Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 71

We’re almost at the end of our Smiley Future cycle! 😀
Let’s sum up practicing gratitude – have you managed to practice it in your everyday activities? 🤔
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Which of those practicing gratitude excercises has proved to be best for you?
🔸️ Finding 3 reasons to be grateful everyday in the evening (step 56)
🔸️ Showing gratitude towards other people (step 57)
🔸️ Gratitude towards your body (step 58)
🔸️ Gratitude for what’s not material (step 59)
🔸️ Gratitude for your surroundings (step 60)
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Has practicing gratitude had an impact on you, your surroundings? 🤔 If yes, in what way?
Write down your reflections 📝
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Next week: Last step – Summing up all Smiley Future steps
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Be positive!

Don’t take anything for granted!

We all tend to appreciate something more once we lose it 🤔. We miss a friend we’ve lost even though we found him/her so irritating when he/she was around 🤷🏼‍♀️. The second you lose something you realise how much you’ve liked and needed it yet you’ve never thought about it when you still had that thing with you 🤔.
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You probably never been grateful for being able to travel or to party or to simply go to a restaurant and to have a nice dinner, have you? Yet once we’ve lost those options last year we’ve realised how important those options are for us. To be able to see your friends, to see a band you love live or to simply leave your house without fear.
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I think 2020 and 2021 have taught us a lot, especially not to take ANYTHING for granted. We need to appreciate everything we own, every moment we experience, every day simply living 🙏
That’s the key to gratitude and to a happy life 💓
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So now as we’re slowly getting back to normality, as we’re slowly getting all the options to eat out, to see our friends, to travel again let’s all appreciate even more 🙏 Lets all appreciate that sip of coffee in a coffehouse that has been closed for months, lets all appreciate every step we take outside our houses we’ve been in for so long. Lets appreciate it all AND, what’s most important, lets make that feeling of appreciation and gratitude stick with us for good 🙏❤
Have a great week guys 😘

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 60

Time for last step of practicing gratitude 🙏. Today I encourage you to look around your closest surroundings. Think about the place you live in and think what you can be grateful for 🤗.
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Today’s task might help you in that: imagine that someone close to you visits you and has never been in that area before 😉. Take a moment to sit down and plan out your day together in your surroundings where you’ll be showing your favourite spots, you’ll invite to try out your favourite activities, use local attractions etc 😉.
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Try making this plan very subjective and personal 😊. Even if you’re not a big fan of your surroundings or you know every bit of it I am sure that there are things you haven’t done here (or haven’t done in a while) waiting for a special occassion 😉.
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Once you finish creating that plan… take yourself on a trip! 😀
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If you want, you can invite someone to join you of course but there’s one condition: spend this day fully aware and grateful 🙏. Look at what surrounds you from different perspective with fresh eyes, open mind and heart ❤.
Enjoy!
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Next week: Stages of change
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrow”
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P.s. Have you ever had spinach waffles? 😀

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 59

How did you like practicing gratitude towards your body last week? 🤔 Today I invite you to do this exercise but taking something totally different as the subject of gratitude 😉
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➡️ Task for today: focus on what’s not material. Bring your attention to intangible reasons to be grateful, not related to owning something: going to a cinema with your friends 🎬 (maybe not nowadays but after covid era😅), having an evening to yourself 🧘🏼‍♀️, a smile of a stranger you pass by 😊, romantic dinner with your other half 😍, a nice workout 💪 – there are plenty examples
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In the end this excercise might not be that easy as those moments – especially those small ones that you have everyday – easily get missed out on, you take them for granted 🤷🏼‍♀️. We tend to appreciate them from time to time only (when it’s somebody’s birthday, wedding, you attend your favourite concert etc).
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Although due to pandemic I think we’re all gonna enjoy our first beer/drink🥂 in a pub after a lockdown, seeing a movie in a cinema 🎫 or attending a concert 🎶 much more than we used to couple years ago 😀.
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If you want, you can start a special jar to „keep” special moments like those by putting notes with special memories of such moments 🤩. Thanks to it you’ll have the possibility of going back to them in hard/worse times simply by reading them and reminding of those good days 🤗. Apart from that, it feels good to see the jar getting full – this way you get a physical proof that you have plenty reasons to feel grateful every day! 😀
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Next week: Gratitude for your surroundings
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 58

Let’s continue learning about gratitude 🙏. Today I want you to try out this excercise that is great for practicing self-love and crucial for people who work on their body or try to lose weight 😊.
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Question for today: what are your grateful for in your body? 🤔
Sit down comfortably and bring your whole attention to gratitude towards your body.
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If nothing comes to your mind here’s an example: feel grateful for your feet 👣 that carry you every day, for your legs thanks to which you can walk, run and dance 💃, for your stomach that digests, cleanses and nourishes 🤗, for your back that carry you tall and proud 😎 or let you safely curl up and hide when you need it, for your arms and hands 🤲 thanks to which you can work, hold, hug, pet. Feel grateful for your voice 💬 thanks to which you can express your thoughts and feelings, sing, shout or laugh, for your eyes 👀 that let you see, for your ears 👂 that let your hear, for nose 👃 and tongue 👅 that can taste, that ease your appetite and ability to appreciate smells and flavours.
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If you want, you can try out this excercise in a form of meditation or relaxation 🧘🏼‍♀️ – lay down in a comfortable position, close your eyes, let your body loose and think what are you grateful for in your body, thank it, thank yourself 🤗
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Next week: Gratitude for what’s not material
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 57

Let’s continue our practicing gratitude and try out another excercise 🙏. Task for today is feeling (and showing) gratitude towards others 🤩. How can you do it?
➡️ 1. Notice, appreciate and thank others (close ones, coworkers etc) for every little (and easy to miss) gestures coming from them 🙏. Bring your attention to everything that you get from them: attention, support, help 🤝. Short conversation 💬, making a tea when you feel sick 😪, helping in solving a problem, a text showing  that somebody thinks of you in a difficult moment….
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When you concentrate on noticing and appreciating those details, you’ll see that you have plenty more reasons to feel grateful that you’ve thought before 🤩
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➡️ 2. Notice, appreciate and thank strangers who you meet along your way e.g. as a customer. It can be a mindful waiter 😊, friendly saleswoman 🤗, a clerk with a smile on his face 😁, bus driver that waits for you to get in before he drives away 🚃… Notice those specific things that others do for you and feel grateful 😍
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Do you notice those little deeds from others in your everyday life? 🤔 I sure do and I’m always grateful for every little help or support I get from others but on the other hand I feel sad/disappointed when others do not notice/appreciate what I do for them and take it for granted 💔
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Do you feel the same way?
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Next week: Gratitude towards your body
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

P.s. Check out my Instagram for a tutorial how to make those cute Easter decorations!

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 56

I hope that last week’s step nr 55 about gratitude got you interested and ready to practice it! 🤗 You’re  ready? Let’s get to today’s task straight away! 🤩
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For the next couple of days (until our next step in a week) every night when you’re laying in bed already think of 3 things that you are grateful for in that exact moment 🙏. Notice how you feel before that excercise and how you feel afterwards. Does something change? 🤔 Does it get easier with time to find reasons to be grateful? 😊
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So as not to forget about this excercise stick a note next to your bed with a reminder 📌.
How do you like that excercise? Maybe you’ll practice it every night from now on? 🤗
Write down your reflections 📝
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Today I am grateful for my friends, for the support I get from my husband and for our financial situation 😊🙏
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Next week: Gratitude towards other people
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 55

Admit it, how many times during a weekend you think of Monday and you feel scared and angry already? 🤬 Got you! 😉 In the next few steps we’ll practice empowering your attitude that can improve quality of your life and increase your happiness 🤩.
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And that attitude is gratitude so feeling satisfied and appreciating what you’ve got (or not), what surrounds you and what you experience 🤗.
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Human tendency to notice negatives 👀 and danger 💥 can be explained by evolution – this perceptivity saved our ancestors plenty times yet complaining is something more 🙄.
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Constant complaining is a habit. Good news is that – as every habit – you can work on it and habit of complaining can be replaced with gratitude 😉.
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You’re probably wondering what it has to do with strong will and perseverance? 🤔
Practicing gratitude:
🔅Lowers stress (and that empowers willpower, remember?) 📉
🔅 Lowers tension, levels excessive expectations and frustration (that can lead to total giving up on your goal at first obstacle) 🙏
🔅 Helps noticing small successes and strong points that empowers motivation and perseverance 🎯
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As Robert Emmons and Robin Stern say „Clinical trials show that practicing gratitude can have dramatic and lasting positive effects on a person’s life. It can reduce blood pressure, improve immunity, promote happiness and life satisfaction, generate behaviors such as helping others, generosity and cooperation. Additionally, gratitude reduces the risk of depression, anxiety and addiction” 🤩
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Have I convinced you? Let’s start our today’s task 😉:
➡️ How often do you feel gratitude?
➡️ What are you grateful for?
➡️ Is feeling grateful dificult or easy for you?
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Next week: Practicing gratitude – excercise 🙏
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

Stop living in a bubble!

Stop living in a bubble! 😉 Stop daydreaming, stop comparing yourself and start appreciating what you’ve got! 🤩
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You know what word should be deleted from a dictionary and be banned forever? 🚫 ‘Perfect’. 🙄
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Nothing is perfect, no one is perfect and will never be 😏
We tend to compare our lives with some unrealistic scenarios 💁🏼‍♀️. We tend to compare ourselves with unreal people (yes, that famous model in your magazine isn’t real because in real world she doesn’t look like she’s presented in the photo 🙄). It’s as if we were comparing our life to a Disney movie! 🤦🏼‍♀️
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All people have ups and downs. All people have their worse moments. All couples fight. All families have their own problems. ⚠️
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Believe me, even if someone seems perfect to you, I am more than SURE that he/she isn’t, that he/she is struggling with something, that he/she has their own problems 🤷🏼‍♀️
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And hey! Maybe there’s a person that thinks of you as perfect? 😉 Beucase maybe on the outside you seem to have it all? 💁🏼‍♀️
You’ll always have something that somebody else doesn’t and at the same time you’ll always lack something that some other people have ⚠️. That’s just the way it is and we need to stop chasing after unreal goals 🚫
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Nobody has it all.
Now just stop and look what you have. Cherish it. Appreciate it. 🙏

What do you think? Do you agree?

Self-evolving

How to easily change your mindset

Stop thinking „I have to” and start thinking „I can”. 💪
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This is the easiest and most effective way to find what you should be grateful for 🤗
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Instead of thinking „Damn, I have to go to work tomorrow 🙄” think „I can work! I didn’t lose job during coronavirus shutdown and I can keep on earning money 💪!”.
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Instead of thinking „I have to make dinner, I so don’t feel like it 🙄” think „I can make dinner! I have all the ingredients in the fridge and I don’t have to walk around being hungry, I am so lucky 😋!”
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Instead of thinking „I have to ride 300km to see my Mom, it’s so far away 🙄” think „I can still catch a train and go see her, not everyone is so lucky as so many people already lost their moms ❤”.
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It’s not only about finding the reasons why you should be grateful but once you start thinking like that, once you start seeing your life as a list of opportunities and not tasks that you HAVE TO do you’ll feel more willing to do them! 😉
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Words „have to” bring this pressure and tension, when you hear someone saying „you have to do this” you don’t feel like doing it at all 🤷🏼‍♀️, it works another way round.
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„I can” attitude will make you feel more willing to actually do those things, you won’t feel that pressure and you’ll do those tasks with a smile on your face! 😊
Try it out!