Be positive! · Self-Love

Why is self-care so important?

Why is self-care so important? 🤔
First of all when you take care of yourself, when you are rested and calm you look at world differently!
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I got to a point couple months ago when I was so tired and so burnt out that nothing was bringing me joy, I was tired, stressed and annoyed all the time 🙄 When one small thing went wrong I’d instantly explode like a bomb.
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And then I finally learned to rest, to take care of myself, to have some me-time and I felt so much better! Not only I felt rested, calmer and was doing everyday duties or working on my projects with a smile on my face 😊 but also I wasn’t so tense and e.g. I wouldn’t explode when something unexpected happened or when something went wrong 😊 I was happy and excited to work again! I was nice to people around me again 🤗
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Second of all, you can’t feed others from an empty bowl! So you can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself first! 😉 You NEED to be joyful, calm and rested to be able to help others and to be happy about it 😊

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Smiley Future – Step 52

How do you find mindfullness practice so far? 🤔 Today I want us to practice mindful awarness 🤩. This excercise is to boost your awarness while doing everyday, normal activities and to appreciate their results 😉.
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Think of something that happens couple times a day everyday, something that you take for granted and don’t bring any attention to 🤷🏼‍♀️. It can be e.g. opening door 🚪. For one day, everytime you grab a handle stop for a second and bring your attention to where you are, how you feel and where do these doors lead you to 🤔.
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A moment that you choose doesn’t have to be a physical activity. You can focus on a point where a negative thought appears 💭. Stop then, notice your emotions and that thought – see if it’s needed and then push it away 👊🏻.
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It can be a moment right before a meal – before you start eating bring your attention to smell 👃, color of the meal 👀 or focus on the fact of how good it is to eat a meal with family or friends ❤.
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This excercise helps you switch from automatic thinking 🧠 to experiencing mindfullness and gratitude for every little (and so far – boring) thing or action 🤗.
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Next week: Practicing mindfullness: listening 👂
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Work on your dreams no matter what vs rest no matter what 🤔

You need to listen to your body and rest when needed 🙏
I have been working too much + had too much stress in November and December and I still ‘feel it’ in my body 😫. Even though i’m not working that much now in January, I have finally lazy weekends and sleep well 🛌, I still feel tired and don’t have that energy to jump into spiral of work 🤷🏼‍♀️ and have been taking it slowly so far in the 1st half of January and that’s ok 😉. I’m still moving forward, just taking small steps.
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Don’t push yourself if you don’t feel like it ⚠️. Don’t say “I’ll do it no matter what!” if you don’t want to do it ⚠️. It may seem contradictory to me pushing you to follow your dreams and to work on yourself but it’s not, you just have to find that balance ⚖.
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If you’ll be pushing yourself and not feel like it not only your body will give up and you will feel tired all the time but you’ll drop that dream/project quickly as forcing yourself to work on it won’t make you happy 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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Create a healthy, individual routine for yourself 😊. Try what works for you and what doesn’t. I work 8h at my full-time ‘normal’ job, then work 4-5h on my projects/dream and always need those 3-4h of rest in the evening when I watch Netflix with my husband 🤩, workout and/or play PS4 🕹. And as for weekends I work on my projects for couple hours on Saturdays (but not each Saturday) and always leave Sunday fully off to do nothing and let my body and mind rest 🤗.

What works best for you?

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Smiley Future – Step 40

If you still lack motivation think whether you’re not too tired or too overwhelmed 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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Maybe you need regeneration? 🧘🏼‍♀️ If yes, think what do you need most to feel better? Being active or relaxing? ☺ Rest or new wave of inspiration? To be alone or to be among others? More sleep? 🛌 Healthier diet? 🥦 Contact with nature? 🏞 Maybe it would be good if you’d went to have a massage or see a doctor? 🏥
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Treat rest and rebuilding your strength (physical or mental) as ESSENTIAL step in reaching your goal 💪. If you’re lacking strength you can’t demand from yourself to be motivated and to have the will to work 😉. Task for this week: take care of youself!!! 🙏

What helps you rest, regenerate?
 
 
Next week: Motivations vs pleasure
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive! · Self-evolving · Self-Love

Healthy balance

You know what’s one of my main rules in life? Healthy balance about EVERYTHING 😉
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We live in crazy times where everybody is in a rush, everybody wants to be the best at something 😬. Some people risk it all to get what they want. Is it worth it though? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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I’ve heard some people say that in order to be successful you need to totally limit your time off and focus on work 😶. That you need to drop Netflix, drop the time with your loved ones and spend every minute of your day self-evolving 😏 That instead of watching a tv show on Netflix in the evening you should focus on broadening your skills, your knowledge and read a book 📖
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I understand that in order to succeed you need to work hard and I totally agree with that 👍 I highly encourage everybody to self-evolve, to learn new skills… sure, that too ☝️. But to limit your time off? 😕 To never watch Netflix (apart from the fact that you can always learn something from a tv show/movie/documentary 🙄)? To never have propper leisure time? 😒
Na-ah 👎
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There needs to be balance⚖. Not only you NEED TO REST regularly in order to rebuild your energy to work, to get new ideas 🤩, to stay fresh 🙂 but if you work your ass off and never rest you’ll lose your motivation, lose your will to work and it will all become a torture for you and in the end when you succeed it won’t bring you any joy 😏
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Another example are people who want to lose weight or muscle up and they work out every day or even twice a day 🙄. That ain’t the way to do it 🚫. Muscles grow on your rest days! You need at least 1 day break from working out a week for the body to recharge and for your muscles to grow.
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You should make sure that there’s heathy balance ⚖ in every part of your life:
Between work 💻 & rest 🎬
Between working out 💪& regeneration 🧖‍♀️
Between your career 👩‍💻 & private life 💃
Between the time you’ve got for others 👥 and time you’ve got for yourself 🧘🏼‍♀️
Between physical development 💪 and mental development 🧠
Between caring about what’s important ⚠️ and ignoring what’s not 🚫
Healthy balance is the key, believe me 😉

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Smiley Future – Step 28

How do you relax? 😉
Today’s last part of „Be good to yourself” series.
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Do you remember when we talked about factors that weaken your strong will? 🤔 It was stress and tiredness and lately we’ve been talking a lot about the danger of treating yourself badly and punishing (and getting into a trap of „everything or nothing” thinking” ⚠️).
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That’s why sometimes in order to rebuild and strengthen strong will you need rest, regeneration and pleasures that will give you energy and motivation to work 🤗.
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Task for today: Make a list of your ways of relax and pleasures. It is important so that they wouldn’t be contradictory to your goal (so e.g. don’t write on your list „eating huge pizza” or „eating chocolate cookies”  when your goal is to eat healthy 😉).
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It might be an evening with a good book 📖 or a movie 🎬, talk or meeting with a friend 💬, relaxing bath 🛀, walk around the neighbourhood 🏞, playing with dog 🐶, relaxing yoga session etc. 🧘🏼‍♀️
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So what are your ways to relax? Tell me! 😊

Next week: Sometimes it’s better to postpone
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive! · Health

Rest

How do you rest? ⚠️
Do you lie down on a couch in front of a TV? And when you do, do you relax, focus on a movie and let your problems aside? ☺ Or do you watch a movie but in reality you keep thinking what you haven’t done, what still needs to be done, you analyze your problems and in fact have no idea what’s going on in the movie? 👀
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You need to LEARN TO REST! That’s right, learn to rest 😉
When it’s relax time you need to focus on here & now and enjoy the silence/movie/chill. 🤗
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Learn to „lock” your problems in a cage and keep them there for later 🗝, now enjoy your time off.
If you’re having a problem dividing relax time and „worrying time” 😅 plan it 😉. Find a spot in your calendar where you can sit for 15-30min and think about your situation, about solutions for possible problems etc. Do it during this time and then have proper time off.
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When it’s relax time it relax time! Remember! Otherwise you’ll never rest and you’ll never feel relaxed ⚠️

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Memories

While we all are struggling with those weird and difficult times lets dive into the past 😍
Take your photo album, pour yourself a tea/wine/drink and soak into memories. Maybe call a friend that you’ve been in a trip with and talk about it together? Laugh about your wild adventures and funny stories! 🤗
Try to relive those beautiful days!
Maybe dig deeper and find your childhood photos? Call your siblings or parents and relive it together! 😊💕
Memories are forever 🙏

📸 pic taken in Dominican Republic in 2018

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Suit up

SELF-LOVE 🙏❤
How’s your self-isolation going?
Are you stuck in pjs and without make up for weeks now?
Today I want you to jump out of pyjamas and suit up! 😉
Put on something nice, do your hair and make up and check yourself out in the mirror!
Maybe do some selfies? 😉😅
Simply dress up just for you, maybe try some new hairstyle or new kind of make up?
Have fun!

📸 pic taken ages ago 😅

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Home SPA

SELF-LOVE TIME!
How are you guys? Have you picked a day for your self-love time? I hope you did cause today I’m gonna show you an idea for quick home-made SPA! 🧖‍♀️

Have you ever made your own cosmetic? Today I’m gonna tell you how to quickly prepare a home-made natural scrub.
All you need is:
🔸️1 glass of bown sugar
🔸️1/2 glass of coconut oil
🔸️grapefruit peel
🔸️juice squeezed out of fresh grapefruit

1. Mix coconut oil with sugar
2. Add grapefruit peel and juice
3. Gently mix everything

And that’s it!
Your 100% natural scrub is ready!
Now go use it (it will leave your skin a bit oily and sticky, just use lots of warm water to wash it off) and get some magazine or book for a chill evening! 😚