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Questions you shouldn’t ask or be asked

I believe in honesty and being open. We should be open and talk about our lifes, our feelings, our emotions 👍 but there are couple subjects that you should not start unless you’re really close to a person you’re talking to and you get a feeling from that person that it’s ok to talk about it ⚠️.
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There are questions that you shouldn’t ask and shouldn’t be asked, like:
➡️ Did you put on weight? 🙄
➡️ You’re gonna eat it all? 😳
➡️ When will you get a boyfriend? 😒
➡️ When will you get married? 😐
➡️ Why don’t you have kids? 🤔
➡️ You still didn’t get a promotion at work? 🤷🏼‍♀️
Etc etc
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Those are normal questions between friends, really close ones ❤ but you shouldn’t be asked those e.g. at a family dinner with uncles or aunts you barely see 👴👵, at an office party 🕺💃, at a high-school reunion 👩‍🎓👨🏻‍🎓or at any meeting with people you’re not that close with 🤷🏼‍♀️
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There are people who are fine with those questions and they will answer them and talk about those subjects easily 👍 but some people not only don’t like those questions but they might feel anxiety or even be ashamed to answer them and will be thinking about them and/or feeling bad even days later 😖
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The thing is, unless you know someone really well you might not notice a difference between those two groups and you might ask this question a shy and insecure person that will be hurt hearing it 😕
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How do you feel about it?
Do you agree?

Be positive!

Be fair!

You know the saying – treat others how you want to be treated, right? It also works the other way round 😉 – expect from others what they can expect from you.
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Don’t expect somebody to be honest with you if you’re not honest with them ⚠️
Don’t expect somebody to hear you out if you don’t listen to them. ⚠️
Don’t expect somebody to help you if you never help them. ⚠️
Be fair!
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Don’t be surprised that somebody isn’t telling you some secrets or personal things if you don’t share some personal stuff with them or if you can’t keep a secret 🤷🏼‍♀️. Would you tell them a secret of yours if you’d know that they’d tell it everyone around? 🤔
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Then when somebody is telling you something personal or confessing of their problems don’t reply with „Ahh, that’s nothing. My situation is even worse…” 🙄 or ‘fight’ over who is in worse situation „You’re tired? Believe me, I’m more tired!” 😏 Nobody likes that! Let him/her talk, hear them out 👂and then when they’re finished and are ready for some advices you can compare their situation to yours, tell them what helped you, how you’re dealing with such situation etc but don’t make it about you. 😉 Let this moment be about him/her, focus on your friend and let them feel heared out. Your time to confess and complain about your sitation will come, don’t worry 😉
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And finally, don’t expect somebody to help you if you’ve never helped them! Why would they do that? 🤔 It should work both ways! E.g. at work – ask somebody to do something for you but also offer to do something for them from time to time 😉
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Let’s all treat each other how you’d like to be treated, be fair with others and never let a relationship work only one way 🙏

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