Be positive! · Self-Love

Why is self-care so important?

Why is self-care so important? 🤔
First of all when you take care of yourself, when you are rested and calm you look at world differently!
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I got to a point couple months ago when I was so tired and so burnt out that nothing was bringing me joy, I was tired, stressed and annoyed all the time 🙄 When one small thing went wrong I’d instantly explode like a bomb.
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And then I finally learned to rest, to take care of myself, to have some me-time and I felt so much better! Not only I felt rested, calmer and was doing everyday duties or working on my projects with a smile on my face 😊 but also I wasn’t so tense and e.g. I wouldn’t explode when something unexpected happened or when something went wrong 😊 I was happy and excited to work again! I was nice to people around me again 🤗
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Second of all, you can’t feed others from an empty bowl! So you can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself first! 😉 You NEED to be joyful, calm and rested to be able to help others and to be happy about it 😊

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Smiley Future – Step 56

I hope that last week’s step nr 55 about gratitude got you interested and ready to practice it! 🤗 You’re  ready? Let’s get to today’s task straight away! 🤩
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For the next couple of days (until our next step in a week) every night when you’re laying in bed already think of 3 things that you are grateful for in that exact moment 🙏. Notice how you feel before that excercise and how you feel afterwards. Does something change? 🤔 Does it get easier with time to find reasons to be grateful? 😊
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So as not to forget about this excercise stick a note next to your bed with a reminder 📌.
How do you like that excercise? Maybe you’ll practice it every night from now on? 🤗
Write down your reflections 📝
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Today I am grateful for my friends, for the support I get from my husband and for our financial situation 😊🙏
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Next week: Gratitude towards other people
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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Smiley Future – Step 55

Admit it, how many times during a weekend you think of Monday and you feel scared and angry already? 🤬 Got you! 😉 In the next few steps we’ll practice empowering your attitude that can improve quality of your life and increase your happiness 🤩.
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And that attitude is gratitude so feeling satisfied and appreciating what you’ve got (or not), what surrounds you and what you experience 🤗.
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Human tendency to notice negatives 👀 and danger 💥 can be explained by evolution – this perceptivity saved our ancestors plenty times yet complaining is something more 🙄.
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Constant complaining is a habit. Good news is that – as every habit – you can work on it and habit of complaining can be replaced with gratitude 😉.
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You’re probably wondering what it has to do with strong will and perseverance? 🤔
Practicing gratitude:
🔅Lowers stress (and that empowers willpower, remember?) 📉
🔅 Lowers tension, levels excessive expectations and frustration (that can lead to total giving up on your goal at first obstacle) 🙏
🔅 Helps noticing small successes and strong points that empowers motivation and perseverance 🎯
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As Robert Emmons and Robin Stern say „Clinical trials show that practicing gratitude can have dramatic and lasting positive effects on a person’s life. It can reduce blood pressure, improve immunity, promote happiness and life satisfaction, generate behaviors such as helping others, generosity and cooperation. Additionally, gratitude reduces the risk of depression, anxiety and addiction” 🤩
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Have I convinced you? Let’s start our today’s task 😉:
➡️ How often do you feel gratitude?
➡️ What are you grateful for?
➡️ Is feeling grateful dificult or easy for you?
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Next week: Practicing gratitude – excercise 🙏
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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Smiley Future – Step 51

Let’s continue practicing mindfullness 🧘🏼‍♀️. Next excercise is careful observation 👀. It lets you notice and appreciate simple, obvious elements of reality and it serves you to feel that you’re a part of a beautiful natural environment what tends to slip out in everyday rush 😉.
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➡️ 1. Pick an element of nature in your close surroundings and focus on that for a minute or two. It can be a flower 🌸, a tree 🌳, an insect 🐞, clouds ☁️, moon 🌚…anything
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➡️ 2. Don’t do anything else ❌ just watch the element 👀. Relax and observe it as long as your concentration lets you.
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➡️ 3. Look at the chosen element as if you’ve seen it for the first time 😁
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➡️ 4. Explore every aspect of that chosen element. Let its presence soak you completely 🤗
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How do you feel after that excercise? Do any new thoughts, discoveries come to your mind?
Write them down! 😊
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: awareness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

Challenge negative thoughts

Are you fair to yourself? 🤔 Do you treat yourself well? 😉 Do you think of yourself in a nice way and understand your needs and problems? 🧐 Do you expect same results as others from yourself or are you over ambitious and tend to be critical of your achievements? 🙄
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Imagine a situation: your friend calls and tells you that she failed at work and is afraid she’s gonna get fired 😰. What do you tell her? 🤔 You probably tell her not to worry, you try to assure her/him that she’s/he’s probably over dramatic and that it couldn’t have been that bad. You emphasise that she’s/he’s good at her/his job and that she/he won’t get fired 🤩
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Now imagine same situation but you’re the one that failed at work 😉. What do you tell yourself? Do you blame yourself? 😶 Do you keep saying how bad you are? That you deserve getting fired? 😬 Do you tend to be overcritical to yourself? ☹
Is that what you would say to your friend? No! 🚫
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Be a friend not only to others but to you as well! 🤗 Be supportive, understanding and loving ❤
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How to challenge negative thoughts? 🤔
Stop thinking:
❌ „No one likes me.”
❌„It’s all my fault that she’s upset”
❌„I shouldn’t have made that mistake”
❌„I can’t do this”
❌„Why does this always happen to me?”
❌„Everyone is out to get me”.
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Instead think:
✔„What is another possibility?”
✔„What would the people who care about me say?”
✔„What is the worst that could REALLY happen?”
✔„If my friend had this thought, what would I tell her?
✔„Can I be 100% sure this is true?”
✔„What is the best possible outcome?”
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Remember, be a friend to yourself.
Be kind 😘
You’re not a robot. You’re a human, you make mistakes and that’s ok 😉
Love yourself 🙏.

P.s. Check out my Instagram for an idea for the cheesiest homemade gift for Valentines Ever!

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Smiley Future – Step 50

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Let’s start our practicing mindfullness series! Ready? 🤗 First excercise is mindfullness breathing 💨. You can practice it in any position and at any time of the day. Try to stand still. Set a timer and focus on your breath for one minute.
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➡️ 1. Inhale with your nose 👃 and exhale with your mouth 👄
➡️ 2. Let your thoughts come and go freely, don’t focus on them. If you start habitually wonder about things to do, your problems etc just bring your focus back to breathing and let your thoughts go away
➡️ 3. Concentrate on your breath: how does it float through your body, how each breath in fills you with oxygen and life and how each breath  out lets you get rid of what is unnecessary
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If you liked that excerise and it let you relax you can practice it longer 😊
Write down any observations you’ve noticed while practicing mindfullness 📝
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: observation
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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Smiley Future – Step 49

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To notice your emotions, to be good to yourself and to understand yourself better you’ll need mindfullness 🤗
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What is it? 🤔 In short, it is an intentional focusing on here & now without judging it. Practicing mindfullness we focus on what we experience in a specific moment, here & now ⬇️ We dont think about the past or the future 🚫, we focus on what’s happening now. Couple next steps will be about mindfullness ☺
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During mindfullness training try to remember about  couple tips:
💫 Don’t judge your thoughts and emotions that you’re feeling
💫 Be patient and persistent – let your thoughts and emotions go in and out in their time
💫 Keep your head open, imagine you’re a beginner at every training
💫 Avoid expectations – just try practicing mindfullness without any script or thoughts on how will it go
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Task for today: Are you attentive every day? 🧐 Do you focus on here & now, feel the presence? If yes, in what moments you find it easy to be focused on here & now and when is it harder? 🤔
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Have you ever practiced mindfullness? 😊
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: breathing
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

P.S. See my post on Instagram with a tutorial how to make that Seed Starter Valentine gift

P.S.2. I am doing 28 day Self-Love challenge at my Instagram – come join us!

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Smiley Future – Step 46

Today’s the last step of our intense (and uneasy!) work on sabotaging thoughts 💪
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➡️Today’s task nr 1: Now appreciate yourself for all the hard work and congratulate yourself on your success 😎. Yes, success because just noticing the sabotaging thoughts is already a big part of the success! 😉
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I realize that working on sabotaging thoughts lasts longer than a week or a month. Those last couple steps were only a stimulus and en encouragement to work! 💪 So remember: everytime you notice a sabotaging thought appreciate yourself with a smile and a good word! 🙏 Same thing when you choose a helpful reaction instead of being tempted! 🤗
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If a sabotaging thought you ‘caught’ wasn’t pleasant, you got tense or upset, after recalling a helpful/supporting thought take couple deep breaths and relax your body 🧘🏼‍♀️
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➡️ And now task nr 2: Create a system of awarding yourself (daily, weekly, monthly) for your hard work on sabotaging thoughts 🏆. You deserve it! 🤗
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Write down some nice, supporting words to yourself appreciating your work 📝
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Next week: How emotions influence your willpower 🤔
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Motivation

Morning routine

Do you have your own morning routine? 🤔 Healthy morning routine is one of the things that all successful people have in common 😉.
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Plenty celebrities or people of business who’ve reached their goals revealed their secrets that they wake up very early (some of them at 4-5 a.m.) and they always start their day in the same way 😊 – they meditate 🧘🏼‍♀️, they write in their journals ✒, they eat something healthy 🥑, set their affirmations etc. 🤗
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Why is it so successful? 🤨 Because depending on your mindset you start your day with, the day can go either so-so or great 😉!
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If you set your mindset right, get into positive thinking and start your day with a smile on your face 🙂 you really can achieve more! Thanks to this positive energy you’ll be less stressed and less willing to get annoyed quickly 😉, you’ll be more creative and e.g. when you face a problem you’ll look at it in a different way and will find solution for it quicker 😎, you’ll have more energy to actually work and push your boundaries and so much more! 😀
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🌟 BEST Morning routines of successful people
➡️ Exercising 💪: engaging in some kind of physical activity such as working out, doing yoga, going for a walk, stretching (65%)
➡️ Checking e-mails 📧 or doing a bit of work (38%)
➡️ Meditation 🧘🏼‍♀️ (22%)
➡️ Gratitude practice 🙏: journaling, making a resolution, expressing gratitude, visualization, positive affirmation, praying (22%)
➡️ Reading a book or a newspaper 📰 (22%)
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I have found this amazing guide on morning routine with all the data 📊, examples of 60 successful people 💰 and how they start their mornings, guides on how to build a habit of morning routines etc, check it out here: https://21dayhero.com/morning-routines-guide/ ⬅️
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And what is your morning routine? 🤗 I always start my day with ‘to-do list’ check 🧐 – seeing step by step what needs to be done that day, I drink warm lemon juice with honey 🍋 and get to work 💪! But I gotta admit that I do get up pretty late on weekends 😜 and would love to work on that this year 😅.

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Smiley Future – Step 45

Take that step into future! 😉

Do you remember our previous steps about sabotaging thoughts? 🤔 Have you managed to work on them and create your helpful recreation or helpful reaction? 🧐 If yes – wonderful! 🤗 Now start using them in practice.
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Here are some examples of sabotaging thoughts and answers to them taken from „The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person” book by Judith Beck 📖
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➡️Situation: Reaching your goal will affect your family’s life 😐
🧠Sabotaging thought: I can’t put my needs first above the others 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: I can try reaching for goal that is imporant to me.Time to start thinking about my own needs 👊🏻. My family should eat healthy too, limit fattening products, it will be good for them as well. 😊
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➡️Situation: You don’t let yourself have any satisfaction until you lose as much weight as possible 😬
🧠Sabotaging thought: As long as I won’t reach my target weight I won’t feel any satisfaction. I don’t deserve any prizes until I lose as much weight as possible 🙄
❤Helpful reaction: I need to learn to be happy about small successes 🤩. Celebrarting every 2 kgs lost will make me feel better and will strenghten my belief in myself! 😎
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➡️ Situation: Temptation 😟
🧠Sabotaging thought: I deserve to eat anything that I want 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: If I want to benefit and stay thin I can’t eat anything I want. It is more important to lose weight and feel good than to spontanously decide what to eat 🤗
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Remember, those are only examples (although I really am often in situation nr 3 😅😳) that should help you understand the idea of creating helpful reaction/supporting thought for sabotaging thought 🙂.
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Create your helpful reactions that fit your individual situation and personality. You are the expert of yourself! 😚
 
Next week: Appreciate your hard work!
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”