positive · Self-Love

7 things you should drop in 2021

⚠️7 things you should drop in 2021:
➡️ Living in the past 🙄– cut off 2020 for good and forget about it! 😅
➡️ Need to please everyone around you 😓 – not everyone deserves your time and effort, focus more on yourself! 🤗
➡️ Fear of change 😱 – change is good! Everybody is scared of something new, something unknown but it is so worth to take the risk usually and change e.g. your job, school or even a partner! 😜 If you feel that it’s a good change but you’re scared of it, go for it! 💪 It might be scary at first but in some time you’ll be glad you did it! 😚
➡️ Overthinking and excessive analyzing everything 🤯 – just stop! ❌ Don’t worry about problems that aren’t here, don’t analyze a situation that hasn’t happened yet! Stop imagining future problems and just focus on here & now 🙏
➡️ Cancelling time and/or plans for yourself in favour of people who won’t appreciate it 🙄 – if you have plans to stay at home in the evening in pjs and spend some quality time with yourself that’s ok 🤗! Don’t feel about it and don’t change those plans because of somebody else ❌
➡️Belief that you don’t have a purpose 😞 – yes you do! Bigger than you may think! 😚
➡️ Pretending to be someone you’re not 🤡 – just be yourself! Being yourself is trendy 😉
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After tough 2020 (but don’t think about it now, it’s done, gone, we’re not living in the past 😅) we all need a propper self-love time! 🙏❤ Let’s make a whole month of it or even a year! 🤗
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I’m doing a 28-day self-care challenge in February on my Instagram! 🤗 I’ll be giving  tasks for you everyday in the morning to do something for yourself 🤗, I’ll be sharing even more recipes for homemade cosmetics 🧖‍♀️, uploading videos for relaxing/meditation sessions 🧘🏼‍♀️ and basically giving lots of love and encouraging you to take care of yourself! 😘
See my instastories for more info!

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 48

Second part of our emotions vs willpower section ☝️
Do you react totally differently than how you’ve planned when you’re angry, mad or feeling any other strong emotion? 🤷🏼‍♀️ It happens to all of us, that’s why last week we’ve talked about overcoming sadness and today we’ll look closer on how anger 🤬 has an impact on your willpower.
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I encorage you to reflect 🤔 and answer those questions:
➡️ What do you do when you’re angry? 😡 What are your ways to get the anger out, to calm down? 🧘🏼‍♀️ Does anger have an impact on your motivation, willpower? If yes, how?
➡️ When you’re mad do any sabotaging thoughts appear? What are they? Create helpful reaction to them 😊
➡️ What can you do to feel anger without sabotaging your goals and complicating realizing your goal? 🧐 Do you suppress anger and use harmful to you ways (and to your goal) to release the tension? If yes, try finding a solution for that. Create (and write down) a strategy for constructive feeling and overcoming anger and calming yourself down in difficult moments 🤗
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Whenever I feel angry I try to workout 💪 (if possible at the moment) to get the anger out. This way I am even more pumped and get a good workout session 💦 but I also do not end up doing something unfavorable to me like e.g. reaching for unhealthy comfort food or alcohol 😉
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Have you ever tried working out when feeling mad? What are your ways to overcome anger? 😊
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Next week: What is mindfullness
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

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SELF-LOVE: Avocado

Do you know that avocado is superfood💪 🥑? It is one of the most nutrient-dense foods available 🤗. Avocado is among the richest in fiber, folate, potassium, vitamin E, good fats such as Omega-9 and magnesium among all fruits 🤩
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But it’s not only very healthy for your diet but it’s also great for your skin! 🧖‍♀️
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Avocado moisturizes, smoothes and protects skin from losing water 💧. It can delay the aging process and it stimulates collagen synthesis so it works like an anti-aging cream! 🤩
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Now that you know its superpowers it’s time to use it in a natural face mask! 😉
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You can make a facemask that is great for discoloration of your skin out of avocado 🥑 and couple drops of lemon juice 🍋. You just need to mix those 2 ingredients, put fresh mixture on your face and you’ll see 1st effects after 15 minutes when you wash it off! 🤗
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Try another facemask that will moisturize your skin – mix avocado 🥑 with 1 tbsp of honey 🍯. Mix it well. Put the mixture on your skin, neck and hair! Wash off after 15 min ☺

Have you ever tried such a facemask with a fresh avocado? 🥑

P.s. Snow fight! ❄
Did I get you? 😉

Health

How does excercise improve happiness? 💪⬆️😁

Do you regularly workout? 🤔 Working out is good not only to your body but to your mind too! 🧠
Tired of feeling down? 😴
Move! 😁
Stressed about work? 🤯
Move! 😁
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„Simply moving your body, has immediate, long-lasting and protective benefits for your brain”
– Wendy Suzuki, profesor of Natural Science and Psychology 😎
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Excercise will have both a positive chemical effect on your brain 🧠 reducing stress and improving mood as well as resulting in lasting positive benefits for the brain and body!
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It is scientifically proven that working out improves your mood and decreases feelings of depression, anxiety and stress 🤗.
After a good workout session your body starts producing lots of endorphines – happy hormones 🤩
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You feel proud and satisfied that you’ve worked out and managed to make your muscles work = your mood is better 😊
Your heart is beating fast so brings lots of blood and oxygen to your body and to your brain = your mind and memory works better 🤓
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Working out regularly makes your body chage, you lose weight, your body gets firm and looks better, your have more endorphines in your body, your mind works better = you’re happier 🤗
 
This is so simple!
Excercise does really improve happiness! 😉
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You should workout 20-40 min 3-4 times a week. I know you don’t feel like it, I know it’s  hard to start 😉. Believe me it is so hard for me to get up from a couch or desk and workout, I almost never feel like it and need to force myself to do it but I ALWAYS feel soooo good afterwards ☺
 
So, have you worked out today? 😉

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SELF-LOVE: Work on your dreams no matter what vs rest no matter what 🤔

You need to listen to your body and rest when needed 🙏
I have been working too much + had too much stress in November and December and I still ‘feel it’ in my body 😫. Even though i’m not working that much now in January, I have finally lazy weekends and sleep well 🛌, I still feel tired and don’t have that energy to jump into spiral of work 🤷🏼‍♀️ and have been taking it slowly so far in the 1st half of January and that’s ok 😉. I’m still moving forward, just taking small steps.
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Don’t push yourself if you don’t feel like it ⚠️. Don’t say “I’ll do it no matter what!” if you don’t want to do it ⚠️. It may seem contradictory to me pushing you to follow your dreams and to work on yourself but it’s not, you just have to find that balance ⚖.
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If you’ll be pushing yourself and not feel like it not only your body will give up and you will feel tired all the time but you’ll drop that dream/project quickly as forcing yourself to work on it won’t make you happy 🤷🏼‍♀️.
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Create a healthy, individual routine for yourself 😊. Try what works for you and what doesn’t. I work 8h at my full-time ‘normal’ job, then work 4-5h on my projects/dream and always need those 3-4h of rest in the evening when I watch Netflix with my husband 🤩, workout and/or play PS4 🕹. And as for weekends I work on my projects for couple hours on Saturdays (but not each Saturday) and always leave Sunday fully off to do nothing and let my body and mind rest 🤗.

What works best for you?

Smiley Future

Smiley Future – Step 46

Today’s the last step of our intense (and uneasy!) work on sabotaging thoughts 💪
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➡️Today’s task nr 1: Now appreciate yourself for all the hard work and congratulate yourself on your success 😎. Yes, success because just noticing the sabotaging thoughts is already a big part of the success! 😉
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I realize that working on sabotaging thoughts lasts longer than a week or a month. Those last couple steps were only a stimulus and en encouragement to work! 💪 So remember: everytime you notice a sabotaging thought appreciate yourself with a smile and a good word! 🙏 Same thing when you choose a helpful reaction instead of being tempted! 🤗
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If a sabotaging thought you ‘caught’ wasn’t pleasant, you got tense or upset, after recalling a helpful/supporting thought take couple deep breaths and relax your body 🧘🏼‍♀️
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➡️ And now task nr 2: Create a system of awarding yourself (daily, weekly, monthly) for your hard work on sabotaging thoughts 🏆. You deserve it! 🤗
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Write down some nice, supporting words to yourself appreciating your work 📝
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Next week: How emotions influence your willpower 🤔
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Source: @chodakowskaewa‘s new book “90 days – design your tomorrow”

Self-Love

SELF-LOVE: Coffee Sugar Scrub

Ingredients:
🔸️1 cup Cane or Brown Sugar
🔸️½ cup Ground Coffee
🔸️1 cup Coconut Oil room temperature 🥥
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Instructions:
➡️ Combine cane sugar and coconut oil in small mixing bowl.
➡️ Add ground coffee to mixture. ➡️ Stir well. Add more ground coffee if desired.
➡️ Garnish with a sprinkle of ground coffee.

Enjoy! 🤗

Source: https://www.mommymusings.com

Self-Love

Merry Christmas! Be here & now

There couldn’t be a better day for self-love day than Christmas Eve! 😁 Now you have no excuses but to slow down, to focus on here & now, to be PRESENT 😉🎁
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Which time are you most present in normally? 🤔 Deep into the past, fully soaked into memories, remembering good old days 💭; in the present focusing on present moment and present emotions or in the future 🔜, constantly planning what to do next 📅, creating ‘to do’ lists for upcoming day/week/month? 🤷🏼‍♀️
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If you’re in the past or in the future, do everything you can to change that and to go… BACK TO THE PRESENT! 🔙 You won’t enjoy Christmas or, for that matter, your whole life, if you’re not present here & now! 😉 You won’t be happy and calm if you’re constantly somewhere in the past in your mind or constantly running towards future! 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Notice what’s happening around you NOW ⬇️, what’s the taste of the meal you’re eating, what does it smell like in the room, what do you feel…be here & now! 🤗
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I gotta say that lately I’ve been constantly in the future – planning upcoming posts, upcoming days, weeks…I’ve been deep in December in my mind since the end of October as I’ve been planning and preparing everything for Smiley Advent Calendar 😅 Constantly couple days ahead of myself. STOP! 🛑 This is not how it should look like and I can’t wait for Christmas to stop it all and to just be present 😍. To rest and not plan anything. To concentrate on Xmas meals and their taste, to smell the Xmas tree, to be here & now 🤩
 
Merry Christmas all! 😘 Enjoy this day and as they say „stop and smell the roses”. 🤗

P.s. I made my 1st ever ebook! Here’s a little preview – get the full version here – https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pn_hj9Nuuotts7DVFZfV8j8zGZFgTJYy/view?usp=drivesdk

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SELF-LOVE: Breathing excercises

How’s your self-care time? 👌 Do you put yourself first? 💅 Do you allow yourself to say ‘no’ to others and ‘yes’ to you and your needs? 🤗
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I gotta say that I have finally learned to do that this year 😊 I started planning my days off and by planning I mean writing in my calendar “REST TIME – DO NOT PLAN/DO ANYTHING!” haha 😅.
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But I’ve really started putting myself first too. I don’t feel bad rejecting some other plans if, e.g. a friend calls me on my day off to do something/party and I say “sorry, it’s me-time and I want and need to rest and spend some time by myself” 😉. If you say that to your friend and he/she doesn’t understand it then he/she is not a friend! 😉
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I really cherish me-time and I try to have such a day at least once a month 😊
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How about you? Do you have enough of me-time? Do you spend some time alone just chilling and having some quality time with yourself? 🤩

Scroll down to see an amazing excercise for a self-love time!

🎄Smiley Advent Calendar 🎄
I changed my Instagram Feed into 1 big Advent Calendar! 🤩
There already were 2 surprises including a tutorial for a homemade Xmas gift!

Check it out on my Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/smileysociety/

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Health

5 Possible reasons why you’re feeling tired

Do you feel tired all the time lately? 😴
You lack energy for anything?
It is quite normal in the autumn especially when the days are getting shorter and shorter but you can change it! ☺
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Here are 5 reasons why you may feel tired all the time:
➡️ Bad lifestyle – you don’t eat healthy food 🥦 (if you lack ideas for it check out my Healthy Food stories highlights! I share 1-2 healthy recipes in stories every week 😉), you don’t sleep enough (you should sleep 7-8h every night) 😴
➡️ You don’t drink enough water 💦 – you should drink 2-2,5l of water everyday (not liquids, water!). If you somehow forget to drink (some people do) there are plenty apps for that now that will remind you every hour to drink a glass of water 😅 just have some water nearby – e.g. I always have my Brita bottle (0,7l) standing next to me when I’m working and I’m reaching for it even subconciously now
➡️ You’re not moving 🏃‍♂️– physical activity is VERY important both for your body and for your mind! 🧠 I know it’s not best time now for some outside activity but you can still go for a walk to a forest or even work out inside! 😉 There’s plenty fitness programs online that you can watch and workout in front of TV – I workout with @chodakowskaewa and on my stationary bike 🚴‍♀️
➡️ You’re stressed – I am aware that those are very stressful times but try to stay calm 🧘🏼‍♀️. Stop watching news if that makes you anxious 🤯, take up yoga or meditation, write down your thoughts and questions that bother you or simply call a friend and tell what’s on your mind (you can always DM me! 😘)
➡️ You won’t let yourself relax – remember about rest! No matter how much work you’ve got, always plan some rest time too! I work A LOT both at my full time job and on my private projects but I always plan the work this way so I’d have an evening off to chill with my husband and at least 1 day a week completely off to recharge 🤗
 
Does some of the points above apply to you? Share in the comments!

P.s. BIG NEWS – There will be Smiley Advent Calendar on my Instagram with a special surprise everyday from Dec 1st to 24th!

Advent calendar announcement