Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 53

Today I want you to practice an excercise that increases awarness by listening 👂.
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Key element of this excercise is not to judge what you hear – listening without the impact of the past or of the future 😉. Lots of things that we feel are connected to the past. For example, we don’t like some song because it reminds us of some difficult moment 😥.
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That’s why today I want you to listen to something new, something you don’t know yet 🤗. It will let you focus on attentive experience by listening.
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➡️ 1. As soon as you pick some new song put your headphones on, close your eyes and sit down in a comfortable position 😊
➡️ 2. Try not to judge the song right away by its genre, artis tor songwriter. Ignore all those labels and dive deep into the sounds during whole song 🎶
➡️ 3. Let yourself explore new aspect of listening to music 😍. Even if at first you don’t like it, try to set aside this feeling and let your conciousness fully dive into the sounds you hear. Soak into the melody 😊
➡️ 4. Explore the song by bringing your attention from one instrument (voice) to another 🎷. Notice them not only together but seperately. If there are vocal parts in the song focus on the sound of the voice, its scale and tone. If there is more than one voice also try to hear each one of them seperately 😊
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How did you like that excercise? Have you managed to experience music without judging it, from another perspective, with mindfullness? Write down your observations, reflections and conclusions 📝
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: submergence
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

P.s. I started a Creative Challenge on my Instagram – come join us!

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 52

How do you find mindfullness practice so far? 🤔 Today I want us to practice mindful awarness 🤩. This excercise is to boost your awarness while doing everyday, normal activities and to appreciate their results 😉.
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Think of something that happens couple times a day everyday, something that you take for granted and don’t bring any attention to 🤷🏼‍♀️. It can be e.g. opening door 🚪. For one day, everytime you grab a handle stop for a second and bring your attention to where you are, how you feel and where do these doors lead you to 🤔.
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A moment that you choose doesn’t have to be a physical activity. You can focus on a point where a negative thought appears 💭. Stop then, notice your emotions and that thought – see if it’s needed and then push it away 👊🏻.
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It can be a moment right before a meal – before you start eating bring your attention to smell 👃, color of the meal 👀 or focus on the fact of how good it is to eat a meal with family or friends ❤.
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This excercise helps you switch from automatic thinking 🧠 to experiencing mindfullness and gratitude for every little (and so far – boring) thing or action 🤗.
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: listening 👂
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 51

Let’s continue practicing mindfullness 🧘🏼‍♀️. Next excercise is careful observation 👀. It lets you notice and appreciate simple, obvious elements of reality and it serves you to feel that you’re a part of a beautiful natural environment what tends to slip out in everyday rush 😉.
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➡️ 1. Pick an element of nature in your close surroundings and focus on that for a minute or two. It can be a flower 🌸, a tree 🌳, an insect 🐞, clouds ☁️, moon 🌚…anything
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➡️ 2. Don’t do anything else ❌ just watch the element 👀. Relax and observe it as long as your concentration lets you.
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➡️ 3. Look at the chosen element as if you’ve seen it for the first time 😁
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➡️ 4. Explore every aspect of that chosen element. Let its presence soak you completely 🤗
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How do you feel after that excercise? Do any new thoughts, discoveries come to your mind?
Write them down! 😊
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: awareness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 49

🧠SMILEY FUTURE🧠
— Step 49
To notice your emotions, to be good to yourself and to understand yourself better you’ll need mindfullness 🤗
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What is it? 🤔 In short, it is an intentional focusing on here & now without judging it. Practicing mindfullness we focus on what we experience in a specific moment, here & now ⬇️ We dont think about the past or the future 🚫, we focus on what’s happening now. Couple next steps will be about mindfullness ☺
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During mindfullness training try to remember about  couple tips:
💫 Don’t judge your thoughts and emotions that you’re feeling
💫 Be patient and persistent – let your thoughts and emotions go in and out in their time
💫 Keep your head open, imagine you’re a beginner at every training
💫 Avoid expectations – just try practicing mindfullness without any script or thoughts on how will it go
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Task for today: Are you attentive every day? 🧐 Do you focus on here & now, feel the presence? If yes, in what moments you find it easy to be focused on here & now and when is it harder? 🤔
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Have you ever practiced mindfullness? 😊
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: breathing
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

P.S. See my post on Instagram with a tutorial how to make that Seed Starter Valentine gift

P.S.2. I am doing 28 day Self-Love challenge at my Instagram – come join us!

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 48

Second part of our emotions vs willpower section ☝️
Do you react totally differently than how you’ve planned when you’re angry, mad or feeling any other strong emotion? 🤷🏼‍♀️ It happens to all of us, that’s why last week we’ve talked about overcoming sadness and today we’ll look closer on how anger 🤬 has an impact on your willpower.
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I encorage you to reflect 🤔 and answer those questions:
➡️ What do you do when you’re angry? 😡 What are your ways to get the anger out, to calm down? 🧘🏼‍♀️ Does anger have an impact on your motivation, willpower? If yes, how?
➡️ When you’re mad do any sabotaging thoughts appear? What are they? Create helpful reaction to them 😊
➡️ What can you do to feel anger without sabotaging your goals and complicating realizing your goal? 🧐 Do you suppress anger and use harmful to you ways (and to your goal) to release the tension? If yes, try finding a solution for that. Create (and write down) a strategy for constructive feeling and overcoming anger and calming yourself down in difficult moments 🤗
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Whenever I feel angry I try to workout 💪 (if possible at the moment) to get the anger out. This way I am even more pumped and get a good workout session 💦 but I also do not end up doing something unfavorable to me like e.g. reaching for unhealthy comfort food or alcohol 😉
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Have you ever tried working out when feeling mad? What are your ways to overcome anger? 😊
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Next week: What is mindfullness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 47

Next couple of steps will be about a very important subject – a connection between emotions and your will power and perseverance 💪
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Have you noticed that when you’re angry, mad or feeling any other strong emotion you tend to react totally differently than how you’ve planned? 🤔 We all know it and it is worth taking a closer look on how emotions influence your willpower. Today we’ll start with sadness 😞
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Try answering those questions:
➡️ What do you do when you’re sad? What are your needs to get through the sadness and soothe it? Do you tend to make yourself feel better by eating 🍕🍰🍫? Do you sometimes resign from some important to you actions to reach your goal because of sadness? 😰
➡️ When you’re sad do some sabotaging thoughts appear? Create helpful reactions for them 😉
➡️ What can you do to get through sadness without resigning from your goals and giving up? If you tend to ‘eat the emotions away’ (we all know the term ‘comfort food’ right? 😅) try finding a solution for it. For example change unhealthy snacks 🍿🍫🌭 for healthy ones 🍎🥜🥗 or try finding another ways to soothe the sadness other than eating 👍. Maybe a conversation with someone close to you 💬, watching a comedy 🎬 or a relaxing bath 🛀? You know yourself best! 🤗
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If this excercise is difficult to you and you’ll feel tense 😬, take couple deep breaths when you’re done with the questions, relax your body and have a rest 😘

Next week: Anger vs willpower
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 46

Today’s the last step of our intense (and uneasy!) work on sabotaging thoughts 💪
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➡️Today’s task nr 1: Now appreciate yourself for all the hard work and congratulate yourself on your success 😎. Yes, success because just noticing the sabotaging thoughts is already a big part of the success! 😉
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I realize that working on sabotaging thoughts lasts longer than a week or a month. Those last couple steps were only a stimulus and en encouragement to work! 💪 So remember: everytime you notice a sabotaging thought appreciate yourself with a smile and a good word! 🙏 Same thing when you choose a helpful reaction instead of being tempted! 🤗
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If a sabotaging thought you ‘caught’ wasn’t pleasant, you got tense or upset, after recalling a helpful/supporting thought take couple deep breaths and relax your body 🧘🏼‍♀️
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➡️ And now task nr 2: Create a system of awarding yourself (daily, weekly, monthly) for your hard work on sabotaging thoughts 🏆. You deserve it! 🤗
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Write down some nice, supporting words to yourself appreciating your work 📝
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Next week: How emotions influence your willpower 🤔
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 45

Take that step into future! 😉

Do you remember our previous steps about sabotaging thoughts? 🤔 Have you managed to work on them and create your helpful recreation or helpful reaction? 🧐 If yes – wonderful! 🤗 Now start using them in practice.
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Here are some examples of sabotaging thoughts and answers to them taken from „The Beck Diet Solution: Train Your Brain to Think Like a Thin Person” book by Judith Beck 📖
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➡️Situation: Reaching your goal will affect your family’s life 😐
🧠Sabotaging thought: I can’t put my needs first above the others 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: I can try reaching for goal that is imporant to me.Time to start thinking about my own needs 👊🏻. My family should eat healthy too, limit fattening products, it will be good for them as well. 😊
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➡️Situation: You don’t let yourself have any satisfaction until you lose as much weight as possible 😬
🧠Sabotaging thought: As long as I won’t reach my target weight I won’t feel any satisfaction. I don’t deserve any prizes until I lose as much weight as possible 🙄
❤Helpful reaction: I need to learn to be happy about small successes 🤩. Celebrarting every 2 kgs lost will make me feel better and will strenghten my belief in myself! 😎
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➡️ Situation: Temptation 😟
🧠Sabotaging thought: I deserve to eat anything that I want 🤷🏼‍♀️
❤Helpful reaction: If I want to benefit and stay thin I can’t eat anything I want. It is more important to lose weight and feel good than to spontanously decide what to eat 🤗
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Remember, those are only examples (although I really am often in situation nr 3 😅😳) that should help you understand the idea of creating helpful reaction/supporting thought for sabotaging thought 🙂.
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Create your helpful reactions that fit your individual situation and personality. You are the expert of yourself! 😚
 
Next week: Appreciate your hard work!
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 44

Have you managed to notice your sabotaging thoughts? 🧐 If yes – great! I hope you’ve written them down because today we’re gonna look for a way to fight them! 👊🏻
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Task for today: for each sabotaging thought create a supporting thouht or helpful recreation 🤗. Now you’ll be able to not only notice a sabotaging thought but to stop and choose how you wanna react❗. Will you accept what the sabotaging thought is telling you or will you, thanks to previously prepared supporting thought or helpful recreation, choose another solution? 🤩
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Working on sabotaging thoughts makes you aware of your choices and you no longer will work or react automatically. 🤗
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Take a pen, piece of paper and write down your sabotaging thoughts and some helpful answer to them! 📝
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Next week: Defeat your sabotaging thoughts
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 43

As you my remember from last week’s step sabotaging thoughts are on a subconscious level and are often irrational 🤔. Don’t judge them but also don’t ignore them – take them seriously. Even if they seem silly, weird or without any sense to you carefully look into them 🧐
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Why is it worth to do it? Here are couple reasons:
🔶️Sabotaging thoughts can:
➡️ Bring down your self-confidence
➡️ Let you reject knowledge, good advices or hints from others
➡️ Increase general stress level (and that weakens your strong will! Remember step 17?)
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That’s why task for today is: keep observing your sabotaging thoughts (and when you notice them, write them down! 📝) while remembering to be good to yourself! 😉
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Next week: Create your helpful recreation
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”