Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 39

Let’s continue the subject of lost motivation 🤔
I have a question for you today: do you use your support in your moments of weakness? 🧐
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It might seem trivial but many people find asking for help difficult 🤷🏼‍♀️. It requires us presenting our weaknesses, showing our delicate site… 😬And if you’re a resourceful, independent and well-organized person asking for help might be even harder 😶.
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That’s why today I want to remind you of this important aspect: you don’t have to be alone with your crisis, your weaknesess and troubles! 🤗
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How to reach for help?
First of all, accept it that you don’t have to manage everything well all the time 😉. Everybody has their worse moments and it’s not a reason to be ashamed, to punish yourself or self-criticize (I hope that during those worse day you remember to be good to yourself! ⚠️) Give yourself the right to be weak, treat yourself with understanding and tenderness 🙏
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Secondly, find in your surroundings a person who you trust, feel safe with. Tell this person what you are struggling with, that you need support, ask how he/she can help you (maybe he/she can share his/her experience, listen to you, let you spill everything out…) 😊
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Before you say: „There’s no such person in my surroundings” think well first ☝️. Maybe it’s not that obvious to your if you rarely ask for help and support? 🤷🏼‍♀️ But avoid those who are always critical and rigorous 👎. That attitude is the last you need right now!
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Talk to someone who will help you organize your feelings, your thoughts 🤯. Maybe you’ll find a source of your discouragement and find a solution during that talk? 😊
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Task for today – answer couple questions:
➡️ People I can count on:
➡️ If it is difficult for you to ask for help, for support think what can be a reason of that? 🤔 Maybe you have some beliefs or fears in your mind? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Write them down and try finding a counterargument to each thought 📝
 
Next week: Lost motivation vs tiredness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Bez kategorii · Self-evolving

Communication

Do you know what’s key to good relationship?
Communication 😉
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And it’s not only about love relationships, it’s important to make any kind of relationship work – a friendship, a relation you have with your daughter, mom, neighbour, coworker. Anybody.
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We are ALL different. And nobody sits in your head, nobody reads your mind, believe me 😉. So when you don’t like something, when you need help with something you need to COMMUNICATE.
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Plenty woman (I used to be one of them) think that if they send „signals” to their partner he’ll know what she needs/means 😅 That if she says something between the lines about a movie she’d like to watch or talk about her friend’s new cosmetics he’ll instantly get the idea to take you to cinema to see that movie and he’ll buy those cosmetics for you 😅 No, this doesn’t work with men.
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Men and women work totally differently and so do our minds! You need to be loud and clear 😉
COMMUNICATE.
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It works like that with everybody. If you’re angry with your boss because he/she gives you so much work tell him/her politely (!) that you’re swamped and ask if he/she can maybe get one of your co-workers to help you, to divide some big task between 2-3 people, not just 1 🤷🏼‍♀️
TALK.
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If you’re frustrated with your friend because he keeps inviting you to places you don’t like or wants to do something you’re not fan of – tell him. He simply might not know that you don’t like it! I’m sure he doesn’t do it to make you angry, he’s just anaware of your negative feelings. Why? Because you’ve never told him that you e.g. don’t like bowling or eating at that Thai restaurant. 😉
LET HIM KNOW.
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We all need to talk more. Say what we think out loud. Don’t keep your thought or feelings to yourself. But remember, if it’s something negative think how to communicate it to your friend to not hurt his feelings 🙏. We should always be sincere and if you don’t like something you should say it but do it gently.

📸 pic taken in Zakhyntos in 2017

Be positive!

Coronavirus era

Nature has had enough and said STOP. It revolted and made us all STOP too 🚫
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You know how we’ve been all running through life? Never having enough time for our inner peace, for our families, for simple things such as reading or doing puzzles?
Now it’s the time 🕛
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Nature made us stop. It made us all stay at home and appreciate what we have 🙏. This is the time to rebuild your relationships, to go into your inner self and work on your mindset, to set hectic life aside and focus on what’s most important – health and family. 🙏
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It has been around 2 months that we’re fighting with this damn coronavirus but there already has been an effect on the nature! 🌱
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China’s air is clean again as plenty people stayed home and stopped driving their cars!
Water in Venice’s canals is getting clearer and clearer and I hear you can actually see fish swimming there now and even swans returned! 🐟
Sardinia coast got so clean and calm that doplhins came back to the area where people scared them away some time ago! 🐬
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We need to be patient and it will all come back to normality soon.
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But what is also beautiful about those time is solidarity. The amount of help that we all give each other is amazing ❤ We are all in this together afterall.
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Italians singing on balonies made my heart mealt. China coming to Europe to help us all and share what they already learned about this virus made my heart grow ❤
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Please let this help and being a community of one not end once the virus goes away. Let’s keep helping each other 🙏
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So let’s all keep doing what we’re doing. If you want to help and don’t know how find out if you have any hospitals near you and ask what doctors need, they often need food, towels or simple things as paper and pens. Let’s help them! They are our heroes 💪
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You could also ask your elder neighbours or people who are simply scared to enter a supermarket if they need anything and do grocery shopping for them.
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But if you can – stay home. That’s the best what you can do now 😉
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Love! 😘 📸 pic taken in Italy in 2017

Be positive!

Queens

Girls (this posts is strictly for girls), how many girls out of your surrounding do you admire?
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How many girls (in everyday life or e.g. here on ig) inspire you? How many girls would you like to switch places with? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Now, how many girls have you said that, how you feel, that you admire her/them, that she’s doing good? 👍
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How many girls have said anything like that to you? How many girls feel motivated by you? Are they open about that?
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I feel like there’s some unhealthy competition between us, girls 🤷🏼‍♀️ Each one has to (or actually feels like they have to) be better than others. Some girls once they see others succeed get angry and jealous. Some even start to say bad things about the other one out of the jealousy.
Is this healthy?
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If some other girl succeeded you should be happy for her! You should congratulate her! 🤗Don’t be angry with her! Her achieving some goal doesn’t mean you can’t! It’s not like there’s limited place for successful ones!
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We should be all helping each other! Fixing our crowns! 👑 Motivating each other! Congratulating each other! 😚
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We are powerful together! And only when we stick together! 🤝
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Stop saying bad things about a girl who hasn’t done anything wrong but got successful. Take her as an example, be inspired, motivated by her! 😉
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There’s this saying I really like that fits here perfectly: „A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms”.
Don’t look at others (unless it’s for inspiration and motivation). Just bloom. 🌸

Be positive!

Good deeds

How to be happy?

Help others.

We need to make this world a better place. We need to do it ASAP.

Instead of complaining on other people, talking behind their backs lets help each other, lets be good one to another.

This doesn’t have to be anything big. I try to do a small good deed every day and I encourage you to do the same. As I said, it doesn’t have to be big. You can simply help a stranger pick something up when he/she drops it on the street, you can open the door for a mother with a stroller when she’s struggling to enter a shop, you can help a young woman carry a heavy suitcase up the stairs, walk an elder man through the street, help someone find the right place when you see he/she is lost or just simply smile at others.

This is really simple and it costs you nothing yet can make a big dfference.

It doesn’t have to be only strangers on the street too. You can (and you should) help your friends or family in need too. You know that your friend  is moving houses? Go and help him/her pack. Your mom is preparing a dinner for a whole family? Ask if you can set the table or make a salad at least. Your friend lost his job? Ask your colleagues around if there is a job for him where you work, try to help him find it. Your friend practices for an exam or a job interview?  Go over to her and simply listen to what she has prepared. Let her practice on you.

There is over 1700 of you here, lets say even just a tiny bit of 10% of you joins me on this mission and we’ll have 170 good deeds every day, 5100 good actions every month and 61200 amazing acts of help every year. That’s a lot!

Will you join me?

Do you help strangers on the streets?


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Be positive!

Helping

Do you know what’s one of the main things that make you HAPPY? HELPING OTHERS. I love helping others. I love seeing people smile when I manage to help them out. It makes your heart grow. It makes your heart warm. It doesn’t have to be anything big. You can do plenty of small things that can make someone’s day better. You can stop the bus when you see someone’s running for it. You can pick something up and help a stranger who dropped it. You can walk an elder through the street. Do you have a spare dollar? Buy a chocolate Santa for a homeless man. I’m sure it will make him smile. Or you can easily just smile to strangers, that will make them feel better as well.

Are you a giver or a receiver? I’ve always loved giving gifts more than getting them. It’s about that smile that you see in a person when you give it to him/her. That’s the best gift for me.

Of course If you are a giver and want to do something bigger than walking an elder or catching a bus for someone there are plenty ways to help out in a bigger scale. You can give out money to charities, obviously. You can buy some food or blankets and give it to shelters. You don’t even have to buy anything, if you have some old blankets that are still good but you don’t need it don’t throw it away, always think of someone who might need it. Do you have empty boxes? Give it to animals’ shelters, they always need it. Did you clean up your wardrobe and have plenty of clothes that you don’t wear anymore? Give it to shelters. Same with toys – give it to child care. I am sure that you have plenty of things that you find useless that might be a great gift for someone else.

Why you should also help others? It’s not only about seeing people’s smiles and making them grateful. It’s about Karma too. I don’t know if you believe in Karma or any high power but „the more you give, the more you receive” rule always works. It may not be proven. It may not be scientific but it works, believe me. Even if it’s not about high power/Karma, by helping othesr you show people that they can count on you and once you do that you’ll have people to count on when you need help. It’s all about the circle of giving and receiving.  Let’s be a friendly community that helps each other. Lets reach out a  helping hand to others.