Do you know the saying „The appetite grows with what it feeds on.”? 🤔 The more people have, the more they want and this saddens me 😔. When will those people be happy? 🤷♀️ They’re chasing all the time to have more and more and in the end they never have enough, they are never happy. Isn’t is easier and better to appreciate what we have? 🤷♀️
To be grateful and to be happy all the time and even HAPPIER when you get something new, something better? 🤔
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There are people in Africa or South America who don’t have much, who struggle to survive and yet they are so much happier than people who have so much more. Because they appreciate what they have 🙏, because they are happy about the simple things like having food or a roof over their head. We should learn from them!
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I know we shouldn’t compare ourselves but in this case do it. Compare what you have to those poor people who hardly have anything. Compare the conditions you live in with wifi, shower 🚿, Netflix and/or Playstation 🎮 to the conditions they live in with a bucket of warm water to clean themselves with, with one wooden toy for all 6-7 children and no idea what wifi is (not everybody there lives like that of course but there are plenty people/houses who do).
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Do you still think that you don’t have much? That you live in bad conditions? 😶 Compare your life in which you are able to go to a cinema, to travel, to see your favourite band live with the life of e.g. Cubans who can’t travel (they don’t have passports), who hardly get any access to international movies 🎬 or music 🎵, who use their day off to stand in line for several hours in front of a grocery shop to get any food yet they still go out to the streets and laugh, dance and love life. Do you still think your life is so bad?
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There’s one simple rule to have a happy life – look down on those who have less when building gratitude 🙏 and look up for those who have more to build motivation 💪 and to get inspired. And never do it the other way round 😉.
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10 easy steps for a happy life
1. Learn to appreciate what you’ve got 🙏
2. Follow your dreams 💫
3. Focus on positives, not negative things 👍
4. Stop overthinking 🤯
5. Learn to accept the things you cannot control 😉
6. Laugh a lot 🤣
7. Always find time for friends & family 👩❤️👨
8. Practice self-love, take care of yourself 💗
9. Don’t compare yourself to others ⚠️
10. Help others 🤝
Different worlds
In times like these some of everyday problems seem so unimportant.
I may be worried that my dish didn’t turn out as I’d wish while there are hundreds of thousands of people ‘next door’ who don’t have anything to eat 😔.
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I may be worried that there’s a stain on my favourite jumper and that it’s ruined while there are people freezing to death not that far away from me 💔.
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I may be worried that I didn’t do as much as I wished at work this week while there are people without jobs and/or money who’d love to just get back to work, instead they’re fighting for their lives 😪.
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I guess it’s always been like that, there’s always been a war somewhere in the world while I was watching Netflix, there’s always been people struggling to get any food while I overcooked a dinner, there’s always been people freezing somewhere in the world while I’ve been walking in my penguin onesie in my warm home.
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Sadly there’s always been people with better, beautiful lifes while other fight to survive 💔
The key is to:
a) appreciate what we got, cherish every moment of our peaceful life with simple problems
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b) help those in need as much as we can.
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I LOVE my life. I love that I’m able to eat/cook anything I want 🥑🥓🍕. I love my apartment, the fact that I live in the city center and have everything close 🏡 . I am grateful for my family and friends ❤. I love that I am able to travel ✈️, to learn new things.
I just love it all.
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And you?
What do you like/love about your life?
What are you grateful for?
Appreciate your time
Do you appreciate your time? Do you value it? 🤔
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„Time is a currency you can only spend once” – remember about it! ⚠️
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There are plenty things that you can get back after losing it 😉 – any material thing of course but abstract things like relationship 💏, trust 🤝or confidence 💪 can be brought back to you too!
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Yet there are 2 things that you can’t get back once you lose it – health and time 😬. As much as with modern medicine and some cures you can get your health back in some cases, you will never get lost time back. 😔
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That’s why it is so important to choose wisely what you do with it but also to cherish your time, to appreciate the time you have for yourself 🙏.
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If you don’t feel like you belong somewhere (you’re bored and not learning anything at work 🤷♀️, you’re invisible and being ignored at a party 🙄, you’re pouring your heart out and not getting anything in return in a relationship 💔…) just drop it. Don’t waste your time on a job you dislike, on hobbies you’re not passionate about or on people who don’t care about you 😚.
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Cherish your time, this is the most expensive value/currency you’ve got 💰. Use it to spend it on something that matters to you, something that is important to you 😉.
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Also remember to save some time for yourself 🙏, to regenerate, to get your energy back. Stop putting others’ needs first – if you booked some time for yourself and somebody calls you asking for help or simply to spend some time with him/her just be open about your needs and say that you want and need to spend some time on your own ❤ (unless it’s really urgent and somebody really needs your help). There’s nothing bad about it! 😉
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Everybody needs and should have some me-time from time to time! This is the time where we truly relax, truly are ourselves. Respect that need and that time! 🙏
A ticking bomb above my head
There’s a ticking bomb above my head 🤯.
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I’m turning 30 soon. Quite a milestone 😅.
I had plenty goals that I wanted to achieve by being 30 🤔. Even this year, I wanted to accomplish couple more things by that big day. And I failed 😬.
But did I? 😉
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Same as in my previous post about noticing positives in everything – it’s about noticing what you HAVE accomplished, not about what you didn’t manage to do 😉.
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And I personally think that I’ve accomplished a lot 😛. I published a book 📖 and even had famous Polish director talking about it, I write/publish those posts here for over 13 000 people and it melts my heart when I get a DM from one of you from time to time saying that you love what I’m doing or that I actually really have helped you (LOVE IT ❤), I got married to an amazing human being 🥰, my partner in crime and my best friend, I have an amazing home 🏡, amazing family, amazing friends 👯, I’ve been able to travel to so many places 🏛🏝, see so many bands live 🎶… it’s been such an amazing life so far, trully! ❤
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And I have so many more ideas for next years, for future projects!
So in the end… I’m so excited to hit 30s and carry on with this happy, positive life! 😃
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And how about you? Are you happy about your life? Are you focusing on positives? 😊
Smiley Future – Step 71
We’re almost at the end of our Smiley Future cycle! 😀
Let’s sum up practicing gratitude – have you managed to practice it in your everyday activities? 🤔
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Which of those practicing gratitude excercises has proved to be best for you?
🔸️ Finding 3 reasons to be grateful everyday in the evening (step 56)
🔸️ Showing gratitude towards other people (step 57)
🔸️ Gratitude towards your body (step 58)
🔸️ Gratitude for what’s not material (step 59)
🔸️ Gratitude for your surroundings (step 60)
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Has practicing gratitude had an impact on you, your surroundings? 🤔 If yes, in what way?
Write down your reflections 📝
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Next week: Last step – Summing up all Smiley Future steps
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”
Smiley Future – Step 69
Today let’s focus on summing up on your tools which we used for the last 16 months in our Smiley Future 🤗. Which ones became most useful to you? 🤔
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Here’s a list of those most important ones:
🔸️ Building a goal with SMART method (step 6)
🔸️ Implementation intention (step 10)
🔸️ Process visualisation with positive or negative outcome (step 11)
🔸️ Training will power: reducing stress (step 17), improving your willpower by breathing (step 18), autoobservation (step 19), beating tiredness and feeling burnt out (step 20), finding the source of your ‘I desire’ power (step 20) – which of those elements did you find most useful?
🔸️ Ways of being good to yourself (step 25)
🔸️ Ways of deferring gratification (step 30)
🔸️ Ways of beating procrastination (step 32)
🔸️ Ways to fight lack of motivation (step 37)
🔸️ Working on your sabotagin thoughts (step 42-45)
🔸️ Observing the impact of emotions on your willpower (step 47)
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Which one of those tools helped you most? 🤔
In what way can you use them in the future?
Write down your reflections 📝
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Next week: Summing up: Practicing mindfullness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”
Smiley Future – Step 68
Today we’re gonna continue summing everything up ✔. I highly encourage you to reflect on what subjects were most important to you, what did you discover about yourself? 🧐 To make it easier here’s a list of the subjects we went through:
🔸️Training strong will
🔸️Mind traps
🔸️Be good to yourself
🔸️Procrastinating
🔸️Deffering gratification
🔸️Sabotaging thoughts
🔸️Emotions vs will power
🔸️Mindfullness
🔸️Practicing gratitude
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Which out of those subjects touched you the most, made you reflect most, opened your eyes? 🤔
Will those be helpful in the future? How can you use them?
Write down your thoughts 📝
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Next week: Summing up: Your tools
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”
SELF LOVE: 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care pt.2
Time for 2nd part of our 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care! Last week we did first 6, now time for 6 more! 🤗
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30 ways of practicing self-love/self-care:
🔸️ 7. Have some propper me-time. If you don’t live by yourself be open about it and simply ask your partner or roommate to leave you by youreslf because you need some time by yourself. I learned that last year to simply tell my husband that I need e.g. to watch some girly movie by myself, I leave him by himself in living room and go to bedroom to have some me-time 😉
🔸️ 8. Practice gratitude 🙏 – we have so many things to be grateful for! Your health, your close ones, roof over your head, your surrounding… notice what you really have! 😊 So many people lack it and dream of those things!
🔸️ 9. Be creative! 🤩 Put your emotions on paper and write a story or take some paints and try painting! 🎨 If you’re not a fan of those 2 activities you can try decoupaging, knitting, taking pictures, singing, playing some instruments… there are so many ways to be creative! 🤗 This is what got me through lockdown! Coloring is what makes me relaxed, gets my thoughts away and lets me calm down so I got this BrushMe set 😀 – you get a painting with a set of paints with numbers and all you need to do is to paint right color in the right spot and you can create an amazing picture like I did here! Have you tried one of those?
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🔸️ 10. Spend as much time in nature as possible! 😍 Especially now, in the spring/summer! 🌞 Fresh air and nice views make us calmer and more energetic!
🔸️ 11. End all toxic relationships 😉. Anyone who makes you feel anything less than amazing doesn’t deserve to be a part of your life. If you get/havve a hater in social media – block him/her immediately. We don’t need that 🚫
🔸️ 12. Celebrate your wins no matter how big or small 😀. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved!
Another 6 ways of of practicing self-love and self-care coming next week!
Don’t take anything for granted!
We all tend to appreciate something more once we lose it 🤔. We miss a friend we’ve lost even though we found him/her so irritating when he/she was around 🤷🏼♀️. The second you lose something you realise how much you’ve liked and needed it yet you’ve never thought about it when you still had that thing with you 🤔.
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You probably never been grateful for being able to travel or to party or to simply go to a restaurant and to have a nice dinner, have you? Yet once we’ve lost those options last year we’ve realised how important those options are for us. To be able to see your friends, to see a band you love live or to simply leave your house without fear.
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I think 2020 and 2021 have taught us a lot, especially not to take ANYTHING for granted. We need to appreciate everything we own, every moment we experience, every day simply living 🙏
That’s the key to gratitude and to a happy life 💓
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So now as we’re slowly getting back to normality, as we’re slowly getting all the options to eat out, to see our friends, to travel again let’s all appreciate even more 🙏 Lets all appreciate that sip of coffee in a coffehouse that has been closed for months, lets all appreciate every step we take outside our houses we’ve been in for so long. Lets appreciate it all AND, what’s most important, lets make that feeling of appreciation and gratitude stick with us for good 🙏❤
Have a great week guys 😘
How to be HAPPY 