Be positive! · Self-Love

Why is self-care so important?

Why is self-care so important? ๐Ÿค”
First of all when you take care of yourself, when you are rested and calm you look at world differently!
:::
I got to a point couple months ago when I was so tired and so burnt out that nothing was bringing me joy, I was tired, stressed and annoyed all the time ๐Ÿ™„ When one small thing went wrong I’d instantly explode like a bomb.
:::
And then I finally learned to rest, to take care of myself, to have some me-time and I felt so much better! Not only I felt rested, calmer and was doing everyday duties or working on my projects with a smile on my face ๐Ÿ˜Š but also I wasn’t so tense and e.g. I wouldn’t explode when something unexpected happened or when something went wrong ๐Ÿ˜Š I was happy and excited to work again! I was nice to people around me again ๐Ÿค—
:::
Second of all, you can’t feed others from an empty bowl! So you can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself first! ๐Ÿ˜‰ You NEED to be joyful, calm and rested to be able to help others and to be happy about it ๐Ÿ˜Š

Smiley Future

Smiley Future โ€“ Step 52

How do you find mindfullness practice so far? ๐Ÿค” Today I want us to practice mindful awarness ๐Ÿคฉ. This excercise is to boost your awarness while doing everyday, normal activities and to appreciate their results ๐Ÿ˜‰.
:::
Think of something that happens couple times a day everyday, something that you take for granted and donโ€™t bring any attention to ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ. It can be e.g. opening door ๐Ÿšช. For one day, everytime you grab a handle stop for a second and bring your attention to where you are, how you feel and where do these doors lead you to ๐Ÿค”.
:::
A moment that you choose doesnโ€™t have to be a physical activity. You can focus on a point where a negative thought appears ๐Ÿ’ญ. Stop then, notice your emotions and that thought โ€“ see if itโ€™s needed and then push it away ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿป.
:::
It can be a moment right before a meal โ€“ before you start eating bring your attention to smell ๐Ÿ‘ƒ, color of the meal ๐Ÿ‘€ or focus on the fact of how good it is to eat a meal with family or friends โค.
:::
This excercise helps you switch from automatic thinking ๐Ÿง  to experiencing mindfullness and gratitude for every little (and so far โ€“ boring) thing or action ๐Ÿค—.
:::
Next week: Practicing mindfullness: listening ๐Ÿ‘‚
:::
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Work on your dreams no matter what vs rest no matter what ๐Ÿค”

You need to listen to your body and rest when needed ๐Ÿ™
I have been working too much + had too much stress in November and December and I still ‘feel it’ in my body ๐Ÿ˜ซ. Even though i’m not working that much now in January, I have finally lazy weekends and sleep well ๐Ÿ›Œ, I still feel tired and don’t have that energy to jump into spiral of work ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ and have been taking it slowly so far in the 1st half of January and that’s ok ๐Ÿ˜‰. I’m still moving forward, just taking small steps.
:::
Don’t push yourself if you don’t feel like it โš ๏ธ. Don’t say “I’ll do it no matter what!” if you don’t want to do it โš ๏ธ. It may seem contradictory to me pushing you to follow your dreams and to work on yourself but it’s not, you just have to find that balance โš–.
:::
If you’ll be pushing yourself and not feel like it not only your body will give up and you will feel tired all the time but you’ll drop that dream/project quickly as forcing yourself to work on it won’t make you happy ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ.
:::
Create a healthy, individual routine for yourself ๐Ÿ˜Š. Try what works for you and what doesn’t. I work 8h at my full-time ‘normal’ job, then work 4-5h on my projects/dream and always need those 3-4h of rest in the evening when I watch Netflix with my husband ๐Ÿคฉ, workout and/or play PS4 ๐Ÿ•น. And as for weekends I work on my projects for couple hours on Saturdays (but not each Saturday) and always leave Sunday fully off to do nothing and let my body and mind rest ๐Ÿค—.

What works best for you?

Smiley Future

Smiley Future โ€“ Step 40

If you still lack motivation think whether youโ€™re not too tired or too overwhelmed ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ.
:::
Maybe you need regeneration? ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ If yes, think what do you need most to feel better? Being active or relaxing? โ˜บ Rest or new wave of inspiration? To be alone or to be among others? More sleep? ๐Ÿ›Œ Healthier diet? ๐Ÿฅฆ Contact with nature? ๐Ÿž Maybe it would be good if youโ€™d went to have a massage or see a doctor? ๐Ÿฅ
:::
Treat rest and rebuilding your strength (physical or mental) as ESSENTIAL step in reaching your goal ๐Ÿ’ช. If youโ€™re lacking strength you canโ€™t demand from yourself to be motivated and to have the will to work ๐Ÿ˜‰. Task for this week: take care of youself!!! ๐Ÿ™

What helps you rest, regenerate?
ย 
ย 
Next week: Motivations vs pleasure
:::
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive! · Self-evolving · Self-Love

Healthy balance

You know whatโ€™s one of my main rules in life? Healthy balance about EVERYTHING ๐Ÿ˜‰
:::
We live in crazy times where everybody is in a rush, everybody wants to be the best at something ๐Ÿ˜ฌ. Some people risk it all to get what they want. Is it worth it though? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ
:::
Iโ€™ve heard some people say that in order to be successful you need to totally limit your time off and focus on work ๐Ÿ˜ถ. That you need to drop Netflix, drop the time with your loved ones and spend every minute of your day self-evolving ๐Ÿ˜ That instead of watching a tv show on Netflix in the evening you should focus on broadening your skills, your knowledge and read a book ๐Ÿ“–
:::
I understand that in order to succeed you need to work hard and I totally agree with that ๐Ÿ‘ I highly encourage everybody to self-evolve, to learn new skillsโ€ฆ sure, that too โ˜๏ธ. But to limit your time off? ๐Ÿ˜• To never watch Netflix (apart from the fact that you can always learn something from a tv show/movie/documentary ๐Ÿ™„)? To never have propper leisure time? ๐Ÿ˜’
Na-ah ๐Ÿ‘Ž
:::
There needs to be balanceโš–. Not only you NEED TO REST regularly in order to rebuild your energy to work, to get new ideas ๐Ÿคฉ, to stay fresh ๐Ÿ™‚ but if you work your ass off and never rest youโ€™ll lose your motivation, lose your will to work and it will all become a torture for you and in the end when you succeed it wonโ€™t bring you any joy ๐Ÿ˜
:::
Another example are people who want to lose weight or muscle up and they work out every day or even twice a day ๐Ÿ™„. That ainโ€™t the way to do it ๐Ÿšซ. Muscles grow on your rest days! You need at least 1 day break from working out a week for the body to recharge and for your muscles to grow.
:::
You should make sure that thereโ€™s heathy balance โš– in every part of your life:
Between work ๐Ÿ’ป & rest ๐ŸŽฌ
Between working out ๐Ÿ’ช& regeneration ๐Ÿง–โ€โ™€๏ธ
Between your career ๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ’ป & private life ๐Ÿ’ƒ
Between the time youโ€™ve got for others ๐Ÿ‘ฅ and time youโ€™ve got for yourself ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ
Between physical development ๐Ÿ’ช and mental development ๐Ÿง 
Between caring about whatโ€™s important โš ๏ธ and ignoring whatโ€™s not ๐Ÿšซ
Healthy balance is the key, believe me ๐Ÿ˜‰

Smiley Future

Smiley Future โ€“ Step 28

How do you relax? ๐Ÿ˜‰
Today’s last part of โ€žBe good to yourselfโ€ series.
:::
Do you remember when we talked about factors that weaken your strong will? ๐Ÿค” It was stress and tiredness and lately weโ€™ve been talking a lot about the danger of treating yourself badly and punishing (and getting into a trap of โ€ževerything or nothingโ€ thinkingโ€ โš ๏ธ).
:::
Thatโ€™s why sometimes in order to rebuild and strengthen strong will you need rest, regeneration and pleasures that will give you energy and motivation to work ๐Ÿค—.
:::
Task for today: Make a list of your ways of relax and pleasures. It is important so that they wouldnโ€™t be contradictory to your goal (so e.g. donโ€™t write on your list โ€žeating huge pizzaโ€ or โ€žeating chocolate cookiesโ€ย ย when your goal is to eat healthy ๐Ÿ˜‰).
:::
It might be an evening with a good book ๐Ÿ“– or a movie ๐ŸŽฌ, talk or meeting with a friend ๐Ÿ’ฌ, relaxing bath ๐Ÿ›€, walk around the neighbourhood ๐Ÿž, playing with dog ๐Ÿถ, relaxing yoga session etc. ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ
:::
So what are your ways to relax? Tell me! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Next week: Sometimes itโ€™s better to postpone
:::
Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Be positive! · Health

Rest

How do you rest? โš ๏ธ
Do you lie down on a couch in front of a TV? And when you do, do you relax, focus on a movie and let your problems aside? โ˜บ Or do you watch a movie but in reality you keep thinking what you haven’t done, what still needs to be done, you analyze your problems and in fact have no idea whatโ€™s going on in the movie? ๐Ÿ‘€
:::
You need to LEARN TO REST! Thatโ€™s right, learn to rest ๐Ÿ˜‰
When itโ€™s relax time you need to focus on here & now and enjoy the silence/movie/chill. ๐Ÿค—
:::
Learn to โ€žlockโ€ your problems in a cage and keep them there for later ๐Ÿ—, now enjoy your time off.
If youโ€™re having a problem dividing relax time and โ€žworrying timeโ€ ๐Ÿ˜… plan it ๐Ÿ˜‰. Find a spot in your calendar where you can sit for 15-30min and think about your situation, about solutions for possible problems etc. Do it during this time and then have proper time off.
:::
When itโ€™s relax time it relax time! Remember! Otherwise youโ€™ll never rest and youโ€™ll never feel relaxed โš ๏ธ

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Memories

While we all are struggling with those weird and difficult times lets dive into the past ๐Ÿ˜
Take your photo album, pour yourself a tea/wine/drink and soak into memories. Maybe call a friend that you’ve been in a trip with and talk about it together? Laugh about your wild adventures and funny stories! ๐Ÿค—
Try to relive those beautiful days!
Maybe dig deeper and find your childhood photos? Call your siblings or parents and relive it together! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•
Memories are forever ๐Ÿ™

๐Ÿ“ธ pic taken in Dominican Republic in 2018

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Suit up

SELF-LOVE ๐Ÿ™โค
How’s your self-isolation going?
Are you stuck in pjs and without make up for weeks now?
Today I want you to jump out of pyjamas and suit up! ๐Ÿ˜‰
Put on something nice, do your hair and make up and check yourself out in the mirror!
Maybe do some selfies? ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜…
Simply dress up just for you, maybe try some new hairstyle or new kind of make up?
Have fun!

๐Ÿ“ธ pic taken ages ago ๐Ÿ˜…

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Home SPA

SELF-LOVE TIME!
How are you guys? Have you picked a day for your self-love time? I hope you did cause today I’m gonna show you an idea for quick home-made SPA! ๐Ÿง–โ€โ™€๏ธ
โฃ
Have you ever made your own cosmetic? Today I’m gonna tell you how to quickly prepare a home-made natural scrub.
All you need is:
๐Ÿ”ธ๏ธ1 glass of bown sugar
๐Ÿ”ธ๏ธ1/2 glass of coconut oil
๐Ÿ”ธ๏ธgrapefruit peel
๐Ÿ”ธ๏ธjuice squeezed out of fresh grapefruit
โฃ
1. Mix coconut oil with sugar
2. Add grapefruit peel and juice
3. Gently mix everything

And that’s it!
Your 100% natural scrub is ready!
Now go use it (it will leave your skin a bit oily and sticky, just use lots of warm water to wash it off) and get some magazine or book for a chill evening! ๐Ÿ˜š