Imagine the most beautiful flower in the world 🌹.
Imagine it blooming 😍.
Imagine that this flower is one of a kind, there’s no one quite like it in the world 💫.
Do you see it in your mind? Is it beautiful? 🤗
Now imagine that thanks to this flower you can do anything you want. Because you’re the only one in the world that has it. It’s like an investment 📈. You have in your hands the most beautiful flower in the world 🌹!
And now imagine this beautiful, unique, precious flower losing its petals, losing its charm 🥀. That would be such a shame, right? The flower is not blooming and you’re losing on your investment 📉!
You NEED TO take care of this flower. You NEED TO water it 💦 to make it grow, you need to make sure it gets the sunlight 🌞. You need to do it all to see it bloom, to benefit from the flower later on as your investment.
It’s quite obvious right? Even a kid knows that you need to water a flower 🌹.
Everybody knows that you need to take care of something precious 🤩. So why won’t you? 🤷♀️ Because you know…the flower is you 😉.
Now read it again.
When looking for a husband/wife we tend to think ‘if I’m supposed to spend rest of my life with one person I need to find somebody that I really love’. 🤔
But you know what? There’s one person that you definitely need to and will spend the rest of your life with. Yourself 😉.
We NEED TO love ourself cause we’re ‘stuck’ with ourself 😜 we need to accept the kind of person we are, we need to like, respect and love ourselves! 🙏❤
Don’t like something about yourself? If you can – change it (e.g. try to lose weight if you think you’re too fat, learn something if you think you lack some skills) but if you can’t change it you NEED TO accept it 😉 I, for example, am too tall 😜 (I’m taller than my husband) but there’s nothing I can do about it 🤷♀️ so I just accepted it. It’s just who I am 😊.
Please love yourself 😊❤
Time for 4th part of our 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care with 6 more self-care tips for you!
🔸️ 19. Embrace and love the things that make you different 💜. This is what makes you special.
🔸️ 20. Realize that beauty cannot be defined. It is what you see it as. Don’t let any of those Photoshopped magazines make you feel like your body isn’t perfect. Even those models don’t look like that in real life 😉
🔸️ 21. Follow your passion 🤩. You know that thing that gets you so excited but scares you at the same time. The thing you really want to do but have convinced yourself it won’t work. You should go do that!
🔸️ 22. Be patient but persistent 💪. Self-love needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So be kind and support yourself through the hard times.
🔸️ 23. Treat others with love and respect ❤🙏. Treat others how you want to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours.
🔸️ 24. Learn to say ‘no’. Saying ‘no’ sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a smart person 😉
Time for 3rd part of our 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care with 6 more self-care tips for you!
🔸️13. Start each day by telling yourself something really positive 🤗. How well you managed to do something, how lovely you look today. Anything that you would say to your friend to make her/him smile – tell that to yourself! 😁
🔸️14. Eat healthy! 🥦 Fill your body with food and drink that nourishes it and makes it thrive.
🔸️15. Don’t believe everything you think 🚫. There is an inner critic inside of us trying to keep us small and safe, remember about that!
🔸️16. Surround yourself with positive people who love and encourage you 💞. Support each other, help each, be good to each other!
🔸️17. Stop the comparisons. There is no one on this planet like you we are all unique in our own way and that’s what makes this world beautiful! 😍
🔸️18. Step outside of your comfort zone and try something new 🤩. It’s incredible the feeling we get when we realize we have achieved something we didn’t know or think we could do before.
Today I highly encourage you to create new reward system, now regarding maintaining the change 🏆
Start rewarding with complimenting yourself on even smallest successes 🤗. I know it may not be easy and you are probably not used to catching on your sucesses but more on your mistakes or failures 🤔. It is worth though to try it out and redirect your attention to progress and accomplishments 🤩.
If you are having problem with that write down all the compliments you like to hear and use them on every occassion of even smallest acomplishments 😎. Every day. If nothing comes to your mind try those examples: „You’re doing great!”, „Good job!”, „Keep going!” 👏
Another step of conscious rewarding yourself is to create reward system, for example once a week or once a month 😊. Let it be something that will make you very happy (but won’t be a conflict to your main goal) 😀
Next week: Suming up: conclusions on successes and mistakes
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”
Why is self-care so important? 🤔
First of all when you take care of yourself, when you are rested and calm you look at world differently!
I got to a point couple months ago when I was so tired and so burnt out that nothing was bringing me joy, I was tired, stressed and annoyed all the time 🙄 When one small thing went wrong I’d instantly explode like a bomb.
And then I finally learned to rest, to take care of myself, to have some me-time and I felt so much better! Not only I felt rested, calmer and was doing everyday duties or working on my projects with a smile on my face 😊 but also I wasn’t so tense and e.g. I wouldn’t explode when something unexpected happened or when something went wrong 😊 I was happy and excited to work again! I was nice to people around me again 🤗
Second of all, you can’t feed others from an empty bowl! So you can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself first! 😉 You NEED to be joyful, calm and rested to be able to help others and to be happy about it 😊
You know what’s best kind of self-love/self-care? 🤔 Taking care of your own health! 🤗
➡️ First of all, treat yourself well! 🙏 Have a closer look on what you’re eating 👅. Do you plan your meals and grocery shopping 🗒 or do you just go to a store, buy whatever you see and put it all on a pan just to „throw” something into your belly 🤷🏼♀️? Do you bring enough vitamins, proteins, fiber? 🧐 Are your meals nutritious? 🥦🍌🍜
Now, how’s your physical activity? 🤔 Do you workout 💪, practice some sport 🏀, go for walks , do yoga or pilates🧘🏼♀️? Physical activity has as much impact on your physical health as healthy eating 😉
And now, how’s your mental health? 🧠 Do you sleep well? 😴 Do you feel confident? Are you anxiety free? 😇
Physical health (so healthy eating and regular physical activities) have great impact on mental health too! You know what they say – healthy body, healthy mind 😉
➡️ Secondly, do you examine yourself? 📈📊 Do you do regular blood tests 💉, regular ultrasounds or x-rays of your stomach, lungs or heart? Do you go see a doctor regularly or only when you feel bad already? 😶
I examine myself once a year. I do blood tests, check my heart, my lungs, my stomach and lady parts. You should too! 🤗
➡️ And lastly, remember to seek help whenever you need it 🙏⚠️No matter if it’s something about your physical health or, especially, mental health! If you feel bad don’t hide it away! Go and get some help! 🙏
Do you celebrate #ValentinesDay? 💕 Do you like it? 🤗
I don’t think there’s any other holiday that brings that much pressure 😰
Before you start comparing yourself or your relationship to others while scrolling Instagram and seeing photos from so-to-seem perfect dates, 🙄 remember that what people post on Instagram isn’t their everyday life 😉. We all pick a photo that we look good on 🤩, we all pick a moment we are happy about ☺ and we usually share good news and positive things about ourselves 👍.
Just because a couple posts a picture of them smiling and having a romantic evening, it doesn’t mean they don’t fight, they don’t have any bad moments or bad days 🤷🏼♀️
No one is perfect and there’s no such thing as a perfect couple 😉. We all have ups and downs. I fight with my husband too and that’s normal 🤷🏼♀️
Another thing – before you start comparing your partner to others and before you become overcritical remember that there are other ways to say „I love you” than buying flowers 🌹 or expensive gifts 🎁. If your partner doesn’t say „I love you” often it doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t 😉. Maybe he/she’s just not that into words but shows it in everyday small deeds? 🤗 Like covering you with a blanket when you fall asleep on a couch? 😴 Or making you hot lemon tea when you don’t feel that well? 🤧 Or making you a sandwhich even though he/she is tired and doesn’t feel like getting up from couch? 🥪 Those are all acts of love too, remember 😉
And lastly – if you’re single and don’t celebrate V-Day at all just take it easy 🤗. Being single is not bad and you should NOT feel sad that you’re not on some romantic date or that you didn’t get any flowers 😉. Buy yourself flowers ⚘, cook yourself a nice meal 🥘, spend a lovely evening with yourself or maybe with another friend who’s single 😊?
Even thought I celebrate V-Day now with my husband, I’ve been single for 24 years before 😉 and believe me, I’ve been there and I know the feeling but there’s no need to be sad about some holiday, just get out and live that day as any other! 😁
Are you fair to yourself? 🤔 Do you treat yourself well? 😉 Do you think of yourself in a nice way and understand your needs and problems? 🧐 Do you expect same results as others from yourself or are you over ambitious and tend to be critical of your achievements? 🙄
Imagine a situation: your friend calls and tells you that she failed at work and is afraid she’s gonna get fired 😰. What do you tell her? 🤔 You probably tell her not to worry, you try to assure her/him that she’s/he’s probably over dramatic and that it couldn’t have been that bad. You emphasise that she’s/he’s good at her/his job and that she/he won’t get fired 🤩
Now imagine same situation but you’re the one that failed at work 😉. What do you tell yourself? Do you blame yourself? 😶 Do you keep saying how bad you are? That you deserve getting fired? 😬 Do you tend to be overcritical to yourself? ☹
Is that what you would say to your friend? No! 🚫
Be a friend not only to others but to you as well! 🤗 Be supportive, understanding and loving ❤
How to challenge negative thoughts? 🤔
❌ „No one likes me.”
❌„It’s all my fault that she’s upset”
❌„I shouldn’t have made that mistake”
❌„I can’t do this”
❌„Why does this always happen to me?”
❌„Everyone is out to get me”.
✔„What is another possibility?”
✔„What would the people who care about me say?”
✔„What is the worst that could REALLY happen?”
✔„If my friend had this thought, what would I tell her?
✔„Can I be 100% sure this is true?”
✔„What is the best possible outcome?”
Remember, be a friend to yourself.
Be kind 😘
You’re not a robot. You’re a human, you make mistakes and that’s ok 😉
Love yourself 🙏.
P.s. Check out my Instagram for an idea for the cheesiest homemade gift for Valentines Ever!
Nothing will happen, nothing will work, nothing will change for better, you won’t be happier, you won’t like yourself more, you won’t accept yourself if you’re doing it because of hatred to yourself 😞
If you’re doing it out of fake intension, because you need to prove something to somebody, out of punishment or any negative reason, it simply won’t work 🤷🏼♀️. You won’t achieve your inner peace, you won’t be happy and/or anxiety free.
First of all you need to understand that you don’t need to be the best, you don’t need to be the fastest, the smartest, the richest ⚠️. In fact, I’m gonna break it to you 😉 – there’s always going to be someone smarter, someone prettier and someone more successful than you, it’s just how it works 🤷🏼♀️
You need to understand that you don’t HAVE TO do anything. Your attitude will change SO MUCH when you change the thinking and instead of thinking „I HAVE TO”, you’ll start thinking „I CAN” 🤗
I can change 😎
I can follow my dreams 😍
I can work hard and reach my goals 🤩
I can be better 💪
You don’t have to be the best but try to be better each day, to grow, to self-develop ⬆️. But do all of that while being good to yourself. Don’t force yourself to anything, it won’t work. You should want to do it, desire it. Not feel like you NEED TO or HAVE TO do it.
Remember, it’s all about the attitude 😘
P.S. See my post on Instagram with a tutorial how to make that Marshmallow Pops for V-Day!
P.S.2. I am doing 28 day Self-Love challenge at my Instagram – come join us!