Do you compliment strangers as often as you complain? Do you thank people who serve you a meal in a restaurant and say how happy you are with their service? Do you praise people who help you out on a helpline? Are you open to say a nice thing to a stranger when he/she does something extra for you? 🙏
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I work in a contact center and I talk to many clients everyday and I’ve noticed that 90% of people either argue and complain 😡 or say nothing at all. It is honestly so rare when I get a phone call or an email from a client just thanking me and saying that he’s very happy with my services and that I’ve helped him a lot.
Why don’t people say nice things as often as bad ones?
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It is same with reviews. People usually leave reviews on restaurant or hotel when they have some remarks to share and things to complain about. Can you relate? Have you ever written a complaint? I’m sure you have. But have you ever written an email/review saying „I have nothing to complain about, everything was perfect, thank you for your services”? 😉 I try to do it as often as sending those less happy emails. We all need to thank ourselves for being nice/helpful too! Not just complaining! 🤗
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And it doesn’t have to be only about services and talking to strangers businesswise! Thank/compliment your friends or collegues on daily basis too!
For example, couple weeks ago I asked my boss for a one-on-one meeting. She was 100% sure that I want to complain about something whereas I surprised her and said „So as not to come to you only to complain and talk about injustices in our team or short bonus I actually wanted to come to you and to thank you”. She was shocked. Nobody has ever asked her for a meeting just to thank her for what she’s doing.
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Do you know what I mean now?
Do you think you could do the same?
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Please lets all try to compliment more than complain or at least to say nice things as often as bad things! 🤗
Tag: happy
Free happiness!
Some people say you can’t be happy without money 💰.
Don’t get me wrong, money are much needed and useful obviously BUT don’t forget about happy things you can get FOR FREE!
1. Beautiful sunsets – it won’t cost you anything yet sometimes it can take your breath away! 🌅
2. Hug / kiss – hugging or kissing your friend / partner definitely won’t cost you anything yet it will make you feel loved, needed and happy 💏
3. Smile – smile at others! Even at the strangers. It will also go a long way and will make anyone’s mood better ☺
4. Long walk in the mountains or forest – long walks are very useful as you will clear your mind, relax and get new ideas 🏞
5. Appreciate the blue sky. Is it a pretty day? If so, head outside and enjoy the pretty blue sky. Allow yourself to give thanks for the beautiful day 🌝
6. Volunteer Your Time. Volunteering your time is a great way to help others and get enjoyment at the same time. Whether it’s a soup kitchen or an animal shelter, there are many places that could benefit from a helping hand 🤝
7. Meditate. Take some time to rest, relax, and center your mind to find happiness 🧘🏼♀️
8. Make A Grateful List. Writing down the things that you are grateful for can instantly make you happy ✒
See?
And there’s so much more of free things/activities that can make you happy!
You don’t need money to be happy, believe me! 😊
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Learn to be grateful
Learn to be grateful
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I’ve already said it and I’ll keep repeating – key to being happy is to be grateful 🙏. You need to learn to appreciate what you have, to feel happy about the little things, to feel gratitude 🤗. You can’t take anything for granted, even such „simple” (some would say 🙄) things as being able to see or having a roof over your head.
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If you think that you don’t have anything to be grateful for go and do a volunteering at a hospice 🏥 or child care home 🏠. Talk to those poor children, ask them what makes them happy, tell them your story and see what they think about it, if you really don’t have anything to be grateful for 😏.
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Go and spend a day with a blind person. Or even better – cover your eyes for 1 whole day and try to live and do normal every-day activities.
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Go and live on a street for one night. Try to get some food. Find a place to sleep 😨.
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Still nothing to be grateful for?
Think about it. ⚠️
People keep forgeting about the most basic things and they tend to take them for granted whereas we should be grateful to be healthy, to be able to see, to have a family, to have 2 hands and 2 legs everyday. ⚠️
I sure am. 🙏
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Mondays – yay or nay
How do you feel about Mondays?
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Do you hate them? Do you get up unhappy? Are you counting days down to Friday?
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If you feel unhappy Monday to Friday and you live only for the weekends there is something seriously wrong. 💔
Weekdays take 5/7 of a week (duuuh 😅) and so days from Monday to Friday, workdays, take 5/7th of your life. That is over 70%! Do you want to be unhappy 70% of your life? 💔
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If you really can’t stand workdays and you’re only happy during the weekend then you need to make a BIG CHANGE. Either with your attitude, hobbies or simply change your job if that’s what makes you so miserable.🤷🏼♀️
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Try to do some fun stuff in the evenings of workdays too. You can go to a cinema on a Tuesday after work, you can meet with a friend on a Wednesday and go bowling on a Thursday. Whatever makes you happy, do it during weekdays too!
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It is finally summer time so you can take nice walks, go on a bike ride or go geocaching with a friend (if you don’t know what Geocaching is go to my stories highlights and watch „Ideas for FUN” part. I’m going to put some ideas for fundays in that section from time to time so you can use it during weekdays too!) everyday after work.
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If that doesn’t help and your Mondays still suck cause you get up frustrated that you need to go to work…maybe just change it? 🤷🏼♀️ Try doing what you like. Ideally follow your passion and make it your job but if that’s impossible (although I believe that with hard work it never is 💪) try to think what you like doing and match it with some workplace.
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Try googling if your city council has a work advisor that can sit down with you, talk to you, find out what you like and help you find a job that you’d like going to. I know my city has a whole bunch of people who do that so perhaps there is something similiar in your city too.
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Seriously, life is not worth living if you’re unhappy most of the time. Try and make your job likable. Try changing something so that you’d wake up on Monday with a smile! 😊
Endorphins
What do you know about endophin, famous hormone of happiness?
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Endorphins are chemicals produced naturally by the nervous system to cope with pain or stress. They are often called “feel-good” chemicals because they can act as a pain reliever and happiness booster.
The well-known “runner’s high” that is felt after lengthy, vigorous exercise is due to an increase in endorphin levels.
The level of endorphins in the human body varies from person to person. People who have lower levels may be more likely to have depression or fibromyalgia, but more research is needed in this area.
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How to get your body to produce more endorphins?
Here are couple ways to boost the production:
🔸️Regular exercise 💪
🔸️Giving (Volunteering, donating, and helping others may also make a person feel good) 🤝
🔸️Yoga and meditation 🧘🏼♀️
🔸️Spicy foods 🌶
🔸️Dark chocolate 🍫
🔸️Laughing 😂
Did you know all this?
I think i’m gonna go get some dark chocolate 😋
Little things
We’ve learned about gratitude (see my previous post) now it’s time to learn to notice those little things/aspects we need to be grateful for. 👀
In my yesterday’s post I wrote about being grateful and noticing big aspects like being healthy, having family or not being blind but today I want you to learn how to be happy about the little things. This is another KEY TO HAPPINESS. ⚠️⚠️⚠️ Good stuff won’t happen to you everyday, let’s face it. But in order to be happy everyday you need to smile at the little things. 😊 Like the color of the sky, good weather or delicious food 😋. If you think about it, good things DO happen to you everyday, you just need to look for them sometimes. 😁
Look around you, stop for a moment and look at other people. Have a look at colors of your surrounding. Appreciate small gestures from other people like a waiter taking care of you and being friendly in a restaurant or a doctor that wants to help you and take care of your comfort ❤. Look at the street you pass everyday, notice its buildings and their details. We tend to be in rush all the time and doing many things automatically. Stop.⚠️ You need to be present in a moment to appreciate here and now.⚠️
Focus on the things you’re doing. Stop doing everything automatically. Your mind is off then and it doesn’t appreciate the things that are happening. Before you start eating your meal stop and appreciate its colors, its smell. 👃
Just slow down and try to be present.❤
This is called MINDFULLNESS. There are many excercises to develop it so you appreciate some situations or moments more and do less things automatically.
One of the excercises is eating a raisin – perfect for beginners. Act like you’ve never eaten or seen a raisin before. Notice the way the raisin looks, how it feels, its smell or taste. Then slowly eat it but focus on it.👅
If you want to excercise it and learn to be present here and now hence appreciate your life more see this article – https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/mindfulness-exercises-techniques-activities/
Gratitude
One of the main and easiest ways to happiness is being GRATEFUL.
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Are you grateful for what you have? If you’re thinking „what do I have to be grateful for?!” you’re probably one of those people who have lots but don’t appreciate it. You don’t have to be a millionaire or have a perfect life to be grateful. People tend to think that they don’t have anything to be grateful because they’re not rich or because they have some problems. ALL people have problems. Poor ones and rich ones. ⚠️
But the key is to appreciate what you have.
Are you healthy?
Do you have a place to live?
Do you have food in your fridge? Do you have family?
Do you have friends?
Do you have both legs?
Are you able to see, hear, talk? There are so many things /aspects that we need to be grateful for yet most of us take those things for granted.
People keep thinking that it is an absurd to be grateful that we see or have both legs. That it is a given. Well sadly not for everyone. Imagine not having that. I am grateful I am healthy, able to see, hear and walk everyday! ❤❤❤ The truth is, there are many people who lost their legs, are blind, deaf or very sick but still can appreciate life and be happy and those are the people we should follow and learn from them! 💪
Do you have both parents? I know this may not be as simple as the 1st question in the age of divorces but even if you have only one parent you are still more lucky than all those poor children living in shelter houses.
Did you have dinner today? So simple right? Yet still, if you have, you are still more lucky than millions of people in the world who starve to death.
You have PLENTY OF THINGS TO BE GRATEFUL FOR! You just need to learn to see them. 👀
You can do an easy exercise – write down what are you grateful for on a piece of paper and put it in a jar. Keep doing it for next 30 days. You’ll see how many things you have to be grateful for! + when you’ll have a bad day you can read them all and it will make you feel better. 😊
What are you grateful for?
