Be positive! · Self-evolving

Control freak confession

I already said that but I’ll keep repeating it from time to time so that you remember it – you can’t control everything! 🤷🏼‍♀️
You can plan what you want 📅, you can make the most precise schedules 🗒, you can be excelent at time management 🕰 and you’ll still never predict everything, there always will be surprises and you need to be ready for them. ⚠️
I am a control freak 😅 and I write all my projects, ideas and plans down in my calendar. I tried to plan everything, sometimes even couple months or a year ahead! 🙈 I had a plan for my 20s and my precise goals that I needed to achieve e.g. by the age of 25. The more plans didn’t work out, the more devastated and angry I was 😵. I even stopped realising how much other stuff I managed to achieve, I only saw those unrealized plans. This led me to having panic attacks.🤯 I started going to a therapist. It was not good.😬
Remember, planning is good and I am all for it BUT you need to be ready that it can go wrong sometimes, that you might have some surprises and that some plans not only may delay but they may actually never happen. And that’s ok. 👍
2018 was a year of big changes for me, not careerwise but with my relationship and with my stability. I got married 💒, we got and moved to our new nest 🏡, we went on a honeymoon 🏝. There was lots of work (with the wedding and apartment) but it was the best year of my life 🤗.
2019 was supposed to be MY year, for my projects. I published a book in February 📖, I started this blog 📝 (I actually started it in November last year but it was quiet here for first 2 months) and I was supposed to start writing my 2nd novel ✏. Meanwhile we had many family issues, health issues and in the end I did maybe 30% of what I had planned with those projects. And that’s ok. 😉
When such a situation appears you need to be ready to be flexible and to choose what’s more important. ⚠️ I still did a lot this year (+there are still 3 more months left!) and there will still be next year 😊

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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!!!
🎊🎉🎊🎉 What are your plans for this year? Do you have a goal?

Remember: “A goal without a plan is just a wish”
You’ll need a good plan!

2018 was important for me due to big steps in my life (marriage and moving in to our 1st home of our own) but 2019 will be for my dreams and self-growth! I want to make this blog big (please help me 😊) + i’ll tell you soon about this goal of mine that i’ve been working on for 7 years – it will be important this year!


Good plan

I’d say that happiness is self-evolvment and making your dreams come true. Making dreams come true can be easy. What do you need?

  1. Motivation
  2. Determination
  3. Good plan
  4. Persistance
  5. Time management

If you are highly motivated to reach your goal and will combine it with a determination to succeed, a good plan broke down to small steps, and you will be persistent with those steps, there is no way you wouldn’t succeed. But to make it all work and not to stress about your plan you need good time management as well. What do I do? When I have a new idea/new project to work on I take a piece of paper and break it down to small steps. I write all of the steps down and then i’ll mark them one by one in my calendar. It is crucial to take one step at a time and to only focus on 1 part. Otherwise you’ll be stressing out about the whole project and how far you still have got to go. Don’t think about the end line. Think about that 1 step. When you make a good plan all you need to do is take a look in your calendar in the morning and see what one small step you had planned for today and do that. For example, if you want to get a job you’ve been dreaming of, you should start with  your resume. Make it step 1 to make sure it’s good, that you’ve got your strong skills featured. Then you should make a reserach about that certain company. See what they do, what they need, who do they need. Later on you could try networking. If you live close to their office you can go there during lunch time and maybe talk to someone as he/she is leaving for break. Another great way to network is LinkedIn. It’s a great platform where you can easily see who works where. After getting your resume ready, having your research and networking done you should write an email to the company with specific information that they want to hear (that’s why research what they need is very important). If you managed to get to know somebody from that company ask him/her if they can recommend you to the boss. After that call the office. Meet with somebody there. Etc. Etc. Just one step at a time.

If your goal is to lose 10kg try writing down how will you change your diet day by day (you should do it with a dietician though), what new excercises will you do to burn fat, to get more cardio. Etc. Etc.

I’m not gonna write down each scenario for you now, I just want to show you what you need to do. Make a plan. The more steps the better. Then just focus on it and be persistant.

You will probably think „Come on Pola, it’s not that easy”. Well it’s not gonna happen overnight, it probably won’t happen in a month. Some goals will need more steps and some less. But before you tell me it doesn’t work, juts try it out and see it for yourself. Maybe you’re wrong.


So what is your goal? What do you dream of? If you need some help with your plan don’t hesitate to ask me. I’m here for you. I do think I have good ideas and always try to think outside the box J