Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 46

Today’s the last step of our intense (and uneasy!) work on sabotaging thoughts 💪
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➡️Today’s task nr 1: Now appreciate yourself for all the hard work and congratulate yourself on your success 😎. Yes, success because just noticing the sabotaging thoughts is already a big part of the success! 😉
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I realize that working on sabotaging thoughts lasts longer than a week or a month. Those last couple steps were only a stimulus and en encouragement to work! 💪 So remember: everytime you notice a sabotaging thought appreciate yourself with a smile and a good word! 🙏 Same thing when you choose a helpful reaction instead of being tempted! 🤗
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If a sabotaging thought you ‘caught’ wasn’t pleasant, you got tense or upset, after recalling a helpful/supporting thought take couple deep breaths and relax your body 🧘🏼‍♀️
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➡️ And now task nr 2: Create a system of awarding yourself (daily, weekly, monthly) for your hard work on sabotaging thoughts 🏆. You deserve it! 🤗
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Write down some nice, supporting words to yourself appreciating your work 📝
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Next week: How emotions influence your willpower 🤔
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Motivation

Morning routine

Do you have your own morning routine? 🤔 Healthy morning routine is one of the things that all successful people have in common 😉.
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Plenty celebrities or people of business who’ve reached their goals revealed their secrets that they wake up very early (some of them at 4-5 a.m.) and they always start their day in the same way 😊 – they meditate 🧘🏼‍♀️, they write in their journals ✒, they eat something healthy 🥑, set their affirmations etc. 🤗
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Why is it so successful? 🤨 Because depending on your mindset you start your day with, the day can go either so-so or great 😉!
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If you set your mindset right, get into positive thinking and start your day with a smile on your face 🙂 you really can achieve more! Thanks to this positive energy you’ll be less stressed and less willing to get annoyed quickly 😉, you’ll be more creative and e.g. when you face a problem you’ll look at it in a different way and will find solution for it quicker 😎, you’ll have more energy to actually work and push your boundaries and so much more! 😀
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🌟 BEST Morning routines of successful people
➡️ Exercising 💪: engaging in some kind of physical activity such as working out, doing yoga, going for a walk, stretching (65%)
➡️ Checking e-mails 📧 or doing a bit of work (38%)
➡️ Meditation 🧘🏼‍♀️ (22%)
➡️ Gratitude practice 🙏: journaling, making a resolution, expressing gratitude, visualization, positive affirmation, praying (22%)
➡️ Reading a book or a newspaper 📰 (22%)
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I have found this amazing guide on morning routine with all the data 📊, examples of 60 successful people 💰 and how they start their mornings, guides on how to build a habit of morning routines etc, check it out here: https://21dayhero.com/morning-routines-guide/ ⬅️
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And what is your morning routine? 🤗 I always start my day with ‘to-do list’ check 🧐 – seeing step by step what needs to be done that day, I drink warm lemon juice with honey 🍋 and get to work 💪! But I gotta admit that I do get up pretty late on weekends 😜 and would love to work on that this year 😅.

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 45

Take that step into future! 😉

Do you remember our previous steps about sabotaging thoughts? 🤔 Have you managed to work on them and create your helpful recreation or helpful reaction? 🧐 If yes – wonderful! 🤗 Now start using them in practice.
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Here are some examples of sabotaging thoughts and answers to them taken from „The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person” book by Judith Beck 📖
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➡️Situation: Reaching your goal will affect your family’s life 😐
🧠Sabotaging thought: I can’t put my needs first above the others 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: I can try reaching for goal that is imporant to me.Time to start thinking about my own needs 👊🏻. My family should eat healthy too, limit fattening products, it will be good for them as well. 😊
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➡️Situation: You don’t let yourself have any satisfaction until you lose as much weight as possible 😬
🧠Sabotaging thought: As long as I won’t reach my target weight I won’t feel any satisfaction. I don’t deserve any prizes until I lose as much weight as possible 🙄
❤Helpful reaction: I need to learn to be happy about small successes 🤩. Celebrarting every 2 kgs lost will make me feel better and will strenghten my belief in myself! 😎
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➡️ Situation: Temptation 😟
🧠Sabotaging thought: I deserve to eat anything that I want 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: If I want to benefit and stay thin I can’t eat anything I want. It is more important to lose weight and feel good than to spontanously decide what to eat 🤗
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Remember, those are only examples (although I really am often in situation nr 3 😅😳) that should help you understand the idea of creating helpful reaction/supporting thought for sabotaging thought 🙂.
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Create your helpful reactions that fit your individual situation and personality. You are the expert of yourself! 😚
 
Next week: Appreciate your hard work!
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 43

As you my remember from last week’s step sabotaging thoughts are on a subconscious level and are often irrational 🤔. Don’t judge them but also don’t ignore them – take them seriously. Even if they seem silly, weird or without any sense to you carefully look into them 🧐
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Why is it worth to do it? Here are couple reasons:
🔶️Sabotaging thoughts can:
➡️ Bring down your self-confidence
➡️ Let you reject knowledge, good advices or hints from others
➡️ Increase general stress level (and that weakens your strong will! Remember step 17?)
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That’s why task for today is: keep observing your sabotaging thoughts (and when you notice them, write them down! 📝) while remembering to be good to yourself! 😉
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Next week: Create your helpful recreation
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 35

Next few steps we’re gonna work on what to do when your motivation drops 🤷🏼‍♀️
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There can be plenty various reasons of losing motivation: difficult time, stressful time, lack of support,  health problems, being tired…😔
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To find motivation again think what could be the reason of its weakening 🤔
Try answering those questions:
➡️ What might be the reason of losing your motivation? 🧐
➡️ What usually helped you in similar situations in the past? 🤔
➡️ In what kind of situations you tend to think „I don’t feel like it” and you feel you’re losing motivation? 😞
➡️ Does losing motivation appear in certain time of a day, e.g. in the evening or is it present all the time? 🤔
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If it’s only in some parts of the day maybe you’re experiencing weakened strongwill which is natural 🙂. However if you’re lacking motivation all the time the reason of it might be deeper and more serious ⚠️.
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Don’t worry, we’ll try to find it in next few steps 🤗. And remember: the fact that you see your lack of motivation and that you want to better understand it is a great success already and not a reason to be sad or angry with yourself! 👍 Be good to yourself 🙏

Next week: Manage your plan
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: 12 Self-Care Tips for Busy People

1. Establish a morning self-care routine ☺
“I’ve started a regimen of meditation every morning. By making time for myself each morning, I get ahead of the stress and am ready to get to work”
—Stanley Meytin
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2. Reward yourself 🎖
“Afford yourself a personal reward from time to time, especially after you’ve done a great job on a tough project”
—Andrew Schrage
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3. Speak with a therapist 💬
“I’ve learned to forgive myself for days where I don’t have the drive to do anything. Productivity comes and goes, and it’s all right.”
—Diego Orjuela
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4. Schedule days off 🤗
“Adding a day off to my calendar—where I don’t let myself schedule any work—has made a major difference for me”
—Thursday Bram
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5. Automate what you can 💻
“Look for ways you can automate more tasks to make more time for the things that matter”
—Syed Balkhi 
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6. Get plenty of sleep 😴
“I like to sleep at least 8h every night. I don’t set an alarm unless I absolutely have to.”
—Jennifer A Barnes
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7. Reflect on 3 best things that happened today 🤗
“In the evenings I write down 3 best things that happened that day. This puts me in a state of appreciation and gratitude”
—Krish Chopra 
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8. Use positive language and self-talk 💬
“One of the most important lessons I have learned is how to speak to myself and others in the positive. Avoid any negative language”
—Brian Greenberg
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9. Make time for family and friends 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧
“Go out to dinner and a movie or invite some guests over for game night. You’ll get that unconditional support that you need for a good boost in your mood”
—Blair Williams 
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10. Do something creative 🎨
“When you’re starting to feel burned out at work, take the time to do something creative.”
—Chris Christoff
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11. Crush simple tasks first 😉
“One of the biggest problems is simply getting started. Make sure to complete a few simple tasks at the beginning of each day to jumpstart productivity”
—Ryan Bradley
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12. Pace yourself and set realistic goals 👍
“Remember, you can’t do everything at once. Set realistic goals. Otherwise, you will end up burning out”
—Peter Boyd
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Source: www.success.com

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 34

Let’s continue our talk about procrastination so constant postponing for later 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Last week I’ve mentioned that fear of failure might be one of the reasons of procrastination. Today couple words on another possible reason of constant postponing things for later.
You might be surprised but it is…fear of success! 😳
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Yes, sometimes subconsiously you’re afraid of success 😞. Why? You can be scared of the reaction of people around you (e.g. because of jealousy 🙄) or you can be afraid of even bigger pressure that you will not fulfill 🤯 (I’m sure you’ve heard of writers who after a big success of their first book had an enormous difficulty to write another)
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How to remedy it? The awarness and naming the fear of success itself might be very helpful 👍.
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Try answering those questions:
➡️ What are you afraid of in possible success?
➡️ Imagine that you’ve reached your goal. What will happen then?
➡️ Can you, apart from obvious benefits, suffer losses too? If yes, what would that be?
➡️ Is your fear justified?
➡️ Who could you talk to about your fears?
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If you can, ask somebody close to you for support, talk to somebody 💬 who is more objective and can look at your fears and doubts from another perspective 😉
I’m all ears if you want to talk! 😊
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Next week: Use some motivation techniques that you know
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 31

Do you know that saying „out of sight, out of mind”? 🤔 Turns out that scientific researches prove that wisdom when it comes to fighting temptation and empowering willpower! 💪
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Good healthy mindset probably already suggests you that it is easier not to eat sweets when you don’t have them around in the house 😉
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Brian Wansink, american psychologist learning about eating behaviour did an interesting research with James E. Painter that he describes in his book „Mindless Eating” 🧐
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Gentlemen gave their secretaries chocolates 🍫 on Secretaries week in some office. Some of the sweets were in a box with  a see-through lid where they could see all the chocolates 👀 and some of the sweets were in a normal not see-through box where the content of the box stayed hidden 📦.
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What do you think, which chocolates tempted more to be eaten? 😅 Of course those with a see-through lid 🤷🏼‍♀️. Women that could see the chocolates were tempted 71% times more! 😱😳 They were reaching for chocolates 7,7 times a day while those women who had „hidden” chocolates reached for them only 4,6 times a day.
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You see? Out of sight out of mind 🤗
So here’s your task for today: get rid of all the temptations in your house 😉. Not only sweets but maybe some stuff that you spend too much time on while you could spend the time working on your dreams like PS games or your Netlix account? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Think about it. You don’t have to throw them away/delete them but you can maybe lend those games to your friend or ask your friend to change your password to your Netflix account 😉
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What do you think?  Would that help you?

Next week: Procrastination so constant postponing doing things that need to be done – test
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 28

How do you relax? 😉
Today’s last part of „Be good to yourself” series.
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Do you remember when we talked about factors that weaken your strong will? 🤔 It was stress and tiredness and lately we’ve been talking a lot about the danger of treating yourself badly and punishing (and getting into a trap of „everything or nothing” thinking” ⚠️).
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That’s why sometimes in order to rebuild and strengthen strong will you need rest, regeneration and pleasures that will give you energy and motivation to work 🤗.
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Task for today: Make a list of your ways of relax and pleasures. It is important so that they wouldn’t be contradictory to your goal (so e.g. don’t write on your list „eating huge pizza” or „eating chocolate cookies”  when your goal is to eat healthy 😉).
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It might be an evening with a good book 📖 or a movie 🎬, talk or meeting with a friend 💬, relaxing bath 🛀, walk around the neighbourhood 🏞, playing with dog 🐶, relaxing yoga session etc. 🧘🏼‍♀️
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So what are your ways to relax? Tell me! 😊

Next week: Sometimes it’s better to postpone
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive!

Reaction

Do you know Tony Robbins’ famous story about two brothers? 👬 There was two brothers who had an abussive alcoholic father. Their childhood was very dark, they lived in poverty 😞. Years later, when they grew up, one brother was very successful 💰, had a well-known company, wife and kids 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦, was contributing to society, volunteering etc and another one was an alcoholic too 😪🍾. Somebody asked both of them „How is it possible? 🤷🏼‍♀️ How is it possible you didn’t turn out the same? Why do you think you became a volunteer? Why did you think you became an alcoholic?”. Both answered same thing „Who else could I become with a father like this?”
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We can’t control what happens to us but we can control how we react to it ⚠️. You can either feel sorry about yourself, be miserable and live miserable life or you can turn your disappointment/sadness into energy and use it to make your life better 💪
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There are so many people with same stories yet different endings. There are so many people who’s had abussive childhood but wanted to leave it behind them and achieve something big 🤩! There are so many examples of it among famous people like Lady Gaga, Jennifer Lawrence, Dwayne Johnson, Joaquin Phoenix, Oprah, Tony Robbins himself…just look at my Inspirational Stories 😉! All of them had difficult childhood and look at them now! 😎🎬🏆
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Bad things happen to people everyday. It’s sad but it’s true 🤷🏼‍♀️. But it’s our choice what we’re gonna do with it! First of all appreciate what you have 🙏, secondly learn from your mistakes/failures/sad experience and then use it to build a better future 📈!
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I know it’s harder than it sounds but it is all in your hands 🤲. You have all the tools to make your life happy, it’s  your move to use them. Nobody is going to do it for you 😉. It’s all in your hands and in your mind.