Self-Love

SELF LOVE: 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care pt.4

Time for 4th part of our 30 ways of practicing self-love and self-care with 6 more self-care tips for you!
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🔸️ 19. Embrace and love the things that make you different 💜. This is what makes you special.
🔸️ 20. Realize that beauty cannot be defined. It is what you see it as. Don’t let any of those Photoshopped magazines make you feel like your body isn’t perfect. Even those models don’t look like that in real life 😉
🔸️ 21. Follow your passion 🤩. You know that thing that gets you so excited but scares you at the same time. The thing you really want to do but have convinced yourself it won’t work. You should go do that!
🔸️ 22. Be patient but persistent 💪. Self-love needs to be practiced daily but can take a lifetime to master. So be kind and support yourself through the hard times.
🔸️ 23. Treat others with love and respect ❤🙏. Treat others how you want to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours.
🔸️ 24. Learn to say ‘no’. Saying ‘no’ sometimes doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a smart person 😉

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POSITIVE NEWS

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The world’s most premature baby has celebrated his first birthday after beating 0% odds of surviving
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Anonymous customer leaves $16,000 tip at New Hampshire restaurant

Come back next Monday for more!

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 57

Let’s continue our practicing gratitude and try out another excercise 🙏. Task for today is feeling (and showing) gratitude towards others 🤩. How can you do it?
➡️ 1. Notice, appreciate and thank others (close ones, coworkers etc) for every little (and easy to miss) gestures coming from them 🙏. Bring your attention to everything that you get from them: attention, support, help 🤝. Short conversation 💬, making a tea when you feel sick 😪, helping in solving a problem, a text showing  that somebody thinks of you in a difficult moment….
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When you concentrate on noticing and appreciating those details, you’ll see that you have plenty more reasons to feel grateful that you’ve thought before 🤩
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➡️ 2. Notice, appreciate and thank strangers who you meet along your way e.g. as a customer. It can be a mindful waiter 😊, friendly saleswoman 🤗, a clerk with a smile on his face 😁, bus driver that waits for you to get in before he drives away 🚃… Notice those specific things that others do for you and feel grateful 😍
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Do you notice those little deeds from others in your everyday life? 🤔 I sure do and I’m always grateful for every little help or support I get from others but on the other hand I feel sad/disappointed when others do not notice/appreciate what I do for them and take it for granted 💔
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Do you feel the same way?
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Next week: Gratitude towards your body
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

P.s. Check out my Instagram for a tutorial how to make those cute Easter decorations!

Self-Love

Other ways to say ‘I love you’

Do you celebrate #ValentinesDay? 💕 Do you like it? 🤗
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I don’t think there’s any other holiday that brings that much pressure 😰
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Before you start comparing yourself or your relationship to others while scrolling Instagram and seeing photos from so-to-seem perfect dates, 🙄 remember that what people post on Instagram isn’t their everyday life 😉. We all pick a photo that we look good on 🤩, we all pick a moment we are happy about ☺ and we usually share good news and positive things about ourselves 👍.
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Just because a couple posts a picture of them smiling and having a romantic evening, it doesn’t mean they don’t fight, they don’t have any bad moments or bad days 🤷🏼‍♀️
No one is perfect and there’s no such thing as a perfect couple 😉. We all have ups and downs.  I fight with my husband too and that’s normal 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Another thing – before you start comparing your partner to others and before you become overcritical remember that there are other ways to say „I love you” than buying flowers 🌹 or expensive gifts 🎁. If your partner doesn’t say „I love you” often it doesn’t mean that he/she doesn’t 😉. Maybe he/she’s just not that into words but shows it in everyday small deeds? 🤗 Like covering you with a blanket when you fall asleep on a couch? 😴 Or making you hot lemon tea when you don’t feel that well? 🤧 Or making you a sandwhich even though he/she is tired and doesn’t feel like getting up from couch? 🥪 Those are all acts of love too, remember 😉
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And lastly – if you’re single and don’t celebrate V-Day at all just take it easy 🤗. Being single is not bad and you should NOT feel sad that you’re not on some romantic date or that you didn’t get any flowers 😉. Buy yourself flowers ⚘, cook yourself a nice meal 🥘, spend a lovely evening with yourself or maybe with another friend who’s single 😊?
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Even thought I celebrate V-Day now with my husband, I’ve been single for 24 years before 😉 and believe me, I’ve been there and I know the feeling but there’s no need to be sad about some holiday, just get out and live that day as any other! 😁

Be positive! · Self-Love

Please remember, be good to yourself! 🙏

Nothing will happen, nothing will work, nothing will change for better, you won’t be happier, you won’t like yourself more, you won’t accept yourself if you’re doing it because of hatred to yourself 😞
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If you’re doing it out of fake intension, because you need to prove something to somebody, out of punishment or any negative reason, it simply won’t work 🤷🏼‍♀️. You won’t achieve your inner peace, you won’t be happy and/or anxiety free.
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First of all you need to understand that you don’t need to be the best, you don’t need to be the fastest, the smartest, the richest ⚠️. In fact, I’m gonna break it to you 😉 – there’s always going to be someone smarter, someone prettier and someone more successful than you, it’s just how it works 🤷🏼‍♀️
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You need to understand that you don’t HAVE TO do anything. Your attitude will change SO MUCH when you change the thinking and instead of thinking „I HAVE TO”, you’ll start thinking „I CAN” 🤗
I can change 😎
I can follow my dreams 😍
I can work hard and reach my goals 🤩
I can be better 💪
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You don’t have to be the best but try to be better each day, to grow, to self-develop ⬆️. But do all of that while being good to yourself. Don’t force yourself to anything, it won’t work. You should want to do it, desire it. Not feel like you NEED TO or HAVE TO do it.
Remember, it’s all about the attitude 😘

P.S. See my post on Instagram with a tutorial how to make that Marshmallow Pops for V-Day!
P.S.2. I am doing 28 day Self-Love challenge at my Instagram – come join us!

Self-Love

Merry Christmas! Be here & now

There couldn’t be a better day for self-love day than Christmas Eve! 😁 Now you have no excuses but to slow down, to focus on here & now, to be PRESENT 😉🎁
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Which time are you most present in normally? 🤔 Deep into the past, fully soaked into memories, remembering good old days 💭; in the present focusing on present moment and present emotions or in the future 🔜, constantly planning what to do next 📅, creating ‘to do’ lists for upcoming day/week/month? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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If you’re in the past or in the future, do everything you can to change that and to go… BACK TO THE PRESENT! 🔙 You won’t enjoy Christmas or, for that matter, your whole life, if you’re not present here & now! 😉 You won’t be happy and calm if you’re constantly somewhere in the past in your mind or constantly running towards future! 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Notice what’s happening around you NOW ⬇️, what’s the taste of the meal you’re eating, what does it smell like in the room, what do you feel…be here & now! 🤗
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I gotta say that lately I’ve been constantly in the future – planning upcoming posts, upcoming days, weeks…I’ve been deep in December in my mind since the end of October as I’ve been planning and preparing everything for Smiley Advent Calendar 😅 Constantly couple days ahead of myself. STOP! 🛑 This is not how it should look like and I can’t wait for Christmas to stop it all and to just be present 😍. To rest and not plan anything. To concentrate on Xmas meals and their taste, to smell the Xmas tree, to be here & now 🤩
 
Merry Christmas all! 😘 Enjoy this day and as they say „stop and smell the roses”. 🤗

P.s. I made my 1st ever ebook! Here’s a little preview – get the full version here – https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pn_hj9Nuuotts7DVFZfV8j8zGZFgTJYy/view?usp=drivesdk

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SELF-LOVE: 10 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

1. Invest in yourself 🤗
Spend 15-30min in the morning or evening reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself
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2. Find the truth and exception when an inner or outer critic attacks 😏
Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you 🤷🏼‍♀️ People around you may attack you to serve one of their own needs 🙄
If this happens, ask yourself this question:
What is the exception to this? 🤔
E.g. if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can find answers that tell you that it isn’t really true 😊
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3. Unstress tonight 🧖‍♀️
Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or work out 💪
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4. Take just 2min in the morning or evening to appreciate yourself 🤗
Sit down & ask yourself:
What are 3 things I can appreciate about myself? 🤔
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5. Mediocre day? Take 1 small step forward towards something positive 🤗
If your day feels mediocre take 1 small step towards something positive to breathe new hope and optimism into your day & week
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6. Be kinder towards others ❤
The way you think about & treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself 😉
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7. If you stumble, be your own best friend 😊
Don’t beat yourself up, that will erode your self-esteem. Be a kind and supportive friend to yourself.
Ask yourself: How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this situation? 🤔
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8. Take a laugh-break 😂
Take 5-10 min.
Watch a funny clip or a half an episode of a sitcom you know makes you laugh
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9. Remember, the future is still in your hands. And it is never too late to change 😉
Think about what you really want in the rest of your life.
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10. Simply remind yourself of why it is smart to be kind to yourself 🤗
By reminding yourself of benefits such as better real life results, more perseverance, higher self-esteem, more inner happiness and stillness it becomes easier to stay kind to yourself through life’s natural ups and downs 😉

Source: https://www.positivityblog.com/

Self-evolving

Chasing after perfect numbers

Are you chasing after perfect numbers? I know I am and it’s not good 😫👎
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I’ve realised that everything I do lately and everything I have I see in numbers 🔢. How many contracts have I installed at work (I work in an administration office), how many emails I’ve sent 📨, how many times I’ve worked out during a week 💪, how much weight I lost 🤗, how many centimeters I lost in hips, how many likes did I get on my latest post 😅, how many new followers I gained 🤩, how many books I’ve read…
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Dreaming of perfect weight 🤗 (a number), big Smiley Society community 👥 (number of followers), big comission at work 💰 (a number) and so on and so on… 🙄
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I’ve been chasing so hard after that that I got my panic attacks back and feel stressed all the time 😫
And what for?
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It’s not that working hard is bad and that we shouldn’t dream, of course we should but this has got to stop somewhere 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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We need to see above the numbers, see bigger goal in it. For example, let’s not focus on how much weight we’ve lost during a diet but let’s appreciate that we work on our health 🥦, that we try to eat better and take care of our body, that’s what matters 😉.
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Counting followers? Well, to be honest, I thought that at this time (almost 2 years of running Smiley Society) I thought there will be more of you here 😅 but thanks to this blog I got back to taking more pictures 📸, I bought mysefl a camera 📷, been learning how to edit photos and videos, I got back to writing (and in English!), I’ve been learning a lot on psychology in order to give that knowledge to you…there’s more to that than followers and even though I thought Smiley Society would be bigger by now, it made me work on myself, self-evolve and learn new things! ☺
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Counting money, commision? 💰 Sure, it’s important in life but you can’t put a number on most important things in life: love ❤, family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧, friends, health 😇, adventures, memories 😍…THOSE are the things that matter and that we (myself included) should focus on ⚠️
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What do you think? Do you agree? Are you chasing some numbers?

Be positive!

Love is love

Love is love. It always was and always will be 👊🏻
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Why do you care who the other person likes? Who does she or he love? Why does it matter if a guy is into women or men? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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It is SO intimate and so individual who we love ❤💜💙💚💛🧡
I never undestood people talking bad about gays or lesbians. What is so different  about the person that he/she is homosexual? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Does that make him a worse friend? 🤔 Does that make her a worse employee? Does that make him a worse enterprenuer? Why something so intimate as who do we love has to have any impact on the rest of the world? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Being heterosexual isn’t anything better and being homosexual isn’t anything worse ⚠️. People who are gay are born this way, this is a part of their character, of their personality 💬.
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Would you shout at a  guy because he’s into redheads while most guys are into blonds 👱‍♀️? Would you point your finger at a guy who likes chubby girls while most men like skinny women 🤨? Would you laugh at a girl who is into shorter guys while most of us like taller men 🙄? That’s just their type. That’s who they pick. That’s who they’re attracted to 🤩. And I cannot say for sure but I guess the same thing is when a guy likes another guy. That’s just his type 🤗.
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People really need to stop judging everybody who isn’t like them. Just because some people don’t share your interests doesn’t mean they’re worse 🙄. We all have different opinions, different taste, we like different types of music 🎶 or movies 🎬, we believe in different gods 🙏, we differ politically and we love different people ❤.
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We SHOULD BE all different. This is what makes us interesting as a society 😊
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It shouldn’t matter who we love. The important thing is to be good and kind 🙏

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Communication

Do you know what’s key to good relationship?
Communication 😉
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And it’s not only about love relationships, it’s important to make any kind of relationship work – a friendship, a relation you have with your daughter, mom, neighbour, coworker. Anybody.
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We are ALL different. And nobody sits in your head, nobody reads your mind, believe me 😉. So when you don’t like something, when you need help with something you need to COMMUNICATE.
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Plenty woman (I used to be one of them) think that if they send „signals” to their partner he’ll know what she needs/means 😅 That if she says something between the lines about a movie she’d like to watch or talk about her friend’s new cosmetics he’ll instantly get the idea to take you to cinema to see that movie and he’ll buy those cosmetics for you 😅 No, this doesn’t work with men.
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Men and women work totally differently and so do our minds! You need to be loud and clear 😉
COMMUNICATE.
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It works like that with everybody. If you’re angry with your boss because he/she gives you so much work tell him/her politely (!) that you’re swamped and ask if he/she can maybe get one of your co-workers to help you, to divide some big task between 2-3 people, not just 1 🤷🏼‍♀️
TALK.
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If you’re frustrated with your friend because he keeps inviting you to places you don’t like or wants to do something you’re not fan of – tell him. He simply might not know that you don’t like it! I’m sure he doesn’t do it to make you angry, he’s just anaware of your negative feelings. Why? Because you’ve never told him that you e.g. don’t like bowling or eating at that Thai restaurant. 😉
LET HIM KNOW.
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We all need to talk more. Say what we think out loud. Don’t keep your thought or feelings to yourself. But remember, if it’s something negative think how to communicate it to your friend to not hurt his feelings 🙏. We should always be sincere and if you don’t like something you should say it but do it gently.

📸 pic taken in Zakhyntos in 2017