Be positive!

These times will teach us a lot!

Not being able to plan anything now drives me crazy 😫 but those crazy times really can teach us A LOT! 😉
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Planning is my strenght 💪 Whenever I have a new dream to fulfill or new project I want to start working on I divide it into parts and plan it out throughout a week/month/year. Thanks to planning I know what step I need to make to be closer to reaching my goal. When I have everything planned I feel calm because I have it all under control, all „in order”. Now it’s all gone.
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We were supposed to go to Spain in April, obviously that didn’t happen but I’d still like to go ASAP. The question is when? 🤷🏼‍♀️ When will it be ok to travel? Who knows? Time will tell 🕰.
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But it’s not only about the travelling 🌍. Due to economic crisis that we’ll be dealing with right now we don’t know what we stand on financially 📉. Can I still go to Spain? Or should I keep all my savings as bad times might come – lower salary, maybe even losing a job? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I wanted to focus on self-development this year. I wanted to do a photography course in the summer 📸 and go back to University in autumn to start doing another degree 👩‍🎓. It all costs though. Should I still do it?
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But let’s not panic ⚠️. These times are even more challenging than we all thought they’d be but they will teach us SO MUCH! 🤗
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I am sure we are all learning to appreciate what we have now. I might have tough times at work but I am still lucky to still be employed as so many people lost their jobs already 😞
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What’s more, we are learning to be more here & now, to focus on present and live one day at a time 🙏 as it is so hard to plan anything 😅. I am learning to stop planning far ahead and focus on present week and on what’s happening now.
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These times teach us to be always prepared for surprises, that you are never able to plan EVERYTHING out. They teach us to be patient 😇
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I am more than sure that we will come out of the lockdown wiser, stronger and more patient 💪. We just need to hold a bit longer. It will be all better soon! 😊

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Smiley Future – Step 13

This is our last step of preparations and after that you’ll be ready to start reaching your goal! 😊
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Now we need to focus on your surroundings and people around you. You are already well prepared so now it’s time to let your close ones know that there will be changes/that you’ll e.g. have less free time etc.
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While focusing on your resolutions and goals you could forget that it would be good to also get your close ones ready. Why?
* You have a chance to present them your plan and to explain why your goal is important to  you and ask them for support 🤝
* Once you’ll tell them about your resolution you’ll feel bigger pressure and it will be harder for you to let go once some obstacles come or you’ll have a bad day 😉
* While talking to your close ones you’ll see their reactions and you’ll know if  you can count on them and have their support or the opposite 😉
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Unfortunately it happens that family or friends react on someone’s will to change with resistance or even anger. There are plenty stories of girls who decided to drop couch potato life and and start working out, eating healthy and they heard „You better stop because you’ll be anorectic”, „Are you crazy?” etc. 🙄
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Usually it comes from people who know that they should change something about their lives too and because they don’t want to do it, it is easier for them to denny it, sabotage positive changes in person next to them etc. 🙄 If you get those kind of reactions look for support in somebody else like me and other members of Smiley Society! 🤗
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But I do hope that you’ll get positive comments only.
Next week: What is willpower and how does it work
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

📸 pic taken in Greece in 2015

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Smiley Future – Step 10

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Implementation intention meaning how to implement your plan into life.
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Last week you created a plan of action based on your stenghts 💪 Today we’re gonna add your weakneses and obstacles that you may come upon to it. To make it all work you’re gonna need implementation intention but don’t worry, it’s a simple mechanism that is very effective!
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How does it work? Imagine  possible future scenarios that can be obstacles to reaching your goal and then find a solution for it. Later create (and write down!) a sentence: „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” 😊
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Example: „If i’ll be eating out I’m gonna choose healthy and fit dish, for example a salad” 🥦. „If I won’t want to workout I’ll ask my close ones for support and cheering” 💪. „When I’ll be doing shopping I’ll go to a store with a prepared ‘to buy’ list” 🗒
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Creating  scenarios like this in your head is effective because it creates a connection between a situation/obstacle and your reaction to it. ⚠️ If a situation like this happens you won’t have to wonder what to do! You’ll work automatically because you’ve already excercised that scenario in your head 😉
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Making decisions (especially pushing temptations away 😅) requires a lot of energy from you and when you’re in a hurry or hungry you choose what’s easiest but not what’s best 🤔. You know what I’m talking about? Implementation intention is for those kind of situations!
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So let’s get to work! Try to think of as many situations in which you let go and lose your motivation. Find best reactions to them and write them down in „If situation X happens, I’m gonna do Y” scheme 😊
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Next week: Process visualisation

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

📸 pic taken in Malta in 2016

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Smiley Future – Step 9

🧠SMILEY FUTURE🧠 — Step 9
Creating plan based on your strenghts
In those difficult times we all need a bit of a break for your mind 🤯 Just sit down, relax and start creating your plan of action!
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You’ve been preparing it for the last 8 steps so I hope this will be easy and pleasant for you 😉
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I encourage you to write down how do you want to realize your goal (set in SMART method) with help of your strenghts from step 7 💪
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* What are you good at?
Example: I’m reliable. I always keep my promises.
Submission to the action plan: „I’ll make a pact with another person to workout togetherm then it’ll be easier for me to realise my training plan as I will want to be reliable to the other person”
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* What are you effective at? What kind of situations you feel biggest impact on?
Example: I’m very organised
Submission to the action plan: „I’ll organize a plan for a day/week this way so I’d have time for activities related to the goal – training, cooking, spending time with family, writing CV etc.”
That’s my way 🙋🏼‍♀️
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* If you’ve managed to establish who you can count on in your surroundings when it comes to realising your goal, somebody who has the knowledge and experience, turn to that person for an advice. Use the hints you get from him/her to make or change your plan. Be flexible and open to any hints you get. You know yourself best! How can you use somebody’s knowledge and experience?
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*Your life situation e.g. if your financial situation lets you buy training programs or a career consultation. Your family situation is important here too e.g. if you have small children maybe apart from husband your family or friends can help you find time to realise your goal? How will you use your life situation in your plan?
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I hope those examples showed you the essence of  today’s task – plan of action based on your strenghts. If you’ll get some comments while preparing this plan like what is difficult for you, what hardly ever works write them down, we’ll get back to them.
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Next week: How to use your weaknesses!

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow” 📸 pic taken in China in 2012 (yes, that’s me 😅)

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Smiley Future – Step 8

🧠SMILEY FUTURE🧠 — Step 8
Last week we talked about your strenghts 👍. Today let’s talk about your wekanesses 👎. I know it may not be pleasant but it’s an important thing to do. In couple steps you’re gonna use your weaknesses to prepare a „plan b” for situation that may complicate achieving your goal.
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You can divide weaknesses into internal restrictions (your character) and external restictions (e.g. lack of knowledge, lack of time, not being understood by others, difficult situations).
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Try to answer couple questions:
· What kind of knowledge you don’t have but need for your goal?
· What part of your character can become an obstacle in reaching your goal? How can it complicate your plans?
· What types of situations are the hardest for you when it comes to following your dream? If it happened in the past what was the most challenging in it for you?
· What would your close ones mention as your weakness?
· What is difficult for you? What will be biggest challenge for you while following your dream?

Next week: Creating plan based on your strenghts

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE

Alright guys, time for new, and possibly the most important, weekly section in Smiley Society 😉
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You know how I divide my week into tasks and asign each day to one of my projects (yes, I love planning and being organized 🙈)? So e.g. every Monday I work on my blog and prepare all posts for the upcoming week, every Tuesday I do research for my 2nd book…etc etc. Thursdays used to be kind of „Others” section when I did some other stuff… Now it’s time to asign a permament thing for Thursdays and this is what my new section is going to be about – SELF-LOVE 🙏❤
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That’s right. I decided to plan couple hours of every Thursday to spend, well, with me! 😊 Either reading 📖, doing yoga 🧘🏼‍♀️(I plan to start practicing it), doing some home SPA or anything else that is relaxing. And I advice you to do the same! 😉
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We all need that time for ourselves, to get our thoughts together, to feel good in your own skin, to just relax and rest from everybody else.
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You need to have some time for the relationship you have with yourself! 🤗 You can’t share love and love others until you love yourself, until you feel good with yourself! 😉 We all need Self-love.
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So from now on, every Thursday, I’ll be sharing with you my ideas for those Self-Love days. Either recommending a good book for you to to read 📖, uploading a recipe for some good (but fit! 😉) food (let’s come back to Comfort Food section 🍪) or even showing you how to make some home-made cosmetics for your home natural SPA 🧖‍♀️.
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What do you think? Are you with me? Do you like this idea?
Let me know! 🤗
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And as for a task for today – pick a day in your week to have those Self-Love days. It doesn’t have to be Thursday like me. It can be during weekend too. Just pick it and mark it in your calendar 📆 for good. It’s not about a whole day, just 2-4h for yourself.
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You can do it. You HAVE TO do it. If you think that you don’t have that much time for yourself….well…maybe it’s time to rearrange some things, to rearrange some prorities 😉. After all you’ll have that „me, myself & I” relationship your whole life. You need to make it work. You need to feel good in it. You need to love yourself 🙏❤

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Smiley Future – Step 2

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Let’s get back to our circle of life (you’ll find it in Downloads section in BIO).
Today time to think about your career 👩‍🎨👨🏻‍🎓👨🏿‍⚖ It can be your work, studies or school. If you’re not working at the moment because you’re on maternity leave or on holidays do not miss out on this part.
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As usual – mark on your circle of life how happy you are about your career in a scale from 1 to 10.
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Here are the questions that will help you mark that subject:
* Do you think this part needs change? If yes, what would have to change?
* What will you gain by those changes?
* What will happen if you don’t change it?
* In what way does career have an impact on other aspects of your life now?

Next week: Health 🥦

Source: @chodakowskaeka‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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New segment – SMILEY FUTURE

I’ll be starting a new section for you, lets call it „SMILEY FUTURE” 😎
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For this part i’ll be using @chodakowskaewa new book „90 days – design your tomorrow” but also other psychological books 📚. It will come as excercises for you and I’ll  be posting it once a week, on Tuesdays 😉.
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In order to follow your dreams and to become successful you need to plan your strategy of changes and in order to to that you need to summarize what you have, what you are proud of and what you don’t like in your life first 📝.
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There is this famous excercise among psychologists and/or coaches called „The circle of life”. It is a circle divided into seperate segments of life like „Relations”, „Finances”, „Career” etc. You mark how sattisfied you are with each segment on a scale from 1 to 10. 🤗
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You can see examples of a circle of life and a filled one attached here. We’re gonna work on a smaller circle divided into 6 parts (last photo) but if you feel the need to divide it into more parts then you can do it too. 😉
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We’ll divide each segment into seperate day and we’ll start with ‘Relations’ today. (Come back next Tuesday for another segment – ‘Career’)!
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Before you mark the answer on your circle answer those questions:
* How satisfied are you with relations in your life in a scale from 1 to 10?
*Does this segment need changing? What would you like to change?
*What will you gain by changing it?
*What will happen if you don’t change it?
*In what way do the relations have impact on the rest of the segments of your life? 💥
This is just for you, answer those question honestly.
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Next week: Career and once we have all the segments done you’ll know exactly what you need to work on.

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Control freak confession

I already said that but I’ll keep repeating it from time to time so that you remember it – you can’t control everything! 🤷🏼‍♀️
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You can plan what you want 📅, you can make the most precise schedules 🗒, you can be excelent at time management 🕰 and you’ll still never predict everything, there always will be surprises and you need to be ready for them. ⚠️
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I am a control freak 😅 and I write all my projects, ideas and plans down in my calendar. I tried to plan everything, sometimes even couple months or a year ahead! 🙈 I had a plan for my 20s and my precise goals that I needed to achieve e.g. by the age of 25. The more plans didn’t work out, the more devastated and angry I was 😵. I even stopped realising how much other stuff I managed to achieve, I only saw those unrealized plans. This led me to having panic attacks.🤯 I started going to a therapist. It was not good.😬
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Remember, planning is good and I am all for it BUT you need to be ready that it can go wrong sometimes, that you might have some surprises and that some plans not only may delay but they may actually never happen. And that’s ok. 👍
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2018 was a year of big changes for me, not careerwise but with my relationship and with my stability. I got married 💒, we got and moved to our new nest 🏡, we went on a honeymoon 🏝. There was lots of work (with the wedding and apartment) but it was the best year of my life 🤗.
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2019 was supposed to be MY year, for my projects. I published a book in February 📖, I started this blog 📝 (I actually started it in November last year but it was quiet here for first 2 months) and I was supposed to start writing my 2nd novel ✏. Meanwhile we had many family issues, health issues and in the end I did maybe 30% of what I had planned with those projects. And that’s ok. 😉
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When such a situation appears you need to be ready to be flexible and to choose what’s more important. ⚠️ I still did a lot this year (+there are still 3 more months left!) and there will still be next year 😊

Motivation

Setting your goals

When following dreams one of most important things is to set your goals right. Goals set right will help you UNDERSTAND the path you need to walk through more, it will be easier for you to PLAN your next steps, it will be easier for you to CONTROL if it’s going good, there will be LESS PRESSURE and it will be easier for you to BE PERSISTANT 😊
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Goals need to set with a SMART method 🤓. That’s right, SMART:
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S – Specific – Provide enough detail so that you know exactly what you should be doing. For example, stop setting goals such as „I need to lose 10kg in 3 months”. Make it more „I need to start eating more vegetables and workout 4 times a week” 🥦💪. This is more doable, you have more control over it (as you know exactly what you need to do) and there’s less pressure. Try sticking to it and just wait for results. Same with e.g. growing here on ig. Instead of setting a goal like „I need to get 1k new followers in a month” try „I need to post daily, take more colorful photos and interact with other users more”. Just do it and wait for the results 😉
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M – Measurable – A measurable goal has an outcome that can be assessed as a hit or miss ✔❌. So e.g. you can easily check whether you worked out 4 times this week or posted everyday.
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A – Achievable – An achievable goal has an outcome that is realistic given your current situation. Make sure you actually have the time 🕰 to workout 4 times a week or post daily. Don’t set such goal if you know you won’t make it.
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R – Realistic – Start small. If you set your goal too high („I need to lose 10kg in a month” or „I need to gain 10k followers in a month”) there’s too big pressure and you will give up quickly if you won’t see results you’d want 🤔
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T – Time Bound – Set a timeframe for the goal: „in three months”, „by six months”. Setting an end point for the goal gives you a clear target to achieve 🏁
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Now that you know how to set your goal right let me know what are your goals!
Mine are: eat healthy + workout 3-4 times a week, post 5 times a week + take more colorful photos and read at least 60 pages a week 😊