How do you relax? 😉
Today’s last part of „Be good to yourself” series.
Do you remember when we talked about factors that weaken your strong will? 🤔 It was stress and tiredness and lately we’ve been talking a lot about the danger of treating yourself badly and punishing (and getting into a trap of „everything or nothing” thinking” ⚠️).
That’s why sometimes in order to rebuild and strengthen strong will you need rest, regeneration and pleasures that will give you energy and motivation to work 🤗.
Task for today: Make a list of your ways of relax and pleasures. It is important so that they wouldn’t be contradictory to your goal (so e.g. don’t write on your list „eating huge pizza” or „eating chocolate cookies” when your goal is to eat healthy 😉).
It might be an evening with a good book 📖 or a movie 🎬, talk or meeting with a friend 💬, relaxing bath 🛀, walk around the neighbourhood 🏞, playing with dog 🐶, relaxing yoga session etc. 🧘🏼♀️
So what are your ways to relax? Tell me! 😊
Next week: Sometimes it’s better to postpone
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”
How do you rest? ⚠️
Do you lie down on a couch in front of a TV? And when you do, do you relax, focus on a movie and let your problems aside? ☺ Or do you watch a movie but in reality you keep thinking what you haven’t done, what still needs to be done, you analyze your problems and in fact have no idea what’s going on in the movie? 👀
You need to LEARN TO REST! That’s right, learn to rest 😉
When it’s relax time you need to focus on here & now and enjoy the silence/movie/chill. 🤗
Learn to „lock” your problems in a cage and keep them there for later 🗝, now enjoy your time off.
If you’re having a problem dividing relax time and „worrying time” 😅 plan it 😉. Find a spot in your calendar where you can sit for 15-30min and think about your situation, about solutions for possible problems etc. Do it during this time and then have proper time off.
When it’s relax time it relax time! Remember! Otherwise you’ll never rest and you’ll never feel relaxed ⚠️
While we all are struggling with those weird and difficult times lets dive into the past 😍
Take your photo album, pour yourself a tea/wine/drink and soak into memories. Maybe call a friend that you’ve been in a trip with and talk about it together? Laugh about your wild adventures and funny stories! 🤗
Try to relive those beautiful days!
Maybe dig deeper and find your childhood photos? Call your siblings or parents and relive it together! 😊💕
Memories are forever 🙏
📸 pic taken in Dominican Republic in 2018
How’s your self-isolation going?
Are you stuck in pjs and without make up for weeks now?
Today I want you to jump out of pyjamas and suit up! 😉
Put on something nice, do your hair and make up and check yourself out in the mirror!
Maybe do some selfies? 😉😅
Simply dress up just for you, maybe try some new hairstyle or new kind of make up?
📸 pic taken ages ago 😅
How are you guys? Have you picked a day for your self-love time? I hope you did cause today I’m gonna show you an idea for quick home-made SPA! 🧖♀️
Have you ever made your own cosmetic? Today I’m gonna tell you how to quickly prepare a home-made natural scrub.
All you need is:
🔸️1 glass of bown sugar
🔸️1/2 glass of coconut oil
🔸️juice squeezed out of fresh grapefruit
1. Mix coconut oil with sugar
2. Add grapefruit peel and juice
3. Gently mix everything
And that’s it!
Your 100% natural scrub is ready!
Now go use it (it will leave your skin a bit oily and sticky, just use lots of warm water to wash it off) and get some magazine or book for a chill evening! 😚
You know what I find really surprising and odd? We keep inventing those facilities, those machines that are supposed to get us more time yet we keep lacking it. We now have washing machines that do laundry for us yet we’re still in a hurry. We’ve got dishwashers that get dishes clean for us which normally took plenty time yet we still don’t have enough time for anything. We even got diet caterings (which I got addicted to this month) thanks to whom we don’t have to cook or do grocery shopping.
We keep buying more time in order to keep loosing it doing something else.
Aren’t you tired of that rat race? Of constantly being in rush? Of running from one place to another with your tongue out? I sure am.
We live in great times when we have somany machines doing stuff for us, we live in times when we should have so much more time than our ancestors who had to do everything manually yet we still don’t have it. Many years ago people started escaping from nature into the city to find a better life yet now we run away from city into nature to catch a breath. Does it apply to you?
This needs to STOP.
We all need to slow down. And the easiest way is to start appreciating here & now. Don’t rush from one task to another, don’t take anything for granted and learn to make time. That’s right, sometimes it is not about having time but making time. If you have those machines running and doing laundry, dishes or dinner for you don’t use that time to get soaked into more work, use it with your loved ones, with your family, reading a good book or simply connecting to nature.
Of course it is convenient and helpful to use that extra time (while you have that laundry or anything else done for you by a machine) to do something else but don’t overuse it.
It is all about that healthy balance to be able to divide your time this way to both have some work done but also to have propper rest and to spend your free time nicely. I am a workaholic and tend to put loads of work/project on me but I never work past 9pm or on weekends. This is my time to rest, to reload, to connect with family, friends and nature or to travel around the world and enjoy its charm 🙂
We all have bad days from time to time. Dwayne Johnson, Elon Musk, J.K. Rowling or whoevere your mentor is, have them too. And that’s ok. 👍
You don’t have to shine everyday, you’re not a Sun! 😉
If you’re feeling off, just take a day off. Have good sleep 🛌, meditate and calm yourself 🧘🏼♀️, watch a good movie 🎬 and relax 😇. Get yourself some new energy to get up the next day and get back on your track. 🤩
The worst thing you can do on a day like this is to keep pushing even though you don’t feel like it. Honestly. ⚠️
Why? Because you’ll only get discouraged and you’ll most likely give up on your dreams.👎 Days like this are most common reason why people give up. Because they push too hard, because it makes them not like the path they’re going, because it repels them from going forward.
You’re not feeling well? Don’t push it. Have a day off and get back to your dreams tomorrow.
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Do you know when to stop & relax?
Are you setting yourself goals that you NEED TO do before taking some time off?
You need to know when to stop.⚠️
There will always be something to do but you need to learn to put it aside undone and have some time for yourself. You won’t work well without rest anyway!
It was hard for me, some time ago, to stop working and start chilling when I didn’t finish what I was doing. I kept going and going until it was done.
Today I set myself times when I start relax time and when it comes I just leave work and go rest. For example, I work till 9pm at my music agency or blog stuff (or doing chores at home or anything else) and whatever I manage to do till that time will be done and the rest I’ll do the next day. The world won’t end if I do the laundry the next day or send some emails the following morning. 🤷🏼♀️
You need to proritise your relax time too. Don’t push it further and further. Just put work/chores/anything else aside and chill. You’ll get back to that tomorrow.
It’s not only about small one-day activities. We keep setting new goals one after another after another. We succeeded in one thing, we got to our finish line and we want more and more and we keep pushing our finish line further and further instead of appreciating what we’ve achieved in the 1st place.🤷🏼♀️
Don’t run forward. Stop and rest from time to time. Celebrate your successes, enjoy what you achieved, have some rest and then set new goals.😘 —
Last photo from Italy!
Swipe left for our short video from that trip 😊
Go into the weekend wiser and with more experience than a week ago.
Sum up your week – what have you achieved, what has failed, what have you done right and what wrong. Congratulate yourself on your successes and learn from the things that went wrong (DON’T punish yourself or feel bad about them. It was a lesson not a failure!). Think about the next week. What do you need to work on to not make same mistakes anymore. What do you have to do to get closer to your goal. Organize that week.
And now go rest. Go enjoy the weekend. Turn your mind off, be here & now and get back to work on Monday with new motivation and new energy!
Today I want to talk to you about sleep. Having a good night sleep and feeling rested in the morning has enormous effect on your mood so it is important to make sure you sleep well. ⚠️ Here’s 12 facts about SLEEPING.💤
1.It is very important what you do 2-3h before sleeping. When you fall asleep while overthinking, the mind remains active as if you were awake which is why you tend to wake up tired. Try to relax before sleep time. Also, don’t look at blue light (so no phones, no tv) at least 30min before bed time 🚫📱
2.Bedroom should be only used for sleeping (and sex). You shouldn’t work in bed, watch tv or even read books. Make sure that your brain connects bed only with rest. This way your mind will reprogram into „a sleeping mode” when you go to bed and you’ll fall asleep easier. Bed is not a place for work! 🛌
3.Medically speaking, it would be best if your bedroom had only bed in it and nothing more. If you can do it. Especially get rid of radios, TV and computers 🚫🖥
4.When you wake up in the middle of the night don’t check what time it is 🕜
5.Find your rhythm and try to go to sleep at the same time everyday and get up at the same time 🌠
6.Make sure it is as dark in your bedroom as it can get. The darker the better. It helps your body produce melatonin (an important hormone) 🌃
7.Make sure it is quiet. No clock that tick tocks, no humming sound, nothing. It should be total silence there 🔇
8.The older you get the less sleep you need. When 20-30 years old you need 7.5-8h of sleep everyday; 30-40 around 7h. When you’re over 40 only 6h of sleep will be enough and over 50 even 5h will do. But! Sleeping for less than five hours any night decreases the productivity of your immune system, metabolism and the body’s response to stress 🤯
9.Good sleep makes you more creative and makes your memory stronger 🧠
10.Lack of a good night sleep makes it difficult to absorb new things 🤷🏼♀️
11.Getting more sleep will decrease your chances of experiencing and being more affected by negative emotions☺
12.The happier you are, the less sleep you require to function in everyday life. Sadness increases the urge to sleep more 🤗