not what’s best 🤔. You know what I’m talking about? Implementation intention is for those kind of situations!
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So let’s get to work! Try to think of as many situations in which you let go and lose your motivation. Find best reactions to them and write them down in „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” scheme 😊
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Next week: Process visualisation

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

📸 pic taken in Malta in 2016

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 7

You already summed up your last year, made a circle of life that showed you which part of life you should focus on and you set a SMART goal – specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and in time bound. Now it’s time to work on yourself and how to use both your strenghts AND weaknesses in achieving your goal 💪
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First of all say out loud what are your strenghts.
* What are you good at? 😁
* What comes easy for you? 🤔
* What are you effective at? 🙈 In what situations do you feel you have biggest impact on something, you feel your power? 💪
* Remind yourself of a difficult situation (at work, at home, some conflict or crisis) in which you did well. What skills, knowledge, experience helped you in it? 🤔
* What do your friends and family appreciate in you? 👍
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Now time for your external strenghts.
* On whose emotional support you can count? Who out of your family, close ones can and will give it to you? Who can you call in a moment of crisis, doubt? ☎️
* On whose support can you count? Who can give you good advice, some hints, answers when you need it? Who gives you honest feedback on how you’re doing? Apart from close ones this can be done in some Facebook groups, people trying to achieve same goal or fighting with similar difficulties. 💬
* What in your life situation will help you achieve this goal? Take your finances, moral support under consideration (e.g. friends/people who can help you create a nice CV, creat a well-balanced diet, create workout plan etc.) 🤔

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

SMILEY FUTURE – Step 6

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— Step 6 – Setting goals (I once posted it already but it’s an important reminder and next step in our Smiley Future)
Goals set right will help you UNDERSTAND the path you need to walk through, it will be easier for you to PLAN your next steps, it will be easier for you to CONTROL if it’s going good, there will be LESS PRESSURE and it will be easier for you to BE PERSISTANT 😊
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Goals need to set with a SMART method 🤓:
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S – Specific – Provide enough detail so that you know exactly what you should be doing. For example, stop setting goals such as „I need to lose 10kg in 3 months”. Make it more „I need to start eating more vegetables and workout 4 times a week” 🥦💪. This is more doable, you have more control over it (as you know exactly what you need to do) and there’s less pressure. Try sticking to it and just wait for results. Same with e.g. growing here on ig. Instead of setting a goal like „I need to get 1k new followers in a month” try „I need to post daily, take more colorful photos and interact with other users more”. Just do it and wait for the results 😉
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M – Measurable – A measurable goal has an outcome that can be assessed as a hit or miss ✔❌. So e.g. you can easily check whether you worked out 4 times this week or posted everyday.
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A – Achievable – An achievable goal has an outcome that is realistic given your current situation. Make sure you actually have the time 🕰 to workout 4 times a week or post daily. Don’t set such goal if you know you won’t make it.
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R – Realistic – Start small. If you set your goal too high („I need to lose 10kg in a month” or „I need to gain 10k followers in a month”) there’s too big pressure and you will give up quickly if you won’t see results you’d want 🤔
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T – Time Bound – Set a timeframe for the goal: „in three months”, „by six months”. Setting an end point for the goal gives you a clear target to achieve 🏁
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Now that you know how to set your goal right let me know what are your goals! 😊

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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About me · Self-evolving

2020 Plans

Planning. 📅
I hope that you are one of those people who plan or set some plans/resolutions for a new year because it is actually 1st step to change your list of „I want to have” into „I will have”! 😊
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Planning a whole new year isn’t easy so it’s best to divide it into categories (@drmattofficial set an example and we should all follow this man of success! 😊 )
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So here’s my plans for 2020, probably irrelevant to most of you but I’d like to say them „out loud” to give them more „power”:
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1. Health: eat less meat, take regular suplements, be active, lose 7 more kg 🥦
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2. Sport: get to best shape ever, improve my stamina 💪
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3. Skills: work on my Spanish, get back to playing piano, take course in photography, keep learning how to edit videos 🇪🇸🎹
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4. Relationships: spend more time with friends, have a girly trip, call people more 🤳💃
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5. Family: be an even better wife, daughter, sister and aunt ❤
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6. Experience: visit a new country, learn more about different cultures 🌎🕌
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7. Work/ my projects: build a plot of my 2nd novel and start writing it, go back to organizing more concerts for PRoxy, keep working on my blog ✒🎶
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8. Education: get back to University, start doing Masters, read more scientific articles 👩‍🎓
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9. Finances: start earning from my projects, build a habit of saving up 💰
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10. Lifestyle: stress less, take up yoga, keep good work-life balance 🙏
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And I am so excited to do it all! 😊

About me · Self-evolving

2019 sum up

2019 was a difficult and challenging year but still good in the end.
Lets forget all the sad and hard things about it, all the loss, all the health issues and focus only on the good things 🤗: -I had my 1st ever professional photo shoot 📸
-Finally after 7 years of work I published my 1st novel! 📖
-I had bunch of press and radio interviews & book signing meetings ✒
-I met my mentor @chodakowskaewa 😍
-I had my 1st magazine cover 📰
-I got back to driving 😅🚗
-I had many amazing evenings with amazing friends 😘
-I had 2 book meetings at libraries where people actually discussed about my book 😍
-We had our 1st wedding anniversary in Italy! 💑🍕🍝
-I had a nice trip with my family, I think we started a new tradition! ❤
-I’ve been to UK 🤗
-I’ve been growing my blog @smileysociety 🤩
-I’ve arranged a surprise trip to Poznań for my hubby 😁
-I got back to beautiful Vienna after 15 years 😍
-I lost 5 kg 💪
-I visited beautiful Morocco 🕌
-I’ve arranged a surprise trip to SPA for my Mom ❤
-I finally started working on my 2nd novel ✒
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Can’t wait for 2020!!! So many great stuff planned 😁
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And as it is end of the decade today too (for me) time for quick sum up of those last 10 years! 😅
– I graduated high school 👩‍🎓
-I did a bachelor degree in Economics 📃
-I lived in London for a year where I had 3 interships in music agency 🎶
-I started my own music agency 😍
-I’ve been to over 150 concerts 🎙🎸🎶
-I’ve visited 13 countries 🌎
-I had 6 tattoos done 🤪
-I bought an apartment 🏡
-I got married 💒

I just love my life! ❤
So grateful for everything and everyone 🙏

Motivation

Setting your goals

When following dreams one of most important things is to set your goals right. Goals set right will help you UNDERSTAND the path you need to walk through more, it will be easier for you to PLAN your next steps, it will be easier for you to CONTROL if it’s going good, there will be LESS PRESSURE and it will be easier for you to BE PERSISTANT 😊
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Goals need to set with a SMART method 🤓. That’s right, SMART:
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S – Specific – Provide enough detail so that you know exactly what you should be doing. For example, stop setting goals such as „I need to lose 10kg in 3 months”. Make it more „I need to start eating more vegetables and workout 4 times a week” 🥦💪. This is more doable, you have more control over it (as you know exactly what you need to do) and there’s less pressure. Try sticking to it and just wait for results. Same with e.g. growing here on ig. Instead of setting a goal like „I need to get 1k new followers in a month” try „I need to post daily, take more colorful photos and interact with other users more”. Just do it and wait for the results 😉
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M – Measurable – A measurable goal has an outcome that can be assessed as a hit or miss ✔❌. So e.g. you can easily check whether you worked out 4 times this week or posted everyday.
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A – Achievable – An achievable goal has an outcome that is realistic given your current situation. Make sure you actually have the time 🕰 to workout 4 times a week or post daily. Don’t set such goal if you know you won’t make it.
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R – Realistic – Start small. If you set your goal too high („I need to lose 10kg in a month” or „I need to gain 10k followers in a month”) there’s too big pressure and you will give up quickly if you won’t see results you’d want 🤔
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T – Time Bound – Set a timeframe for the goal: „in three months”, „by six months”. Setting an end point for the goal gives you a clear target to achieve 🏁
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Now that you know how to set your goal right let me know what are your goals!
Mine are: eat healthy + workout 3-4 times a week, post 5 times a week + take more colorful photos and read at least 60 pages a week 😊

Be positive!

Relationships

It is now scientifically proven that healthy relationships 👫🏼 (both love ones and with friends and family) is the most important factor of being happy AND a key to a long life ⚠️⚠️⚠️ (yes, people live longer when they have good relationships).

Look around you and see who do you spend time with. Think if your friends really are your friends. Can you count on them?

Do you have a partner? Are you happily in love? Does she/he believe in you? Help you?

Life is too short to be around people who bring negative vibes into your life! Get rid of those prople and exclude them from your life. Don’t „be friends” with someone who doesn’t believe in you, who doesn’t have your back. This is not a friend! True friend will always be on your side, will always be there for you and will believe in you on matter what. Look for those kind of people!
It is so important to have someone like that! 😊

And same with a partner. Your wife/husband needs to belive in you, support you, be there for you not only in good times but especially in bad times. 🤗

I am SO lucky to have a friend in my husband. We keep saying that what is most important in our relationship is that we like each other. Not just love but like each other as another person. 💓
+ He takes care of me everyday 😊❤

It is 3 years that we are together (seems so much longer!) and we’ve been already living together for 2.5 years and been married for 10 months! 💑
Thank you for those 3 amazing years baby! ❤❤❤
P.S. MARLA is our nickname as a couple – MARcin + poLA