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POSITIVE NEWS

🤗 POSITIVE NEWS 🤗
48-year-old woman became addicted to hard drugs at 12 and is now graduating from university. She says: “Stop selling yourself short.”
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Workers sent birthday greetings to a child with brain cancer looking across from a hospital bed.
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When Nova Scotia community learned family was homeless, strangers came together to build them anew home.
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Skateboarder Sky Brown to become youngest British summer Olympian.
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A woman was looking to adopt a new pet. Then she found the dog she lost two years ago.

Come back next Monday for more!

Kopia Marie Curie

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 69

Today let’s focus on summing up on your tools which we used for the last 16 months in our Smiley Future 🤗. Which ones became most useful to you? 🤔
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Here’s a list of those most important ones:
🔸️ Building a goal with SMART method (step 6)
🔸️ Implementation intention (step 10)
🔸️ Process visualisation with positive or negative outcome (step 11)
🔸️ Training will power: reducing stress (step 17), improving your willpower by breathing (step 18), autoobservation (step 19), beating tiredness and feeling burnt out (step 20), finding the source of your ‘I desire’ power (step 20) – which of those elements did you find most useful?
🔸️ Ways of being good to yourself (step 25)
🔸️ Ways of deferring gratification (step 30)
🔸️ Ways of beating procrastination (step 32)
🔸️ Ways to fight lack of motivation (step 37)
🔸️ Working on your sabotagin thoughts (step 42-45)
🔸️ Observing the impact of emotions on your willpower (step 47)
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Which one of those tools helped you most? 🤔
In what way can you use them in the future?
Write down your reflections 📝
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Next week: Summing up: Practicing mindfullness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 68

Today we’re gonna continue summing everything up ✔. I highly encourage you to reflect on what subjects were most important to you, what did you discover about yourself? 🧐 To make it easier here’s a list of the subjects we went through:
🔸️Training strong will
🔸️Mind traps
🔸️Be good to yourself
🔸️Procrastinating
🔸️Deffering gratification
🔸️Sabotaging thoughts
🔸️Emotions vs will power
🔸️Mindfullness
🔸️Practicing gratitude
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Which out of those subjects touched you the most, made you reflect most, opened your eyes? 🤔
Will those be helpful in the future? How can you use them?
Write down your thoughts 📝
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Next week: Summing up: Your tools
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 67

Time for summing up 🤩. It is a very important moment, in which you should pay full attention. Why? 🤔 Because every path leading to a long-term goal is about learning something new 🤗. You find out plenty new things about yourself, you have a change to draw conclusions from your strong and weak points, successes, mistakes and failures.
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Let’s start summing up with analyzing success and strong points. Answer those questions:
➡️ What have you acomplished during this challenge?
➡️ What new habits, tools or knowledge have you started using in practice?
➡️ What have you managed to do?
➡️ How close did you get to reaching goal? Where were you in the begging of this challenge and where are you now?
➡️ What advantages and strong points do you notice now, from time perspective? Maybe you’ve managed to discover or appreciate more some of your resources (internal or external) that you haven’t seen before?
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Second part of summing up is about mistakes, failures and mishaps that have come along the way and thank to which you can learn new things about yourself 😉. Remember to avoid excessive self-criticism and blaming yourself. You’re doing this summing up in order to uses this experience and learn from it 👍. Be good to yourself and understanding. Remember: the only person who doesn’t make mistakes is a person who doesn’t do anything at all! 😉
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Answer those questions:
➡️ What was hard, what have you not managed to achieve? Why did you think it happened?
➡️ What knowledge have you gained because of it?
➡️ What discoveries about yourself will be useful in the future, while reaching other goals?
➡️ What  did your difficulties come from? What helped or what could help next time?
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In the end thank yourself for the perseverance and courage 🙏. Thanks to it you try, you make mistakes and learn new things about yourself in order to take another step forward ➡️
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Next week: Suming up: Your biggest discoveries
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Be positive!

Confession

I’ve got a confession for you 😶.
Last couple of months I’ve been using less and less of Instagram 😏. I mean I have been posting, have been sharing some stuff on my stories but the truth is I haven’t been scrolling that much through feed and I haven’t been reading other people’s post and checking out their photos 😬.
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Why? It made me feed bad 😪.
I used to get motivation from other accounts 🤩. I used to love to scroll through Instagram to see others succeed and to get new energy from them 🤗. I used to tell you to do the same. To look at other people succeeding as a motivation for you.
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But lately as I’ve been struggling with lack of energy and motivation after battling with Covid and very stressful months 😥, I didn’t want to see others succeed when I couldn’t 💔, I didn’t want to see beautiful girls posing on beautiful pictures while I not only couldn’t take any nice pictures but also put on weight last couple of months 🙈, I couldn’t see other accounts grow when I’ve been losing followers 😬. I just shut it all down and haven’t been scrolling Instagram…until last weekend.
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Now what you can learn from this? 🤔 First of all, if something or someone makes you feel bad put it aside, push them away and detach from negative emotions 🚫. Either temporarily like I did or permanently if that’s what you need.
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But secondly, and even more importantly, remember that there always will be people more successful than us 😅, more attractive than ourselves, wiser, more experienced…and that’s ok 😉. We should learn from those people and just focus on ourselves and try to be best version of you 🤗
Always.

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 66

Today I highly encourage you to create new reward system, now regarding maintaining the change 🏆
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Start rewarding with complimenting yourself on even smallest successes 🤗. I know it may not be easy and you are probably not used to catching on your sucesses but more on your mistakes or failures 🤔. It is worth though to try it out and redirect your attention to progress and accomplishments 🤩.
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If you are having problem with that write down all the compliments you like to hear and use them on every occassion of even smallest acomplishments 😎. Every day. If nothing comes to your mind try those examples: „You’re doing great!”, „Good job!”, „Keep going!” 👏
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Another step of conscious rewarding yourself is to create reward system, for example once a week or once a month 😊. Let it  be something that will make you very happy (but won’t be a conflict to your main goal) 😀
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Next week: Suming up: conclusions on successes and mistakes
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 65

Last week we talked about possible difficulty in maintaining a change e.g. during holidays 😬. There might appear other obstacles and that’s why I highly encourage you to create new implementation intentions! 🤗 This tool shouldn’t be underrated!
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Task for today: Create new implementation intentions – if you need to remind youreslf how to do it check out step 10 of our Smiley Future 😉. This time make those intentions about maintaining the change. They may differ from the first ones you’ve created in the beginning of our challege then. So don’t skip that step! I promise you it is worth doing it!
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Next week: Create new reward system
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 64

Today we’re gonna finish creating new plan for maintaining change 🤗 – lets focus on last 2 letters of SMART method so answer those questions:
➡️Is your plan realistic?
➡️Will you be able to realize this plan now not as a part of a challenge/project/diet but as a new way of living 🤔? Have a moment to think whether it goes well with your everyday routine/schedule
➡️ What do you need to make the plan for maintaining the change realistic?
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Now time to set a new time bound – after what time will you realize you’ve achieved to maintain the change and that you’ve managed to make it a permanent change? Set a specific date 😉
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At first it can be after e.g. 3 months. Let this time be a test whether you’ve managed to maintain the change and maybe to check what do you need to change to make it permanent. It is very important to test it so you won’t go back to old bad habits 😉
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Next week: Create new implementation intentions
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 63

Today another hint helpful in maintaining change 🤩. Think whether maintaining change is attractive to you, in other words what’s your motivation 🤔
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Answer this question:
➡️Why do you want to maintain the change? 🤔 Write down all the reasons that come to your mind 📝 and keep it so you could go back to it in moments of weakness or doubts in maintaining your change 😉.
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Task for today: I encourage you to create new benefit card (check out step 38) this time focusing on benefits of maintaining your goal 💪
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What benefit card is? It is simply a list of all reasons why you’d like to maintain your goal 🤩. If you’re wondering what’s the point in writing them down and you think „I will remember them” – I’ll surprise you: in the moments of lost motivation it is easy to forget why you want something so much 😉. When you find a temptation in reach of your sight (or hand), you’re stressed and/or tired or you’re in a bad mood those reasons suddenly all get forgotten 🤷🏼‍♀️
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In those kind of situations benefit card might come very useful. Have it always with you (for example as  a note in your phone 📱) and read it in difficult moments to make it easier to maintain your goal 😉. It is best though to read it everyday, even when you’re feeling motivated.
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Benefit card next to process visualisation (step 11) are great tools to strengthen your strong will 💪
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Next week: Permanent change
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s book “90 days – design your tomorrrow”

Motivation

Take that risk!

You know that saying „Who doesn’t risk, doesn’t drink (blue) champagne”? 😄
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Sometimes you just have to take that risk! If not now, when? 🤔 The timing will never be perfect so it is worth to take risk sometimes! 😉
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Most of successful entrepreneurs risked it all and e.g. spent all their savings to invest in their business 💰. They took that risk! You either go all in and have enormous effects right away or you can play safe and slowly grow but it will take ages before you really succeed 😉. And remember – you either succeed or learn, there’s no failure here! 🤗
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Just have a look at Inspirational Stories I post or read any biography 📖. There are plenty people who have risked it all and they are so happy that they did! 😊
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Did you know that I published a book? It wasn’t easy, it took me 7 years, lots of work and I did spend all my savings at the time to have a professional correction, cover designed and 180 copies printed to send out to publishing houses 💸. It may be nothing compared to others entrepreneurs but I did take some risk and it was worth it! 😊
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And some day I’m gonna take even bigger risk and will start my own company 😊